Old Fashioned Or Right?

I think you are being a caring dad. Which is what ALL dad's should be. good on ya

My daughter's 'beau' came to collect her for her 6th form prom wearing an old jacket, jeans and his shirt untucked. I sent him home to get ready! Which he did. Came back in a suit. Glad to say that he's dating someone else's daughter now! We need to insist on some standards. If we don't how will they learn? Gosh but I am sounding like my Dad!

You are not old fashioned, you have every right to make sure the guy who is dating your daughter looks after her, treats her with respect and has manners, they cost nothing, from the way you speak he sounds like a waste of space and I would have my heckles up if that is his attitude. I hope your daughter soon sees through him.

No you are not being old fashioned. Men with no respect have always been around. If a boyfriend would have treated me like that you better believe he would not have been my boyfriend for long. and i believe that i would not let any man treat me with that little respect. you are Right

I salute you as a parent that cares so much to your daughter, some of the parents i know don't even bother to meet the boyfriends of their daughters.for me you are not old fashioned, you are just acting your part as a concern Dad.. And as a boyfriend that young man should respect you for the very reason that you are his girlfriends DAD. He should know that..

you are most correct a man should always be repectful to ones parents and well think with his private parts he has no right to call you dad or by your first name unless you say ok and any time he talk to you it should be MR what ever you last name is

Hi Rob, As a parent who has raised 4 girls, I do not feel that you are being old-fashioned at all. At 19, it is your daughter's choice who she dates and all but I would be questioning these kinds of things also. I would be especially concerned that he does not pick her up or escort her home. IT's all about respect and while your daughter probably doesn't see it this way right now...it's also self-respect. I do recall being a teen and trust me, I dated some real losers that my parent's just could not stand. My girls were no different. I am in the States and I'm sure that our customs our very different than yours but it is your house and your rules. Until she is on her own, you can set any rules you want and be within your rights. One thing I would really, really enforce would be that he at least make sure my daughter made it to the door safely. I would NOT be ok with my girl at any age walking home alone. If he cares about her, then he should not be ok with it either. Anything could happen. If they are on foot, a decent man would pick her up as well. I would also make sure that she informed you of what time she was coming back in. In this case it is not only respect but a safety issue.

No I don't think that you are being too old fashioned but I do think that you need to at least give your daughter's boyfriends a chance when you think that they may actually be worth your daughter's time and love. I do support you though entirely on questioning young men because there are a lot of guys out there that are just trying to get in a woman's pants and don't really have any real plans of staying with them or truly care about there feelings. I know that once I become a dad I will be doing the same thing as you, trying to protect my daughter from getting hurt by some jerk. At least I'll know what to look out for when I'm a dad because I see the characteristics that stupid frat style guys have and their attitudes just show how unworthy they are of the beauty of nice girls. Hopefully your daughter can find an incredible man that will take care of her and help her to reach her goals and dreams.

Of you aren't asking to much when it comes to little girl. You should also not feel bad about laying down the rule when it comes for him to have respect for your daughter and for you. If he can't do it right tell him he is no longer welcome in your home or allowed to go out with your daughter.

When I dated my wife, she specifically asked me to call her dad to ask for permission to date his daughter. Frankly, the relationship between the father and daughter will come a long way. Have you spoken to your daughter to speak your mind? Tell her frankly yet lovingly how you read the situation. Seek her understanding because she knows you are speaking in love. If she calls you old-fashion, maybe in due time, when she becomes a mother, she will look back and know how much you cared when you opened up to her. I hope all turn out for you...and your daughter. And if she doesn't relent, I wish you the very best with your (future) son-in-law. Pray that he will change to be a gentleman. Cheers!

Daughters or teenagers in general wouldn't understand a parent's point of view. They'll only realize that they weren't treated properly after they've gone through several bad relationships. What you are doing as a father is just right. maybe just give a little more explanation because they do get it once they hear the cold truth about relationships like that. Explain why a guy should show respect to the girl's family.

hmmmm...( this is as if we are close friends.... ) was there a little tear when you saw your daughter's bf? just wondering... most dads do... seeing their little girl now a grown up lady... No you are just right, i think most fathers could ask and wonder same questions like you do. it is just normal... specially if the boy is quite odd.

I don't think that if there is something old fashioning in it. It's just your care about your daughter and it's very normal. Don't disappoint yourself.

well it is not old fashion that you talk about.... it is right... the respect that you want and yonger one that should acccept... these days it is a common problems with many families that they have complain about their child, we are pattern of our children... with our love and patient all will be well... we guide our children but not to force them... we teach them every good and bad but finally choice belong to enybody....

In my opinion respect never goes out of style. He should respect you and he should respect your daughter. "Sir" would be a nice name to call you.

It's not old fashioned to expect anyone to treat your daughter with respect, and I think he should be quite thankful he's allowed in your home after calling you anything BUT Mr Speakman on first meeting.

He sounds just how you describe him. Of courdse he should pick her up and bring her home-especially with all the rapes/murders/muggings that are going on. You may be called old fashioned by some but in my opinion you are a caring Dad. She deserves better doesn't she? Tell her that.

Perhaps he's scared of you so he can't be ar*sed. Just sayin'.

You are not doing anything that any other normal concerned father would do. I see nothing wrong with you are doing. Ask all the questions anytime. But at the same token, listen to your daughter. Remember, one day she is going to marry someone. Maybe not this guy, but someone for sure. She is the one that ultimately needs to be happy. We are here to guide and protect out children. But we can only do so much. As long as we keep our eyes open and our ears open, we should be good to go. And, if your daughter is a good kid, then I am sure, no matter what, if she ever got into trouble with this guy, she would call you and ask for help.

Of course you arent asking to much. But if he doesnt do these things.. why doesnt your daughter step in and ask him to. SHe knows dad best and knows what you expect.And if she has asked him to be respectful, and he isnt. Hit the road Jack and dont come back for my girl again.