I kinda develop a problem of determining who’s real and who’s fake

Hi, I think this person is frank to express himself (though he takes a little longer time to do that) and is being honest as well as he knows u from 2009. He might be trying to know you better by keeping a safe distance. I really feel you could count on this person. Why not ask him a date again so u can get some more time to read him. Happy valentine month....

only you can tell if he is for real or not.try know him more.know everything about him.wait until he tell you that he wants to introduce you to his parents and relatives.then ask yourself if he is real or not.

Dearest En..reminds me of a song; "slow down, you move too fast,"! All this fret and worry about the direction this might or might not go, I feel is not worth worrying about. Live in the moment, and the future will fall into place! It is not, I think, necessary for you to predict, or try to, where, when, how or why this relationship might/might not work! YOU are still a little raw from your past experience...and for a while, until you have full confidence and have learned to truly love yourself again, and can trust your instincts...Let this river flow it's own way, and don't try to chart it's course! When our emotions are still a bit raw, we overthink things...let it be!

Hi godmom relationships are hard to guarantee as they are mostly by instincts. I have seen people stay together for years (or rather decades) and even they arent certain if the relationship is love. And on the other hand there are a handful who have been together for a very small time (as compared to the decades) but they say they are deeply in love. I think it is always difficult to judge for sure if the other one is seriously involved or not. But let us look into facts here... the guy and you first met in 2009 and despite the facts that you got involved in other relationships, didnt deter this guy. So that definitely gets this guy a +1 from me. But still, this is just one aspect and there are many more areas which need to be read about and discussed before I could say whether he is the one or not!

Give it more time to know him better. It is really hard to tell if you don't have much time together. Don't be in a hurry to judge the person. Haste makes waste. In due time, you'd realize who he really is and what is his real intentions. By the way, how are you feeling towards this guy?

There is nothing wrong with doubting a person. Plus I did not read anything that already shows you two have (started) a (strong) relationship. You did not even start with it. Just one date doesn't mean you have a relationship or he is your bf. I would say: take the time for it and in the meanwhile go on with your life, meet other people, female and male. I do not find it abnormal you did not hear from him for nearly 2 weeks, I assume he did not hear from you either or? I think he has a life (just like you) and you both have things on your mind. Personally I would ignore his "liking me" etc at the start first. Better build some friendship first, have some fun, before you dive into the next relationship. Also keep in mind that people say a lot but what is said has to be proved in deeds as well.

I think you just have to lay back and give it some time. I don't think there is a quick solution on determining who's real and who's fake. I think only time can tell who's genuine. For the 'real' people would always be there even if it takes a while. Don't force it. It'll come to you. Good luck!