I was brave enough to get out of my relationship!

whew.. seriously? you called it "quits" after the vacation.... or you planned to have a vacation and then tell him what was in your head after? No fight? No nothing.. you just realized that that's it? fall out of love?

I'm glad to hear that things are going well for you after your breakup with your long time partner. I have not had the experience but I have thought before that if my husband and I were to ever go our separate ways that I would hope to feel like you do. I wouldn't though want to rush into any relationship. I would use that time for myself. I have already spent a great deal of my life thinking about my man and putting his needs ahead of my own. That time would be just for me alone and it would be awhile before I even thought about being with anyone else.

That's great. I'm glad to hear it worked out so well for you.

I was with my ex for almost three years and we abruptly ended things. I got over it quickly because I realized he wasn't for me, but he is still bitter. I see where you are coming from, though, knowing you don't hate him but just don't care if you see him. Good luck with the new guy, by the way!

Hello La_chique, how are you? I do not think that your decision to end that relationship should be viewed as an act of bravery.., but, instead, the decision occurred purely as a result of using your 'common sense'. Clearly, you had enough time over the years, (including and especially when you were cruising with that gentleman) to critically assess the state of affairs. I am delighted that you took the practical, rational and civil approach to dealing with that problem. Happily, he also agreed to part company under similar terms, and start anew. I have experienced the type of 'peaceful rational you shared with us mylotters breakup before, and I think that this method should be the best way to go. However, life is not like that for many persons, as separation usually comes with anguish.., especially when one has already invested so much (time, resources, emotion) into the relationship. Anyway, having moved on, enjoy your new experience, as everyone deserves to be happy.

It sounds as if you both truly knew the relationship was done, but it took you saying or doing something about it. It can be hard to end a long standing relationship, wanting to stay comfortable with the familiarity of knowing the person you are with. It is good you were honest with him and yourself and knew it was time to move on. It sounds like you are happy with the change, I hope you continue to be happy.

the relationship may have been over a long time and you realized this was the time to move forward. i want to wish you well. you will do good and will be much happier. we often grow and mature with changes. these changes need to be made for our good. the best to you always.

It takes courage to admit it's over but also to end it and leave. Well you did not leave, you stayed where you were, which is easier. I have to admit I did like the (complete) brand new start but never felt the need to start dating again. I was happy to have my freedom again. Nobody to take care about, to think about, to deal with. At the moments I left it was easy (my ex, both of them) had gf's, but for some reason at a certain point they kept bothering me. My ex husband for about 14 years, my ex bf is still trying too (already for 7 years now). So Lucky you.

I'm happy for you that you realised you weren't happy in your relationship. I think it's a shame when people stay together and they're not happy. Life is too short for that, in my opinion. Be careful dating again too soon though. I think being able to accept yourself when you're single can be an important thing for yourself. A lot of people go from one relationship to the next because they don't know how to be just themselves, they have to be themselves 'and someone else' (if that makes sense?). I'm not saying you're doing that, but just be careful I guess. Like I said though, I'm happy for you and I hope you can have a better life now you're not with the wrong person.

You won't regret your choice down the road.