I want to help my sister, but I just don't know how

The choice to leave him is something she has to come to on her own. Unfortunatly the more you or anyone pushes her to leave him, the more she'll probably push to save the relationship and stop talking to you. As the others have said, the most you can do is listen to her and let her know that you are there for her and her daughter and when she is ready to leave, she has a safe place to go.

maybe you should visit her home and talk with her husband then ask why is it happening.but of course talk to him nicely. im sure you will know the real score after that.

U agree with what everyone has said. You need to get her to see what he is doing is wrong an that she can find a way out and a better life. Also have big guys come bust in and get him. Can you call the police on him for her? Just an idea.

Somehow, soneone needs to get her attention to the probable outcome of all this abuse, and the probable outcome is she may die. Even worse, he may begin to take it out on her child. I would make her understand the danger she and her daughter are in. Point out that there are safe places she can go. Also, remember that the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is leaving it. If he realizes she plans to leave, that means he has lost control of her, and he will do ANYTHING to retain control. She needs to get out. Now. Another option is to save the chold. Call CYS and turn him in. I think if she had to choose between him and her child, the child will win.

Its the very difficult time for anyone, who can only see and listen but cant do anything for betterment. Now a days, though we have strict laws for such types of violent actions, we do not proceed for three reasons. First, we hope, after few months, they will be alright. Second, We are not in a position to involve ourselves in these law related complications. Third, We are not sure of the future life of the person, for whom we fight. Considering all the aspects in social problem, only solution is to threatening only. If someone of your family can at least threaten that man related to law, perhaps he may stop his violent activities. But no one except themselves can put smile on each other. Thank you.

I have been through a similar relationship in the past. It took years for me to finally take the first step and leave, but before that happened I went through total isolation from all of my friends and family. You see, when a person gets stuck in this type of a situation the party doing the demoralizing of the other person will make sure to eliminate all of the people, family, friends, or anything that can get in their way so they can continue to control their life. The controlling person has some sort of deep set emotional problem within their self that makes them do this to their spouse, and most of the time they wont admit that it, or even think they have any issues, and will not even consider getting help. Because of isolation and control being a big part of these types of individuals strategy for control, others intruding and others telling the person that's being abused any information that will give their prey ideas other than what they're trying to make the abused person think gets in their way. So, they will use anything against an outsider's oppinion to their benifit and to get more control. Your best bet would be to be there for your sister, and remind her of this, and offer help and support, but until the person being abused has had enough and leaves on their own it is real hard to figure out what can be done.

hi 34momma first call the police to get the address of a safe house for battered women then get your sister when the batterer is out and her child and get her into the safe house for battered women , they will help her and her child too. She is not safe one minute while with the batterer.If her batterer com es after yo u call the policed and have him prosecuted to the full extent of the laq.

Other than going over there with an army and moving her out? You can let her know you're there for her if she ever does want help.

You should bust in there and take her out of that situation. She obviously feels helpless or she would reach out for help. The guy needs to be talked to and I don't mean an intervention, he needs some big dudes to scare the crap out of him. He obviously has nobody challenging him because he thinks this is a way of life. It will be a tough road but your sister may not make it back from the next beating, she needs you. Forget what that guy says and what she says, he's got her so scared she would justify this type of abuse. I wish you the best.

That is hard, I can understand that. Your sister has to wake up and save herself from such a relationship. She could not go on with that kind of atmosphere. She is going to be unhappy for the rest of her life if she does not realize the situation.

Hi is there a women shelter by you? if you could get over there they rally can help.2 if you can get your sister away from her boy friend she will need a restraining order (spell wrong) to keep him away from her job and your place. 2 if any of the big guy in your family have cops for friend let them go in uncover to see what going on.do not let your sister know they are cops if you have any a s friends.she might tell her boy firend a guy like that needs to be put away for good ok have a good day.

the thing you can do is go and have discussion about all this things. also make your sister confident that you are there in every case. and please try to file a case against such a person and he deserves to be behind the bars.