People who don't work don't understand

Well, I am also a person who does not work. But the reason is that I can not find a job. In Italy, where I live, there is not work. We are a country In economical and employment crisis. However, if to me were offered the chance to work, I will accept it immediately!

Maybe you should tell her straight forward that you were actually tired from 12 hours of work, and you rather be home to get some rest than going out to the bar having a drink which you might not have enough money for it. So, who is that lady who bugging you all the time anyway. Some girlfriend of yours?

Well that is true. i understand your sentiments here. =) i have friends who are like these too and as if i do not have other things to do, they would always try to get into my nerves saying it is unwinding when you go out.. but to me, noooo i want to be resting at home. no noise, no drinks, just me and my bed.

Well hopefully she got the hint that you didn't want to go out because you just came home from work. I'm one of those people too that after a hard day of work I usually don't want to go out either. Sometimes I drag myself to go out though especially if it's with my boyfriend or something. There's always next weekend as well.

I agree...but it is not only about working 12 hours...it also has something to do with other factors. For example, I might not have worked the whole of yesterday, but there might have been a logical reason for it.. like suffering with a bad backache? And not having slept well? So people need to have consideration for others before asking them to move out..only when there is mutual consent...and no hesitation to say no due to any reasons such as she will feel bad, or she is in foul mood, or I owe her, etc., that we can enjoy a good relationship.

I agree with you people who not working won't understand. I have several experiences on this. I am a working mom and my high school classmates who are out of our country contacted me to gather our other classmates when they come home so that we can have a sort of a reunion. Some of them don't have regular jobs however, it is always me who facilitate our gatherings. I requested some of them to gather and assign only a few per person but some could not do it. They will always tell me to contact our other classmates but I vehemently told them that I have work and I am only available during weekends. They really won't understand.

I'm happy to say I'm not like that. I was always understanding, even when I didn't have a "paying" job (oh, I had a job alright...I was a stay at home mom, but that's for a different discussion). Anyway, when my husband worked I didn't pester him about going out. I knew he was tired and did my best to let him sleep. He didn't usually get enough sleep during the week though (and with a severely autistic kid it made it even more difficult ), so I'd do my best to let him sleep in on the weekends (or any other time he had off). I did what I had to do as a wife and mother...even if that meant getting our oldest out of the house in the middle of the night, just so my husband could get some sleep. You're right though, not everyone is understanding about it. As it is we have a long time friend and neighbor who isn't understanding about it at all. Okay, so he's a little "slow", but he was employed for a good 30 years, so you think he'd be one to understand. However, maybe his job wasn't physically draining and that's why he doesn't understand. Who knows? All I know is he doesn't seem to get how tired my husband or I are. He wants to be able to hang out with my husband if I get a day off, but I need my husband here so he can help watch the kids. Plus, he's my husband. I want to be able to spend time my off time with him.

You can just say no because you have work and tell them myabe in other times if you feel to go out. There are people who are incensitive and just like to spend much of their time going out because they don't know how hard to earn a living.

Why don't you just say you're tired because you worked all day...good enough reason for me. And if you're broke, that's another good enough reason. Just tell them no and stick with it.

I think there are some who do not understand, or that may sort of but do not understand to the extent of how tired one is. Right now, I stay at home with my son while my husband works, though it was not always the case. I remember how it felt getting off of a long shift and just wanting to veg out on the couch before we had to go to bed and do it all over again. I suppose that is how I cannot even bring myself to suggest doing things after he gets off of work, and feel guilty making massive plans for days off.

No I agree. At first I could never understand why on my husband's off days all he wanted to do was sleep until late in the afternoon and then not want to go out at all. I used to have a job that I worked in the afternoon and so it was possible of staying up late and sleeping in and then I'd be all rested on my off days. But now that I work a job that requires me to work early in the morning now I know why my husband wants to sleep all day on his off days. I'm the same way now and even when I get off from work most of the time I don't want to go out and I just want to stay home and have a nap. You should just be honest with her and let her know you can't go out. That you're tired and you just want to go home and relax and that plus you don't have any money. I'm sure she would understand.

That person must be rich to be able to go out even without work. When you have work in the day, it would be too tiresome to be out at night. You just want to rest and sleep. You can be honest with her I think.

I understand that work isn't esay especially the work load is quite big,life isn't esay since we have to make a living and i don't want to do anything after a whole day's work.So balance your life and try to find time for you hobby,good for you,friend.

I understand that you must be tired but people without work have so much time and energy because they aren't doing anything, they're so lucky though, where do they get that endless supply of stash that allows them to still go out to the bar even if they are unemployed.

It's frustrating, isn't it? I have friends who don't work (they have kids, which are plenty of work, but their schedules are more open than mine for sure). It's difficult because it's like we live in different worlds and sometimes I think they think I am ignoring them.

Hey Ricki. Yes it's hard for people who never worked to imagine how people who do or did feel like. It's not easy working especially if you don't enjoy what you are doing of course. As for her, you should suggest to her to do some volunteering work to see how it is to work all day and how she feels at night with no money, no mood and no energy left. Just a suggestion, right ? Hey take care now and maybe you try this, All the best, Alex.

Some just think that it is okay to o out just any day of the week and not feel bad the next morning going off to work or even think of spending those unnecessary expenses on drinks.

working or not, that person should understand you are tired. And next time just say it that ur tired from work, maybe if she'd work like you, she'd understand. Maybe then she'll bug you less for drinks when u come home all tired. :)

You know, it's easier to say something like....no. I'm tired, I'm broke, I have no money, dude. Something like that.

HAhah girls cnt be understand sometimes. Moreover, we tend to get what we want very soon. However, you also needs to tell us and relate that you are tired, that you want some rest. I guess she can understand that.