I miss her but I can't say it...
By lloydbelleza
@lloydbelleza (1227)
Philippines
February 6, 2013 1:31am CST
There are times when I really miss someone but I just can't say it to them.
It's not because I am shy to tell them what I feel, but because I feel like
I burden them if I say so. Especially at this instance when she really is
busy with school, exams, and her part-time job. She needs to do well at both,
school and work, and at the same time she has obligations to her family,
friends and of course God. She really is busy that I don't want to add to her
list of things to do because she already has a lot in her hands. If I only do
what I want, I would say I miss her and ask her if she could give time for me.
But I couldn't do that. I would not want to do that. I will give her her time.
I will just wait for her text, or email. That is already enough I think.
I'll just have to think that I'm doing her a favor, and that she really needs
to focus on more important things. I just really miss her. But I'll just
get over with this feelings. Although, I am sure that this feeling will come back and forth.
I love missing her, though.
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8 responses
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
6 Feb 13
Tell her you miss her! You don't have to wait! And if you keep on waiting, you won't know the answers to your questions. There is never a good outcome in waiting for someone. There is only life to be missed. In my experience, I've already lost time waiting for someone who never noticed me or at least, never noticed the person who i was. Waiting only hurts the one who engages in it, only humiliates the person who puts self-respect aside long enough to say that someone else's happiness is more important than their own. Sure, patience is a virtue and were taught since childhood to learn how to wait but then think of all the wonderful things you could be doing instead of being on stand by and letting your life stop just for one person who doesn't even get the time to send you a message.
All this talk is getting me carried away and i feel the need to tell you something, you might not like it but you have to know, one is never too busy to text or call you if they care for you enough. The leader of the free world has time to tuck his wife in bed at night, but you think the student you care about is too busy to dial your number? Her priorities are different my friend. It will be difficult to fight that.
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@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Actually, I have been waiting for this kind of answer. It's not that I am not optimistic but it helps me weigh things more evenly. So thank you for this. I was also thinking the same thing, but I couldn't assume something like that just because she couldn't respond to my message. The last I received from her was a sorry she couldn't really respond as often as she did before because of those things I mentioned above. Well, yeah, let's see what happens. I think I would know when to stop. But for now, I guess I have to make some moves or I will regret it forever. I don't mind being rejected, although, it would be very painful, but yes, I am ready. I think I am. Maybe.
HAHAHA. Thank you for this very honest response!
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
I don't think so that it will give her a burden if you will send her e-mail.If you are good friends, she will feel the opposite. For sure, she will be very excited to read it and hear news about you. She will be glad to know that you misses her. I think it is a great idea telling her you miss her as I think it will relieve her stress. I say so because that is what I feel whenever a friend send me e-mail in the midst of my busy schedule. I feel happy and I forgot all the stress in my life.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
6 Feb 13
I agree with annierose, you should tell her that you miss her, then she must be happy about it. If she feels happy, it will have good effect on her study and work, when people are happy, they can do things better without difficult. As love gives her force.
@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
I think both of you are right especially if it's coming from a girl. Maybe it's fear that I may bother her rather than make her smile that keeps me from telling her that I miss her. It's complicated when it comes to feelings. I wish I could just say it and not be nervous. I will try.
I will take advantage of the upcoming Valentines day to greet her. Yeah, I am just looking for an excuse to interrupt her busy life. Hahaha. Thanks guys for this!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Sometimes you just need to get out there and say it to them. If you think there is no easy way of doing it, sometimes you just need to do it no matter how hard it is. You'll never know. It might give her motivation to do good with her exams, considering she also has her job. Most of the time, lack of time means nothing if one is really motivated on doing something, and maybe you can give her that amount of motivation. As I've stated, you'll never know.
@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Yeah, I guess so too. Thank you for this encouraging words. I am just too scared. I might ruin what we have way before it even started. But yes, you are right. I have to take a step forward, because unless I do something nothing will unfold. And regret is the best enemy I could ever have now. I guess I'll post something about this after I act on it.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
6 Feb 13
Hey don't get shy be like a Heman go forwards and tell how much you love her. If you remain quite there may be the chance that someone else may say her I love you, then what you will do?
@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Well, yeah. I have to make a move but I won't rush anything.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
6 Feb 13
Sorry but I only read low excuses why she is so busy. Everybody in this life is busy, it is all about priorities and how you "scedule" your life. Sounds to me she is too busy to spend time with people because of.... Or is she according to your opinion and are these all kind of excuses you use not to tell her you miss her? Even when people are busy it's still great to hear people do miss you or you are still in there mind. How much time does one really need to tekst? Or to tekst back? If someone can't find 2 minutes within 24 hours it says enough to me. I also doubt god is taking that much time. God wants people to care about others, if you really think you are a good believer because you pray day and night but don't show love to others or a helping hand or some attention you are wrong.
@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Let's not complicate things here. My point is, I just don't want to demand time from her.
Because basically, I don't have the right to demand her time at the first place.
Yes, if she really is willing, she could really find time and ways to communicate.
But in my part, I'd rather want her resting, and doing other things more important.
Once in a while, I would love to hear from her though, I won't lie. Thank you for this anyway.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Ladies loves to her it from guys that she's being missed, liked or loved.. especially when she likes you too. I don't think that emailing her, sms her would take cut off her time with other things. I do guess she will appreciate it knowing that someone misses her. If I were you, I would often tell it to her.
@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
I don't like to look like to eager. Maybe once in a while, I'd text or email her.
I don't think it's good to keep on texting her while she doesn't reply at all.
I'll see what happens this Valentines day. I hope she responds on my text.
But I am not really expecting.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
You are crazy, man! You should let her know how you feel. Coz if you just keep silent about it, she might think that you don't miss her at all!
Why not send her one simple text message and tell her just how you feel about her.
@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
That's what I am planning to do now. I'll be waiting for Valentines day to have a good excuse.
HAHAHA.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
for me there is no wrong to tell someone and we miss them,and aside from that it could never add to their thinking instead it could lessen their stress because once a person receive words like this will feel happy because there is someone who missing them.