Reasons to dump your partner... #4 "B WORD"

@Renhard (3471)
Jamaica
February 10, 2013 6:59am CST
B WORD Now I think this one goes more for women who should dump their male partners. I will say this as simple as possible. To me it is utter disrespect for a guy to called his partner a (the word for female dog). I know there is sometimes an argument and in the heat of a dispute things like that might escape out of the man's mouth, but no matter, I don't agree with it. To me, the earlier he might use this word, the earlier you know you must leave him, in my opinion. I know some females put love so far that they might want to give another chance to the guy, I can't change that about you and I am not willing to. Okay so you do give him another chance, but if it still persists, if he still use the word in any way to describe you, leave. *Sorry I took so long to create a new discussion, I was feeling ill*
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@allknowing (137552)
• India
10 Feb 13
Leave before a commitment is made! If you think that it is that easy to leave just because........after a commitment is made think again.
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@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
10 Feb 13
I see you have a new profile pic, are you telling me love is that strong. I need to really experience it now.
@allknowing (137552)
• India
10 Feb 13
So the poor girl files for divorce the judge asks whether he loves her, whether he cares for her, whether he cares for her children, whether they go on holidays together, whether he spends time with her .......and to all this the girl says yes but when asked why does she want to leave him. She will say he calls me b....sometimes. Sound ridiculous. Right?
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@allknowing (137552)
• India
10 Feb 13
It is the Valentine's season. Have you forgotten?
@ElicBxn (63638)
• United States
10 Feb 13
I've been called many things, but since I've never had a partner in that sense, I guess I don't really know. But, I totally agree, if I did and he did, I'd be throwing his clothes out on the lawn.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
10 Feb 13
Would you actually throw his clothes out? . He would be so upset to see them out there.
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• Penrith, Australia
10 Feb 13
Throw out his clothes: you get him pissed. Sell all of his clothes: you get him pissed only you get a few more dollars for it.
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@ElicBxn (63638)
• United States
10 Feb 13
Change the locks and call the cops if he gets abusive... I OWN my house!
@urbandekay (18278)
11 Feb 13
And what unpleasant words do you consider justify a man dumping a woman? all the best, urban
@urbandekay (18278)
13 Feb 13
You are so sure that you do not hurt men with your words? If you cut me do I not bleed? Men are also human and your attitude is grossly sexist and unjust, if you apply one rule for yourself and another for someone else then, by definition, are you not unjust and narcissistic? all the best, urban
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
12 Feb 13
You know to tell the honest truth, I never really thought about it. I mean words hardly have any effect on men. I think some unpleasant words maybe dog, or wh0re or maybe some higher vocabulary like unscrupulous but even after all that, the words still don't have much effect. I don't know why.
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Feb 13
Just one more reason to get to know your significant other before committing to being in a relationsip with them. Being disrespectful is something that is inate in a person's personality and would show up rather quickly. I would never put up with a man disrespecting me and calling me this name.
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Feb 13
That really doesn't sound reasonable. If he has just started and hadn't before then I would wonder what is going on with him now psychologically. And only in the big arguments doesn't mean anything. He is still being disrespectful. Usually this is just how a person is but if it is just starting then I would be looking to psychological and emotional health issues.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
11 Feb 13
But what if only used it in the heat of an argument, and sometimes at that. What if he never used it before committing and couple YEARS after your marriage then he started to use the word, but only in really big arguments. Would you leave him?
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• Penrith, Australia
11 Feb 13
I have a feeling that everything can be a ground for breaking up. I think if you don't like something then you'd have to leave, but then People have different gauges on telling what is okay for them and what is not, so if something he does hurts you and he isn't willing to change and you cannot see the change in him, its time to pack your bags (or his bags if you own the place) and get out of the relationship.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
11 Feb 13
Can't say I'd dump anyone for calling me that, but they'd sure have a miserable life for a while. I have a very bad experience when it comes to that word and hearing it used against me especially by a male.. I also hate that word because its used to make women seem inferior.
