Too many friends or not enough?

February 3, 2013 3:53pm CST
I was just thinking, you see these people who have sooo many friends. I'm not just speaking about a few, I mean A LOT. And it got me thinking, are they actually really good friends? Do they really know each other as much as they like to think? Are they actually there for each other in times of need? I mean, I admit that I haven't got loads of friends, probably about 10 or 20 people who I really trust and fewer still who I actually open up to. I think really that it's better to have a few friends who you can actually rely on them being there, and be there for them at the same time, rather than about 100+ 'friends' who are only there when it suits them! Do you believe it's better to have too many or just a little group of friends?
4 responses
chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 Feb 13
Based on experience it is much better to have a set of (small) friends that are there for you when in need. You have a point in here mentioning that people claim to have many friends, they are actually not friends but only acquaintances. I would like to say that if there are secrets and stuffs, the other 50 of their friends do not know what is going on with them. So it is better to stick with a few good friends around you. :D
dankebab
@dankebab (92)
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4 Feb 13
Exactly, as you say, at least then you know about each other and can be there at times of need :)
Raine38
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
4 Feb 13
I always believe that one can never have too many friends. Of course we all have our own defiitions of what a friend is. But at any rate, I would rather have a few, trust-worthy and real ones than having a lot and I can never trust any of them for what's it worth.
dankebab
@dankebab (92)
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4 Feb 13
Yes, if you have a lot of friends and they are all 'true' friends then it is ok. But then again, with too many you could easily lose track of them if you see what I'm saying.
jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
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3 Feb 13
I think that it is better only having a few friends in one way, as long as they are what I call true friends. I like to think that I am there for all of my friends and that they are also there for me when I need them to be.I feel that in the past I learnt the hard way who was really my friend as well as who was there to cause trouble or to stir. I would never be able to keep up with a hundred friends to be honest and I can not see who really could.
dankebab
@dankebab (92)
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3 Feb 13
Yeah, I agree. I've had alot of fallouts in the past with fake friends. I think like you say, it's best to just have a few you can keep up with. I suppose some people just think it's cool to be 'popular'. But they don't really care and karma hits them.
Jenny1015
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Feb 13
In Facebook, I have over 3000 friends. But that is only because I started an online business and I wanted to reach out to a large "audience". But among those number of people, I only got a handful of close friends- and they are my classmates since grade school.
dankebab
@dankebab (92)
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4 Feb 13
Yeah, I don't really judge by Facebook because of reasons like yours. But I see that you've known your true friends for a while, so that's good.