I Stole Her Man

Hi! In my view there is nothing to feel guilty about it. It was your boy friend who kept both of you in dark. If he had severed ties with his ex girl friends then she could not or should not claim any right on him. It would be better to forget about that girl or her relationship with your man as you already have a child. Enjoy your life.

Hey, Cara, you did nothing wrong although it may seem like you stole her man. If a man is not faithful to her then that is not your fault. Besides, you have your son to think about. I think it was best to ignore her. What's done is done and you can't change the fact that you are already pregnant with his child and they have broken up. This is your guy's responsibility and not yours. there is no need for you to feel guilty, especially since you had no idea about his relationship with this woman either. In fact, if i were in your place, I would be mad at him but also relieved that he chose me over the other woman. Don't bother looking back, it won't do you any good. Focus on the now and work on your future.

DON'T feel too bad. You weren't aware he had a relationship with someone else; it's not your fault. If anything, you should feel used by your bf, who went looking for someone who'd be willing to get pregnant for him (in my opinion, one of the causes he strayed from his previous relationship). He's played you, & his ex. Are you sure he's faithful now? I really don't know how you could have avoided this, unless you had the money to hire a private investigator & have him checked out first. (Or trailed him around then when his now-ex started sending you those texts). You could try apologizing to her now that you know what happened. As for him, will you be staying together?

I think you should not blame yourself with that situation. I think you were the victim. I can relate with your story. Me and my boyfriend just celebrated our first anniversary when his ex sent me a message that she and my boyfriend are still on and so I was devastated that time. Of course, I did not believe her instead I confronted my boyfriend and confirmed if that was true. My boyfriend told me , his relationship with his ex was already ended since the day that he met me so I believed him. I just ignored that girl. The girl then stopped her insane business of trying to ruin our relationship. Same with your situation but the difference is you have a baby already. I think you have the right with him more.

This is not your fault. You trusted your man and that is a very noble thing to do. Uuugh, i dont know what to say, your boyfriend sucks. It's weird how he was able to keep it that long though... Uuuuuuugh... I hate your boyfriend.

Please don't feel bad! It is not your fault at all! It is his fault. I don't even know you and I am angry at him. :( What he did was not right. And you have to understand that you did absolutely nothing wrong. I know that it might seem like you broke them up, but that wasn't the case at all. Please please don't feel bad about this, it is in no way your fault!!

I wouldn't feel bad about what happened back then. You couldn't have known. I would however, be less trusting of this guy now. If he cheated on her he can cheat on you too.

You have nothing to feel bad about. You didn't end his relationship...he did. I would be more concerned with the fact that he was not honest with you. I guess he wanted to have his cake and eat it, too.

I would feel a bit guilty. But you shouldn't let that consume you because you believed what he said. He is the one who cheated on that girl. I hope that he has changed his ways and that he will not do the same thing to you or lie to you. Something like that is a big deal and it shows that he started the relationship out lying which a bad way to start any relationship.

You are on the right track but your bf is out of the track. Your bf has betrayed with you. I think, it is better to get married as quickly as possible to hold him tightly. have a very nice day.

Stop feeling horrible you did NOT do anything wrong. Even if you knew he was already involved to someone it was HIS choice. Nobody can break a relationship unless one of the two (in this relationship) wants it. In this case it was your boyfriend. You are not wrong if you believe your bf/partner. He was wrong to lie to you. What he has with his ex is not of your business, but it is if it comes to being honest to your and your child.

You asked him but he swore and deny, it's not your fault totally but you could have at least be fiercer when you recieved calls and messages. Sometimes we really choose to close our eyes about the truth when it;s about the person we love. What has done has been done, all you can do now is to follow what you think is right.

You shouldn't feel bad at all, it's your bf's problem. He cheated on you and thats never cool

Hmmm...it sounds like the ex-girlfriend and people close to her have been an issue. She was not honest with you about the break up and tried to get you to believe your boyfriend was running around with her. Now this friend who is not close to him tells you something. I have a feeling the other people are not telling the truth and your man is telling the truth. It sounds like the ex-girlfriend and the mother's friend want to cause trouble for you and your man. Has your boyfriend backed the friend's story or is he denying it? If so maybe it's time to contact these people and tell them there is only enough room in your relationship for two people, you and him.

So sorry you feel this way and that you were put in such a situation. often times for not wanting to believe that something is true we have been victims ourselves of men who takes advantage of our weaknesses, and that is to love unconditionally. I wonder though that what is going to happen now and what your plan is? You have a son with him... and he too has a girlfriend. does he have a child with her too? What do you intend to do now? remember you had your warning you just chose to ignore it. You could have used your instincts and did not believe in him 100 percent and do some research. But since this is already here and you already have a baby with him... since you feel bad, shouldn't you break it up with him, move on and just ask him to give you monthly for the caring of the child. it is going to be pointless trying to push for your relationship with him to be normal. he cheated on you and his girlfriend. he is more likely to do that again and again if you accept him after knowing he made a fool our ot you twice already.

You didn't do anything wrong. How were you suppose to know about her. Were you friends with the other woman? No? Then why would you answer some texts from a stranger. you planned to have your baby! All of this is on him, Not you. Don't feel guilty. Now the hard part. Are you going to stay with him? do what is good for you and the baby.

How is your current relationship? Do you trust him?

Yes, you were wrong in taking his word. Words are cheap. Women tend to place way WAY WAY too much trust in 'words'. Actions are what matter. This is why marriage is so important. It's not just a bit of paper, it's an action that helps reflect the heart. No, marriage isn't a perfect solution, but then again, the average life span of an unmarried shack up relationship, is 3 years. How odd that your relationship lasted exactly 3 years and now you find out your *BOY* friend has been sleeping around. And the truth is, it's only too late if you choose to remain with this guy. If you choose to remain with your *BOY* friend, then you choose to be hurt again. How scummy to have a guy plan to have a child with a girl, knowing he was taking advantage of another girl at the same time? And obviously he doesn't care about the child having a good role model for a father, nor care about you in the slightest. I promise you right here, right now, that if you stay with this guy, he'll keep finding other girls to screw. Promise.

good you can think normally. You had taken a risk by dating the man which is not " clean" .It is never too late to be better

I completely agree with the first responder here. You did not know therefore your not the home wrecker your man is... And we are supposed to trust our partner, that's what you did. Unfortunately this man should not have been trusted. And I also agree that you should be VERY careful trusting him with your relationship now. He's cheated and lied to your face before. How do you know he's being truthful and faithful now?? I would not stay if I found that out because he could do it again at any time and obviously get away with it since he got away with it already... I'm sorry. I feel bad for you and his ex. No one deserves to be disrespected like that!