• United States
11 Feb 13
and should add feel less than human.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
12 Feb 13
Cupkitties what about if it is frequently used. Would you dump him then? Nurse that is so true
• Penrith, Australia
11 Feb 13
It is usually used by an angry person when they can't find the words to say in order to win the argument. They attack the personality of the other person, it is wrong but it is usually effective.
@robspeakman (1700)
10 Feb 13
RUBBISH!!!!!! Bloody Women - My understanding that Women have claimed this word back and used it to empower themselves... Empower? - what a stupid word, A buzzword for the 21st century. I know many Women that bathe in the fact that they are a B|TCH and that they are a BIG MEAN NASTY B|TCH It is used by men to mean that the woman is a female dog - It is used to describe a character trait. I have met many B|tches. I know of no man that weeps or posts if they are called or termed a B*STARD - That is not very nice either, is it girls? Now if a woman is going to leave a man because the man calls her a B|TCH, Then I would suggest that the man has had a lucky escape.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
11 Feb 13
Okay i see your view point and to be honest. I have met a few females that are proud of the name. Met others that wished they were a B**ch and they try their best to reach that state. I guess not everyone sees the word the same way.
10 Feb 13
Correction... It is NOT used to mean female dog
11 Feb 13
I am all for equality and I do not believe that I am better than anybody because of my gender or colour.... However there is no denying that it is a MAN'S WORLD. If a woman wants to be succesful or even just match a male co-worker, then she has to harness her inner B|tch
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
10 Feb 13
My husband has called me that before in the heat of an argument, in out 27 years together though he has only said maybe 2 times. I don't know if it is really a reason to dump someone. I have called him equally bad names out of anger. But I think you really need to look at the relationship as a whole. We don't always fight in fact we rarely fight. We bicker more that we argue but that does not really affect either one of us. If we argued often and he called me a name like that on a regular basis or treated me badly in general then I would leave him. But I am not going to dump him because he calls me a bad name out of anger, as I am equally as guilty of calling him a bad name if I am really angry. As long as we calm down and talk about it and apologize to one another that is what I think is important.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
10 Feb 13
I love your view point, absolutely. I guess when I was thinking about the word, I was more focusing on a man calling his girl that on a regular basis. I really see what you are saying though and it make absolute sense.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
14 Mar 13
I have never been called the "B" word by my guy . I also dont think anyone ever call me that at least not in front of me . i would not mind if random people call me that lol as long as its not my partner it would not be acceptable
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
10 Feb 13
Well I'm glad my hubby does not call me that at all, even in the heat of an argument. The first time he calls you this you know it will be all the time. Unles you demand that you will not accept being called that. A person can't change who they are when it comes to their personality. I can definitely see a female putting up with it if they have no other place to go or he is their sugar daddy. There are women willing to put up with alot because they are being taken care of. They have no self-respect or self esteem. These types of females I feel so sorry for. I wonder what happened to them in their upbringing to cause them to accept such behavior for themselves. Then again, you have females who will give it right back to the man with out a problem. They stand up to the man and either they fight and talk to each other this way or they realize its not working to be like this to each other. So then they either decide to be nice or to break up.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
11 Feb 13
That is so true. Relating to why some females might just stay is because through out all of their lives some goals were to marry the richest man alive. You know they sit around and the man works, carry in the bagss load of money and they enjoy life. When they reach adult hood, they realize that there are lucky to even find a rich man that wants them so now, any man with money blows their mind. Some just cant take their eyes off the money
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
In every relationship, both should have respect for each other. If there is no respect, love will surely fade away.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
11 Feb 13
I have heard sometimes love is so blind that it might ignore stuff such as respect etc for centuries. What about those people that hard to see because they are in love. you know what I mean. Will their love fade because of no respect?
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
i always heard that word in movies of couples story or woman movies,and if i will hear that word come out from the mouth of my partner of course i will surely hate and fight with him,because he don't have the right to call me like that,never ever.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
10 Feb 13
I would dump anyone (partner or friend or family) if they are not able to show respect, can't speak in a proper way and the only thing they can do is scold.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
10 Feb 13
I see you really focus on respect. Thinking about it nobody at all with a good relationship, whether friend or family should be disrespectful. How though would you go at dumping a family member?