Of Being a Mother

I Always wanted to be a mother, already at the age of 6-7. Have a lot of children. Now I think it's way more about the way I have been raised, at that time it was normal to have children. Through the years I have been a foster mother for nearly 12 years. But to be honest I can't say being a mother is making my life that great or it's fullfilling me. I miss being me. I can't stand being just a mother, or the wife. As soon as you are mother nobody is seeing the real you anymore. You have to be there day and night and as soon as your children grown up you are dumped. I need more, way more in my life as just being a mother. For me it's not enough. Also being a mother in reality is far of what most of us expect from it. A perfect baby is great but there are so many problems, heart breaking issues you have to deal with. The bullying, the illnesses, no friends, not being excepted, education, lack of future/carreer etc etc. Motherhood is seldom a joy and if I can guarantee you it's for sure not 24/7. You are Always tired, broke. I think what you miss is being you. So please go find yourself. Only if you are happy you can be good to others, including your child, as well. Lately my daughter said: how come you gave up on everything you once liked? I said it's because of them, my children. With children but also with a husband/partner there is no space to be me anymore.

its normal to feel wasted if you have to sacrifice your career to take care of your child but look at it positively,you have the time to shape your child ,spend more time bonding and also try have lots of activities to do otherwise the boredom will drive you nuts,that is what is making you feel so down and low.look for other stay at home mums and spend time together sharing experiences and you will see its not so bad.if its possible to go live with your husband maybe that too will help.

Sad to hear about a mother feeling this about raising her child, but quite common these days. Also i think it s only a lack of imagination that leads to boredom inside a house. Or a total lack of friends :) And to be depressed and bored... If you wanted a carrier maybe you should have thought about it before getting married and having a child. Could you define what "succeed in life" means for you ? Money and a social position ? If this is the case you should feel sorry about yourself for this rather than for what you feel about your motherhood.