How would you feel if this time there are people who compare you to someone else

hi, i will agree with you that comparing our self is not really good for us because it will start to make us envy to other people,for me i think i would rather use my envious to be more hard working and get what they had in their life even how hard it is.

I know what you mean. Maybe if you would just set a goal like wanting a better life like others, is within normal. But aspiring to have more than what you can actually do and be green in envy, well, that is absolutely bad.

It's when people flaunt what they have and brag about it that I don't like, and then they rub your nose in it. We should spend more time appreciating the things we do have rather than what we don't. When we compare ourselves to others we don't see the full picture, how do we know what's going on inside their head? They may have everything, a car, a home, family, good job, and yet inside they aren't happy at all and may even compare themselves to you.

I never compare myself to others, to be honest I am very happy I am not the same like others plus I don't like what they like. I would for sure not like to have the same car as my neighbour(s). Also I doubt this is a good example in the neighbourhood/city I am living. Nobody cares about that anymore over here. Nobody is jealous about that. we all know what a car will cost, not only buying it bus also the road taxes, insurances etc. I doubt anyone would compare him/herself with me, unless if it comes to all the great ways I know to save money and to do this little bit of extra to make life better. But again I don't think people are jealous if it comes to that.

I agree with what you're saying. I think sometimes comparing ourselves can be a positive thing though, but it all depends on our attitudes. If we compare ourselves to somebody else, and we find that we're not "as good" for example, or just that we'd like to be better, then it could be a very negative thing if your thoughts are "He is much smarter, thinner, richer etc than me, it's not fair, I wish I was like him too... but I'm not and I never will be". If another person compared themselves to somebody and thought "he is much smarter, thinner, richer etc" but thought "That's so great that he's so clever, fit, rich etc, I'm going to work hard and I'm going to become like him!" ... then it's a good thing. Like I said, it all depends on your attitude. It would be lovely if we could be happy with ourselves as we are most of the time though. To be happy with what we have an who we are, that is perhaps the ultimate goal. It's good to have ambitions though and I do think seeing people with what we want can be good motivation, so long as we don't let it lead to jealousy, like you said.