Is it advisable to have a friendly relationship with ex?

Hi, this is by far the best comment i should have given you the best comment recognition, sorry my mistake i tend to hurry with my decision. Yes you are absolutely true about one thing, he is playing safe i did realize it and have had my doubts when he first contacted me for a week and his way of portraying himself has changed too. There were numerous reasons for our breakup and yes he did cheat main thing was we had a long distant relationship and that never worked for me. So i should probably hear your advice too. I did make it clear that i didnt want to be back with him and i wanted to be left alone but i couldnt push it after he insisted that we should be friends. I didnt want to seem like a immature person at that time. But i guess he hasnt taken me seriously. Thanks a lot, lots of love and all the best to you too

Haha, what a shame that I didn't make it in time. But that's alright! I appreciate the thought. ^_^ I'm glad that you have realized many things. It's not always easy because we tend to get blinded of these because of our feelings. Take your time though. So he had long distance relationship with someone he cheated with? Does this girl know about the two of you? It's common for ex to play safe. They don't want to lose you completely, so they settle for something less rather. But I say, he should be more honest and brave in facing the truth. It's not attractive for a guy to skirt around an issue. Personally, that kind of behavior turns me off, lol, but that's me. Hmm, I see. Sorry, I missed that part about you not NOT wanting to get back with him. So you were more concerned about your maturity than be with him. I guess that's understandable. But if you are not willing to do something, then you shouldn't. Don't let other people's opinion of you influence you too much. Because then, you might not realize that you are lying to yourself anymore. Thanks! It's a fun discussion!

lol that puts things in place

i think i can be friends with him but i needs some time thing is he is not giving me that time. We both like each other and we both want such person to be in our life. Frankly by the looks of it, he wants me in his life more than i do, because i am all for change but he still insist that i be in touch with him even if i get married and we lead a completely different life. I think it is quiet flattering and everthing and i do appreciate his thoughts but sometimes he brings the past up and wonders LOUDLY that when situation were different we would have been together that really irritates me

Thanks marie, i do believe that friendship is possible but ya i guess i am still hurt over the past. Anyways thanks for letting me know your thoughts on that matter

oooopsss...my mistake... Make it clear to him that you only want him into his life as a friend. It' supposed to be: Make it clear with him that you only want him into your life as a friend and nothing more.

Hi jenny, thanks for your comment, but thing is we have some stupid reason to break up so we both know that as long as we live we are not going to get together that truth is as solid as rock but for the first question, i believe i havent met such a guy yet and i am concentrating on my studies and life so all that can wait and i might say okay if a nice guy shows up. we are clear the thing is he wants to be this close person in my life, imagine a guy comes upto you and ask you about really personal stuff. I cannot tolerate it with anyone and he thinks that being my ex entitles him to poke his nose in my personal space because he has already been there.

Well, if that is the case, then lay out all your cards so he'll know where he should put himself. Coz if you wouldn't tell him exactly how you think and feel, he might think that you are even considering of wanting him back into your life like before.

She needs to move on completely before being friends with him. Since this friendship relationship is hurting her, then I think she should not agree to it. It's not totally friendship because she still has romantic feelings for him. Such a relationship can often make matters worse.

@tuntinnatividad thanks for the comment, i totally agree with you. In fact it is precisely what that has been bothering my mind. times spent between two friends upon recalling can be fun but that is not the same for two lovers. In my case i dont want to forget or regret the past but i cannot stand it being mentioned with a sigh form the very person who decided to call it quits.

@aja Hi, ya you are right about one thing, it does hurt but i dont think i can completely get over it but not its not that much, time is a wonderful medicine that can cure anything. I believe i can be friends with anyone even him but just a little more time is required.

as a matter of fact yes, he is seeing someone new. at least that was the case a few months before i mean i spoke to that girl and was happy and everything was okay. But i do sense the trouble in their relationship i know him very well and i assure you that guy can drive one pretty mad with his silliness and his point of view over things

i agree with your thought, thing is he is proposing to be close, like humm how should i put it. he is wants me to hear all his sob stories and wants me to open up to him as well.

It does not seem like you DO not want to be in a relationship with him given the scenario that you indicated here. i would really think you both haven't moved on but still chooses to "be friends" all for the benefit of it.

It is your own decision whether you want him back or break off with forever. You know better. Besides, you do want to relieve the sad episode. Better luck next time.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOo i dont want to be in a relationship with him, if his wanting to be a friend means that then i should say no. but is it? i mean sure the guy and i had pretty good times in the past and he wants to relive it in a more friendly way that is what i thought it to be? is this a sign that he wants me back. then i think thanks but no thanks i dont want to ride that distressing ride again

Thanks dominique, Yes i believe he and i can be friends but it just doesnt seem to happen in the present maybe in the distant future perhaps. Anyways thanks for the advice

me too, i also think your ex cannot be a bbf

sorry i mean ex cannot be bbf

thanks aries, i am past heartbreak and agony, thing is its uncomfortable, i mean its okay with me if he wants to be my friend but not okay if he wants to be close to me. Like talk about stuff like boyfriends and what we did or might do with our future bf/gf.

you are totally right now this begs the question of how should i again breakup with my ex....

thanks you so much