Just mean or taking it the wrong way?
By ctryhnny
@ctryhnny (3460)
United States
February 7, 2013 5:51am CST
I shared a picture on fb that said "I wish I could give you my pain for just one moment, not to hurt you but to make you understand how much you hurt me". It was aimed at my kids and if they read it they knew I was talking to them. Well, my son has a mother in law who lives in Maine and he has always referred to her (to me anyway)as a hick. She went to her daughters/my sons wedding dressed in a horrid pants suit and didn't even have her hair done. It wasn't because she couldn't afford it because she can very well have afforded to get something nice. I felt bad for my d/i/l because she was embarrassed by her mother who is very good at that! The point of the story is she left a comment under the picture saying how horrible I am wanting to give someone pain! This isn't the first time she's commented negatively on something I've shared. She always tries to make me look/feel bad and all I want to say to her is F off biatch! Now I have to spend my grandsons birthday at her apartment and I'm dreading it! Do you think the saying I shared is really bad? Did she not understand it which I think is the case because she's not that smart! It kills me not to say anything to her because I don't want my son to get in the middle of anything. Would you say something to her or let it go? I always let her comments go and never respond to her.
6 responses
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Just let it go, if you love your son then respect what he love. You are much experienced then you have the most of the patient, play with the tide to please your son.
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@redredrose (1105)
• United States
7 Feb 13
teo if she just lets it go then this woman will never stop being so mean to her and leaving those comments. I know she doesnt want to hurt her son but his mil needs to know how she is hurting his mom.
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
She must talk to his son in the nice way and tell everything what happened. It will be the decision of her son. He must trust his son to settle the issue it is of his concern not of his mother. That's why there is always a divorce as a last remedy
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Not saying anything to her means she willkeep doing to you what she is doing. You couldtell her youdon'tlike her comments but tell her in a nice way. Tell her it also upsets your son when she does this. If she ddoesnt get told then she will keepdoing what she is doing.
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
7 Feb 13
You could also make it so she can't see any of your facebook posts.
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Unfortunately I can't say anything to her. My son knows how she is and honestly so does her daughter. I know she loves her mother but they actually had to throw her mother out of the labor/delivery room when she was having her baby because he mother got nasty with her daughter and my son at a very bad time. HOw do I keep her from seeing my posts on fb?
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Or you can just delete her comment, as if it never appeared at all and change your privacy settings by customizing the'who can see my future posts'.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
oh i think she misunderstood what you meant by this. but i get it, i mean it is not so hard to understand at all if you ask me. you just want to be understood but you never meant to harm someone... if she is like that... and you do not want to be bothered anymore... i think you should just try to ignore her or block her so that she would no longer see updates from your account. =)
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
7 Feb 13
I, myself, would have never put that up on Facebook for everyone to see. Family problems should be discussed in private.... You left it open for anyone to comment on and she sure did, didn't she. Why are you even friends with her if you don't like her? I think maybe you opened up a can of worms. 
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
7 Feb 13
I actually "shared" it from someone else in my family so didn't see anything wrong with it. Yes, I should have known she would dee it. I'm only "friends" with her because she had sent me a friend request back when our kids got married. I think I'm going to delete her from my friends.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
7 Feb 13
I'm unclear as to: a) why you are connected to your son's mother-in-law, since the two of you clearly are not friends. and b) why you don't have your settings adjusted so that your posts are seen by all of your connections except for "certain" ones (meaning: her).
I think that it is unproductive to post such things on Facebook. It would be more productive to talk directly to your children about your issues--privately. While most people slip every now and then with what we post on Facebook, we do need to remember that it is far more productive to take our grievances directly to the person or people involved than to simply take jabs at people via a social networking site.
@sshiva95 (77)
• India
7 Feb 13
There actually is a joke regarding that saying. It goes like this, "Before you judge a person, walk in their shoes, only then will you understand their position or have a new pair"
Remember what Eminem said "Walk my shoes just to see what its like to be me, I'll be you, lets trade shoes, Just to see what it'd be like to feel your pain, you feel mine, Go inside each others' minds, Just to see what we find, Look at sh*t through each others eyes"
So there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR POST B)
