how will you feel if someone rejected your friend request?
By iluvusabado
@iluvusabado (2560)
Philippines
17 responses
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
6 Feb 13
Yes I will be very hurt, because I just seldom ask for friend request. and I will be very very slighted. But what can I do, I don't accept friend requests of people whom I don't trust too. LOL. so Karma for me maybe. Fortunately no one rejected me yet as far as I know, like what I have said, I seldom ask so I know whom I asked.
@deazil (4730)
• United States
6 Feb 13
Are you on my friends list? I can't remember. Did I send you a FR? Did you send me a FR? Are we friends? Do you know me? I think I remember you. But maybe I'm wrong. Do you remember me? Did I meet you someplace else? Or maybe you weren't there. Where were you anyway?
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
that's really sad. maybe you should invite him again that you were able to talk here.
@else22 (4317)
• India
6 Feb 13
Nothing.I will neither be disappointed nor hurt.After all it is their choice.If they don't want to include me as their friend,they are free to do so.Why should I get hurt?In fact,I like to be my own friend.You may say I am happy with myself.However no body has ever disapproved my friend request till now.Although I have not joined Facebook,but even in Mylot friend requests sent by me has been accepted.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
i have some pending requests here in mylot 3 months as the longest. i wonder why because this person has been commenting on some of the topics and vice versa.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
1 Mar 13
well, thanks for approving my friend request. maybe since you only have mylot, i guess it's fine just approving random friends requests.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
6 Feb 13
nope.they might not know you if you are using a different username other than your real name.i think its much better to send them a message first before you add them.that way they will know that it is you.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
i do this. sending a message first especially if that person doesn't really know me well. so that he could remember how or where we met.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
6 Feb 13
I am not sure if anybody rejected my friend request. Do you know if they did? Are you being notified about it?
Actually, I send friend request but I am only notified if the friendship has been accepted. So I don't know if my request was denied.
But if ever I would know of course I would be sad about it.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
sometimes when i invite people, i really look forward to them approving it especially when i see they're no longer in the pending requests page. if they're not there, it means they rejected it and it's really sad.
@savire (204)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 13
Hi All,
I think there's no reason to reject any appropriate request unless it's a spam request if you know what I mean.
I thought that if someone requesting a friend request like that it's an honor for me because If I do requesting like that means that at least I have followed that person activities so that I understand that the person is interesting and I would love to be their friends.
In case they refused well as always there is nothing to be embarrassed here. But we must also consider that they might haven't in good mood to receipt a friend request.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
1 Mar 13
somtimes it can happen with a mistake, so you can send that request again, if that person again will reject you then, you can say maybe that one did not like to be your friend. try again.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
1 Mar 13
if they really know you and mistakenly deleted your request, they could've invited you themselves or a t least notified you about it. if there's no notice from them, i guess it's intentional.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
well, i'm glad you won't have any hard feelings towards the person who rejected your invitation.
why is you avatar crying?
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
7 Feb 13
If i dont get something saying they accepted my friend request hen i know they didnt and dont want me as a friend. It ysed to hurt my feelings and upset me or make me sad, but not anymore. Iy doesnt anymore because i realized that if they dnt want me as a friend then they are not the person to be friends with and i moveon and try and add others. I shouldnt worry about those that dont want to be my friends because they forsome reason don't like me and if they can just like me how uam then i dont need them as friend.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
i think that you should never look for friends. they will eventually come your way. situations will let you meet each other and form bonds between you.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
9 Feb 13
If that person rejected you there could be a lot of reasons why they didn't want to be friends with you on facebook. If you know them personally then maybe you could ask them if they would be your friend on facebook and ask if they ever seen your request. Because maybe they weren't sure who you were and that is why they rejected your friend request. That is mostly the reason why I deny people's friend request on facebook. It isn't because I don't like them, unless I truly don't like them and then they would know that I didn't like them . But anyways, just cause someone denies your friend request doesn't mean that they don't like you it could be that they just don't remember who you are or they just don't know you. I think it is a very small chance that someone would deny your friend request because they don't like you. I had a friend from work who wouldn't accept any of her friends from work as a friend on facebook, just because she didn't want her business all over the work place. Which is another understandable reason why someone would not accept your friend request. I think if it was because someone didn't like you, then you would probably know and then why would you send them a friend request anyway.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
i guess you're right. your reasons are quite acceptable for me.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
good day iluvusabado,
frankly speaking, somehow i will feel sad if the person that i am inviting as a friend rejected my invitation. however, i won't get upset and would not think of any reason at all. hence, i would not waste any time to think about it. it is his/her decision so i would just give the amount of respect due.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
yes, just respect his decision. just think that it's his loss, not yours.
@kourdapya (924)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
How would I know if my request has been rejected, first and foremost? Because if I make friend request, and it's not yet responded, it says "pending", am I right. But if it's rejected, how would I know? Does it just disappear from my profile? Sorry just confused.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
if it's pending for sometime and you know that the person often posts things, is it not the same thing as rejected?
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
This happened to me before and I was just surprised but I didn't care anyway. Maybe they're just trying to hide who they are in the Facebook world because you know them in the real world. They don't want to get caught pretending to be someone they're not. Anyway I do reject friend requests myself only because I don't know them in person.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
i also approve friends only with people i know. if i invite someone i don't know, at least i would pm him about why i wanted him to be my friend.
@Hopefull90 (921)
• United States
6 Feb 13
I don't really have that many friends on facebook anyway but facebook sent me a notice that 3 of my friend unfriended me. My brother said the same thing. I decided that no one unfriended me. I don't think they should be allowed to say that when it isn't true. I do remember my sister asking that a certain friends post not be posted on her facebook because he post so much stuff that she didn't have time to read it all anyway. I think a remark I made got deleted once. I wonder how one can delete a post they don't like
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
1 Mar 13
i'm not really familiar with functions in facebook so i can't really relate to what you said.
@anujkumarkumar1 (721)
•
8 Feb 13
Hi all,
Firstly nobody would unfriend you. but there may be some reason that somebody is gonna to unfriend you on facebook .
at that time i always feel bad and think that is there anything which i should no do. why he/she rejected me
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
i really get frustrated when this happens especially if i know that we've been really friends for so long.
@hustlephayree (1)
•
6 Feb 13
i honestly would feel like sending another request........maybe just to be clear that they really don't like me at all,(LOL). Otherwise i wouldn't consider it a biggie, just a caution.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
It's their choice if we'll be accepted as their friends or not. Maybe, we'd feel bad about it but if that's what they want, then fine. I guess they don't want to communicate with us. If it will make them happy not to be our friends then fine. Let's not be bothered by those people. Cheers!
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
nice perspective on this thing. cheers also to you. i think you're a good friend.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
17 Mar 13
Hi friend, till today i don't face this kind of rejections either in facebook and mylot. I am a casual person and don't take it serious, if some one rejected my friend request, i don't send a request again and forget about that issue. I don't feel a lot for this silly issue
@Hopefull90 (921)
• United States
2 Mar 13
I was never one to have hard feelings. I have asked people to be on my friends list here but they never accepted me. I just move on and try to find people who will accept. Facebook is a little different. I would not ask anyone to be my friend unless I knew they well. I haven't really asked anyone to be my friend that turned me down.