How to find real joy in life

Well, from my point of view, the joy and happiness, all of us do not live the same way. Or rather, we are not all equal. There are people who are happy, content with little. Other people who have "everything", continue to live in misery, going to look just that object of desire that maybe does not exist! According to me the joy and happiness, are present in us, when we pass the periods in our lives that we are a bit out of trouble.

I completely agree with you. Joy is a part of us. Even though outer things can affect us we can still have joy in our life. It is important for us to remember that a lot of how we feel depends on our own attitude. We can choose to be negative or positive. We have to be mindful of the choice we make.

My therapist and I had to start from the basics, because I find Joy and Happiness alien to me, I stopped believing that I deserved happiness and joy, because of the abusive relationships, hey I didn't even feel I had any self worth, any chance of happiness or joy that came my way I would deliberately sabotage, because my core belief told me that I didn't deserve it. I had to write down everything that made me happy, the little things that brought me joy, I managed to list 25 things that bring me joy, my therapist tells me to use this as part of my first aid box, something to refer to when I am in a bad place. It's amazing when you sit and think about it deeply even the small things like hearing the birds sing can bring joy, it doesn't have to be great things, events or people that bring us happiness we need, just appreciating what we have around us, what mother nature has given us, and yet most of us take for granted.

Hi Pose: Unfortunately I think we put our own limitations when joy is really inside of us. Some people are really professionals always finding something why they are unhappy when the reason is not outside. You know them because they will always see the negative side of every situation. There's a joke about it that basically says that they will always complain because the weather is too warm or too cold and things go on. It's hard to smile when you feel hopeless but this little step can change the atmosphere and encourage us to improve our lives and thus find the joy n life. ALVARO

Joy, depends on the meaning of joy to a person. a joy to you may not be a joy to me. Hurting people can be a joy to others, but do you find it joyful? Yes, it is inner it is more on personal level of happiness. I agree with your thoughts.

well when i need to find inner peace i tend to go to a park or to places i can see water falls this helps me out when i have not the right balance in my live

Nobody has the power to makes us happy since happiness comes within ourselves and usually anxiety and fears keep us from obtaining the happiness that we all deserve from the Universe. This is why I love the Joy to the World song.

I also agree with this...and I think having joy or even a good day is a conscience decision we make everyday when we wake up....if you decide to wallow in troubles it seems like not only does it wreck your day...but leads to depression...having a joyful heart! That is the true reason get up in the morning!

Your point of view is everything, the more you pay attention and look for the positive the more you will attract this. If you are always looking for the down side, what you attract is fear, hate and what is called bad luck. It's for you to choose, but first you must be aware that like things attract energy, good or bad.

We do need something tangible to feel happy and there are umpteen things around us that make that happen. It is left to us to feel those things. I have no dearth of them in my life. Even if my pet eats well I feel happy, the first bud that appears on the new plant, the maids, when they come regularly, something that I cook turns out perfect, even when I think of a topic to post here. If I were put down all the things I would be spending the whole day........ Having said this the catalyst that generates this happiness is our inner self. If there is restlessness within us no amount of goodness around us will make us happy.

Hello there ! Joy may differ from each and everyone. Some with small things they are already overjoyed , some with a complete peaceful family , joy can be seen in each family members , some with good career is enough to make them happy , some luxury cars completes their life and more than enough to make them happy.It really varies to every individual . What maybe joyful to us may not be to the others. So we can't really judge ,force or demand for a person to be joyful because it is only here heart that tells the real score of her emotion.

fun or not the world depends how we responds yhe world. our view of world can determine whether or not the world is fun. So to find real joy in life. make our mind happy.

I always believed in the single pursuit of happiness as one of the better goals of life. Now I'm not so sure. I read an article recently (it was talking about Holocaust survivors I think) and it said that there was a distinction between feeling happy and having a life of meaning. Happiness is something you derive when you TAKE from others; be it something material, or maybe receiving favours from other people. Meaning is when you do something FOR other people in spite of yourself; investing in a higher cause (helping the poor) or investing in another person (like a loved one) rather than focussing on your own joy. A life like that will be meaningful and well-lived but not necessarily happy; whereas the single-minded pursuit of happiness can on the other hand be empty and superficial - where's the meaning in continually demanding things off people just to serve your own happiness? For me what gives me the most meaning and power is knowing that I have the ability to make people feel happy and better about themselves. It cheers me to no end to know that I am the reason for the happiness of other people. It is the giving of happiness, rather than the receiving, which I think is the most important of all.