Day care teachers questions me for raising my niece

Maybe she is just a curious person. It's normal for people to have questions, but I understand where people actually asking can be frustrating. What you need to remember is not to compromise making her upset with your own feelings. Why should you feel uncomfortable while she gets nosey? If she asks something that bothers you, a simple "It's personal" or "It's a long story" should do.

I am always on the suspicious side of people asking so many personal questions. I am always on my guard...you just never know these days. Is there any other teacher there when you pick your niece up? Does she talk to any other parent picking up their child? I'd have to wonder...why me? why is she singleing me out to chat with and no other parent? And why is she asking about my mother? Why not me or the child? What does my mothers health have to do with anything? What business is it of hers as to my plans on where I am living? I really don't think any of those things are of any concern to this teacher as her only concern should be the child. When I had my kid in day care...we had to sign a form with the names and phone numbers of the people we would allow to pick up our child. If they still do that, and you are on the list...what business is it of this teacher to question you as to why the child's custodian is allowing you to pick her up? I might be over cautious of things like this, but there is just to much information being "asked" these days...and that info is not necessary for the reason it is being asked. IT is kind of like if you go to a doctor/dentist etc...I fill out the forms and put my phone number on the "home phone" line. I leave the cell phone line blank. I don't want to give them my cell number. They don't need it, they have my home phone. But without fail, they will call me up and ask me if I want to list a cell phone number. I tell them I dont have one...even tho I do. If I had wanted them to have the number...don't they think that I would have filled in the blank? It is none of their business. Plus..you can't be late for work. And her questioning you is making that happen. So I would just say...hello, how are you....and maybe a "how was my Niece today?" and then say, Ok, gotta go, can't be late for work, nice chatting with you" and take your nieces hand and walk to your car. On the other hand...is she trying to pick you up? Maybe she likes you and is trying to get to know about you...maybe she doesn't want to date a guy that is living with his mother. I would just watch what you say to her until you know where she is coming from...or trying to get to. I don't trust people these days to be commonly good like we could back in the day.

the first thing i would ask her is why does she need to know that information. that is what i would ask her the next time she ask a personal question about my family. let her know that you really don't feel comfortable answering those questions. just say it in a nice way without an attitude. you don't owe her anything. goodness only knows why she is being so nosy.

Why? Does she notice anything in the behavior of the child that should make her suspicious? I think you should ask her that question, maybe your niece is having problems adjusting with school. You can reverse the situation and start grilling her instead about how your niece is doing at school. That should give you an idea why this teacher is being such a nosy teacher.

Some people are very suspicious of men who take care of young children, especially girls. Many women have been raised to think that all men are natural predators, and that even the nice ones can just barely contain their urges to molest women and girls. Perhaps she is uncomfortable with the idea of you caring for a girl who is not your daughter, and asks all these questions to make sure your "story" doesn't change from one telling to the next. It is awful that these stereotypes exist. Yes, there are some sick men who do terrible things to children, but they are a very small minority. My husband is a stay at home dad with our daughter while I work (because I make more money) and you should see the way the moms act when he takes her to parent and child programs! The first time, I was with him for most of the classes, and women were keeping their children away from him like he would bite! He was just a nice guy; if a boy or girl said hi he would say hi back, and if a little boy started playing ball with him he would toss the ball back and forth. But all the women would quickly herd their children away! They did not act that way if their children played with other children's moms!

She can ask what she wants but that doesn't mean she has the right to get all the answers she likes to hear. You can refuse to answer or tell her straight it is not of her business. Unless according to her it's of a bad influence on your niece. Which I doubt. One of my elderly daughters take my youngest 2 to school, picks them up at certain days as well. We share the "work" and it's of nobodies business why we do it this way although the teachers/school did ask why also. Don't let yourself be forced into defending why you do it the way you do it.

Is it possible she is interested in you romantically? I cannot think of any reason an employee should be questioning you. Everything they need to know should be in your niece's enrollment forms, including permission for you to pick her up or deliver her.

Noisy person is really annoying actually. Not good for a person to ask such questions like that. When i encountered people like i just reply with the words " Why do you want to know?" why a person is so interested about the family of a person? Is she a spy or something? For me i'll just ignored a person like that, when she get hurt of what i'm doing to her " the ignore" then good, maybe she well realize that what is doing doesn't make any sense.

I suspect that the teacher thinks that all men except the real father are child abusers. That is behind that as well as the state wants to be in charge of raising the children. I used to think you were innocent until proven guilty. I am a bit suspicious about the day care teacher's questions since your mother has custody unless she is quite old and the teacher is wondering what would happen if your mother passed. Then you can assure her that the custody will go to you and she does not need to be that concerned.

Just ask in an appropriate way why she is asking those questions. Your kid might be acting strangely or saying something weird. I know some kids who sometimes tell other people stories about their families/relatives which may sound weird to people who don't know them.

You know how people are, regardless of their profession, could be a bit snoopy sometimes. And I guess, this particular day care teacher is no exception. For a person who doesn't seem when to stop, there's no other way but just tell them straight that you'd rather keep family matters undisclosed than share it with other people.