Your co-workers vs your job

I have heard so many things happening in workplaces such as this. I sure hope it does not happen to me. I think though that this is on a case to case basis and depends on your luck, really. I have been through 4 companies, and all of them i would say that i have not had such a problem where i would be really so stressed because i work directly with officemates who would be talking behind my bad, or that it would drive me to just resigning even if it promises me the best job i could ever have. I stayed 5 years before in my first job and i feel everyone there were close friends, even so in my second job i had no problems with the people i directly work with. the only problem i had was with my boss on my third job which i found to be really hard to work with and was so demanding, so i had to just find another job - i am glad i did because i am so in love with the kind of job i have right now. in case it happens that i would have the same experience as you, i would say that i might as well just resign at the job, because the last thing i would take is to travel to work, stay in therei 9 hours at a minimum with an uneasy feeling.

Well nothing's perfect. We may get that seemingly perfect job but we won't be able to pick who our coworkers are. I found the perfect job and the perfect boss im 2007. I worked for almost 5 years before quitting. The demands were becoming stressful aggravated by some I couldn't stand working with anymore.

I have been in that situation in the past. I had found a job in a home for a adults with special needs. I had to learn a lot of new things, but I found the job interesting and rewarding. I liked the job, but unfortunately my co-workers became a problem. Most of them had been there for 20 or 25 years and they weren't happy to see a new person in their team. It was hard to be a new member of the team because they all knew eachother so well and they were reluctant to let new people in. They often talked about me behind my back, and they discussed the things that I did in a different way and critized for me for the mistakes that I made. They didn't tell me directly that they thought I had made a mistakes, they just talked about it behind my back, and I only found out because one of my co-workers told me the things that had been said about me. I stayed there while I was lookiing for another job and as soon as I had found another job I left. I never regret that decision, it was a big relief to get away from that place.

Hi the number one thing is how do you and your boss get along? all so read all the rules in your job hand book all jobs have them.today most are on line.so if some one say this wrong show them what the book says.if your job has a open door ployicy after you read the book talk to your boss of the probelm. and some state have laws do you feel like you are getting harrased if you feel that way report them to your boss.ok have good day.

Yes I was but I showed them how strong I am and fought what is right and acceptable treatment. I respect them for being senior in the company but when they cross the line, that's when they hear from me. I don't fight back like a cat with clutching claws or like someone with a big mouth, I usually look them in the eye and insult them for how rude and immature they are acting despite their age. I hope you can stand up for yourself, I really don't like people being bullied and if only I'm working with you maybe I'd be defending you against these kind of people.

I can understand your feelings and what you are going through my friend.I faced the same situation 8 years ago.I got the best job and a pay better than average and it was my first job.I was so excited and believe i hoped to have a great career in that organisation.Unfortunately,my coworkers were the worst of the kind.There was politics,conspiracy,hatred and all the worse things.There was less respect in every sense.I never felt i belonged there.But then i had my personal obligations and things like that.I focused on mastering my trade.When the things looked good and improved in my skills, i just ended the relationship with the people and organisation.I have never kept in touch with any one of them for past 5 years and i am glad i did that.My advice to you would be master the trade.But if it comes to a point you cannot suffer more, look forward to another environment.It all comes down to your efforts,targets and the time.If you combine things well,you would achieve what you aimed for.Wish you all the very best.Thanks!

I understand what you mean. Believe me it happens more often than you think and it happens with a lot of people and it is not just you. The trick is to concentrate on the work and continue to work harder till you get that golden moment when you can show something concrete from your side which will slowly start to stop the tongues from wagging. I know it is easier said than done, but if it is a dream job, you can do that easily. Of course, if you are also not satisfied with the job, then it becomes that much more tougher to steel yourself for this kind of a situation. Cheers! Ram

Yes, at this I am in such kind of situation, however, my career demands me to move on to a next job and hopefully, very soon I'll be out of this kind of environment.

i like my co workers and then only you will find the job more interesting and challenging to work for all the time

I had encountered a similar situation as yours but the one who treated me badly was my immediate supervisor. We are in the government service. We didn't go along well in the first 8 years that we've been together in the office. I was just patient. She used to reprimand me whenever she thought that I've done wrong. Worst, she shouted at me in front of other employees. Sometimes, I cried in front of her but I just kept silent. I surrendered everything to God. However, I was thinking of resigning but my friends said that she is not the one hiring me, I am hired by the government. Besides, I don't have other sources of income. There were some who advised me to file a complaint against her but I just didn't do it. Now, she became good to me. We still didn't go along well but at least no more bad moments with her. She realized that I am of great help to her specially in the office. I thank God for this.

of course the cruelest people is always will be found by us in our life. i work in the place which is so many people i don't like. i hope you find your good way in your life and your career grow up

no choice but i needed the job yes that lasted for years i became like a robot time in.... work..... smile.... laugh.... ( not true smile and laugh just to be civil with them ) ........ go home a minute after the work every day. every day. till i finally i found a new job i smile a lot authentic now am just counting days anyway wheeeeee. until i resigned so relieved now i am happier

once I got a perfect job and from the starting I recieved alot of appreciate from my Boss... My boss's niece was in my group and daily was making me in trouble. while my boss choose me as a supervisor he used to repeat that say to my uncle to choose me as a supervisor and you leave this job.. He personaly that much disturbed me that once I went to my Boss and I said I am not perfect to be in this job and your niece can be a great supervisor.... He just was like Hmmmmmmmm... and he ignored my request... his niece made me in a big trouble and was making lots of lie complain against me to boss, finally my boss asked me to leave that job and gave the post to his niece and he even eat remain of my 2-3 months salary which later I could know they have given to that niece of my boss....... I still hurt when i remember that unfair matter because of one jealouse in group..

Know the feeling. I started a job I just loved 14 years ago as an educator for the civil service. I stayed after being pushed aside, blamed, put down, ignored, shunned, made to feel inadequate and just feeling not part of the group anymore. After the last 6 years with people who did not want me around, I finally gave in and resigned. I started my own business and although times are tough I feel much better doing something else. It's hard not feeling wanted and there is a time that resignation is not just an option, it's needed for self preservation.

I believe that there is no such thing as the perfect workplace, or a perfectly conducive environment for working. There will always be factors that will make a good deal not that really good at all. And everywhere you go, there will always be people who will delight in making you feel bad. Just because they are plain mean, or it makes them feel better about themselves. But I like your attitude that you let nothing or nobody get in the way of doing your job.