does your friend share their problems with you?
By pomwango
@pomwango (1353)
Kenya
February 6, 2013 10:33am CST
i felt so bad today after i learn't my friend's son was suspended from school for two weeks because he broke some school rules.i happened to bump into her other child who told me her mum had gone to take her brother back to school.we have been chatting with her and she did not mention this but if its a achievement she will quickly call to update you,if we are friends i would love to be there for her in good and bad times.whats your view on this issue?
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14 responses
@kourdapya (924)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Don't feel bad about it, maybe she just don't want to bother you. There are people who are like that, even though you are friends, they'd rather handle problems themselves. I'm sure if she needs help she will come to you. Trust your friend and show her that if she needs you, you'll just be there for her. I'm sure she'd appreciate you for being there for her.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Your friend probably sees her son's misdeeds as a reflection on her parenting skills and is ashamed. Since she didn't mention the incident, I'd let it go. Just keep being her friend and demonstrate to her that you can be trusted to always be discrete.
@rahul2u (200)
• India
7 Feb 13
Yes they do. Not all of the friends and all of the problems , some friends will share their problems with me. Even they share their personals also. If they are not sharing with me at that time it self, but at some point of time they will only tell about his own problems. This will reduces their tensions and have a little bit relief form it.
@toxic_lifestyle (1213)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Sometimes. Because there are personal problems of mine that I cannot share with my friends. :)
@teotimoponcerosacena (1551)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Yeah okay but not all issues can be shared with your friends. Keep a little for you to tackle personally for future sake. Always remember there is no permanent relations. Life is keep changing.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
11 Feb 13
Well, sometimes there are things that happen in a persons life where they might feel too proud to want to share it with someone, and get someone else involved. Or they feel too ashamed, and not wanting to bother anyone. If she is a single parent, or there are problems in the home, then she might feel Best to not let anyone in. But personally if there is a way you can help, this is up to you. Just remember to show your acts of concern and be there if she wants to talk, and if not, just wait it out til maybe a more convenient time.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
hello pomwango! :)
well, I think there are people who doesn't like much to let others know their problems cause they don't want them to worry. It also depends on their type of relationships, how close they are to one another. There are people who does share their problems to only few people cause of some reasons.
Or maybe, lack of time, you can consider that. Because of too much problems, they just want to solve it on their own, without telling most of friends.
Just put yourself in their shoes, maybe you'll get to know the feeling.
Just my opinion...
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
6 Feb 13
yeah it's good to have friends that are there for us and vice versa. I hope that you will be able to talk with her soon and she how she is doing. I no longer feel that I have any really close friends that I can share my problems with. I appreciate being able to talk with different ones on mylot. It helps me a great deal.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
6 Feb 13
Hi pomwango
It is good to have friends who shares their problems with us , as we can also share our problems with them when required .But not all will share their problems with every one unless and until they trust you . According to your discussion i feel that your friend is trusting you that is the reason sharing problems with you and i also find that your a good friend , who believes in friendship .
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
6 Feb 13
Some of my friends share their problems with me. Depends on how the relationship is..
@nishant86796 (236)
•
6 Feb 13
Yes, they do but not like that what you called.Though its not of my age group but they do something like that their problems but it comes under their personnel problems.It may suit for you age group but not of mine.I think why your friend din't want to share that problem was because it may have felt a shame for her.
So it happens that your friends don't want to share the feelings with you.It happens with me also and I think that I also would not like to tell my every problem to them.