No wonder I use to spend so much on medication
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
February 10, 2013 10:13am CST
When I was in college or working midnights, I use to be on other medication. A few times they would go missing, I would think I forgot them down at school (I use to come home for the weekends).
At the time I had a drug plan, or half the bottles would go missing. I use to be so tired from working nights, that I would never really think about it.
Well here I was cleaning things out, and upstairs cupboard had bags of my medication, can you guess who took them?.
I then started fuming seeing as I use to think maybe I left them at school, ran out, or forgot them at work and someone threw them out.
My Mother use to take them and hide them. Claiming they would be in my room, on the floor (at the time I didnt have animals), and they were always on either my night table or my cupboard.
I really don't understand her thinking of anything, I can't wait to get out of here, so I can actually buy things, and know they wont go missing. She then goes you don't need them (yet I paid for them), and at the time I took them when I needed them (which was every so many weeks) and I was under a specialists order.
I seriously think she has some big mental issues going on, the more she talks, and does things.
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@FrugalMommy (1438)
• United States
10 Feb 13
She was taking your prescriptions from your room? What on Earth was she thinking? You don't mess with somebody's medications like that!
I think you're right about her having mental issues... I'd understand her taking your medications better if she was doing it to use them herself. But she did it just to hide them from you? That makes no sense at all! And that on top of everything else...
Hope you're able to get out of there and into your own place soon.
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@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
10 Feb 13
I agree with her, I hope you're able to get out of there soon. That's just so sick, I mean it's bad enough that you're sick and has to be on medications, but to be denied of it not because you are not responsible enough to get them, but someone intentionally took them away for some insane reason?? I just feel sorry that you didn't find out sooner, but I guess it's better than never finding out, I guess.
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@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
10 Feb 13
That is just so weird. What would she use your medications for. And its your stuff, she shouldn't be hoarding them. I experience the same thing with my mom but then she doesn't hoard meds,she hoards other things like my earphones, my jewelry, she opens up my wallet and my phone. Sometimes I'd see my earphones in her bag and shed lie about it. Sometimes i see her wearing my jewelry, but i just dont say anything about it, i catch her messing with my wallet because the contents aren't returned properly. I dont fuss though, i just let her do what she wants but deep inside i want to move out too. Sometimes if its not making you any better, you have to cut people off, even if they are family.
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@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
11 Feb 13
Maybe she got deprived of stuff during her childhood. That's what happened to my mom and my grandma when they were both little. I even remember when i was younger and then some guys would give me chocolates at our house. And then i wouldn't even know about them. The guys ask me about the chocolate and i tell them "what chocolate?" And then they'd reply with "i handed it to your mother" and I'd be so pissed that i didnt even know that guys have given me chocolate until they were all gone. i think it must be something in your mom's childhood that made her that way, because thats what happened to my mom and her mom and probably her mom as well.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
10 Feb 13
That is extreme. I would be so mad. Especially when we have to pay for more of an item just because we thought we lost them when really we didn't. Sorry to hear that your family are always doing things to make you even more upset. When will you be able to get your own place?
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
10 Feb 13
Right now, I don't know. My jobs according to the bank arn't steady (ie. steady full time), so they wont give me a loan. I am putting away as much as possible this summer of my seasonal job, and it will go as a down payment. I am trying to contact the park I want to live in and see if I can bring my own mobile home with me as I can get one from a company for 26,000$ instead of it selling for $68,000 in the park.
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@stary1 (6612)
• United States
10 Feb 13
911Ricki
Wow this is very sad. Of course you have every right to be angry, but I hope you also have enough compassion to try to figure out what is going on with your Mom.
The easy solution would be to ignore her until you move out, but I don't think that would sit well with you and you would feel guilty. No matter wht, our Mom's have a hold on us like no one else..
It could be she really believed these pills were not good for you..anyway, I would talk to her. If indeed she is having mental problems, you may just nees to be extra careful but patient and understandng...she is your Mom and you only will have one and I always say there is a reason for every experience and situation.
I wish you all the best..I know you have had some huge challenges in your life but you sound strong enough and smart enough to handle them
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
10 Feb 13
They are antiinflammatories, my younger brother uses the same ones, which she buys for him. She simple does this to me, she has real issues. I hope one day someone will lock her up, and get her some well needed help.
Noone will listen to me, so I will simple ignore them. I have no need for them, or care if they are around.
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@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
10 Feb 13
Wow it is obvious that your Mother has mental issues...Is she
seeing anyone about it...because who does the thingss she do.
Its really sad to have to witness that and to know that your
mom may be underhanding you all the time...
Your best bet is to Get Out of THere...at least you will have
some piece of mind from your family, mother, father and brother...
it seems like all of them have a vendetta for you a real
series of retaliatory, vengeful, or hostile acts against you.
And its now getting to you mentally because you are involving
yourself in a destructive feud.
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
10 Feb 13
If I had the money I would be gone, she has real issues. The fact she taking medication, clothes, you name it, then lies about it, or makes herself as a victim. Maybe, needs to go to the doctor for once, she refuses to go maybe because she knows they will see how she is.
She already yells, pushes, and now kicks the animals. She has on a number of times attacked me and my sister. Luckily, there were people around to grab her off. The cops were called, and they just talked to her and left.
I ignore her at all costs, and avoid here. She will go around saying things to people about my sister, and I. At first I thought it was jealous, but now I think she has a major problem.
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@Ishaa13 (20)
•
10 Feb 13
Instead of quickly jumping to this conclusion that she must be having some mental issues etc., you should have simply asked her about it as to why she did all this. May be she must be having some reasons. After all she is your mother & no mother on earth can ever think of harming her children. Look at the irony of this century. She carried you in womb for 9 months, then after giving you birth taught you each & every single thing that you are made up of today, cared for you, loved you & at times even sacrificed for you. And look at what she is getting today, a tag as "mental" from her son. I know it is your personal matter but you shouldn't have at least called her mental. She is your mother & you are supposed to respect her. Try to talk to her about it. May be afterwards when you will get to know the reason, you will repent for saying such things about her. Or even if she is ill, you should care for her the way she cared for you when you were just a baby, unable to walk by yourselves.
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
10 Feb 13
First off I am not a boy, secondly maybe your mother did that. My Mother would throw us under a bus if she could get away with it. She is out to spite us all, I wouldn't trust her with anything. I have asked her, and she just screams her head off, she has absolutely no reason, other than physco, jealous, or just trying to spite us. She has been doing thiss for years, and she keeps getting worse.
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
11 Feb 13
Yes, it seems you were too exhausted to figure it out, but this means she has been doing this a long long time. It is crazy. Does she do this to everyone, or just to you?
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
11 Feb 13
Just me.
She has never done this to either of my brothers, nor my sister. She has been taking medication, clothing, food, you name it. She doesn't even use it, half the time. I just found my jacket I was looking for (it's a fancey jacket to go in), she goes I don't know, meanwhile I found it in the hallways closet on the top shelf. When I vonfront her she denies it, then says you don't need it anyways.
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@BarBaraPrz (47313)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
10 Feb 13
Well, there's obviously a disconnect somewhere between your mom's brain and reality. I hope it's not early onset dementia.
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@BarBaraPrz (47313)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
10 Feb 13
Her elevator's definitely not reaching the top floor...
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
10 Feb 13
I thought of that, but my sister is the same way as her. She will steal from others, then not even use it. Pile it in her room, and well who knows.
I found a bunch more of my clothes, that my mother thinks I don't need. It's almost like we can't have any nice things, if she can't. She has the money to buy clothes, but she wants people to think she is poor, and feel sorry for her.
If anyone says antyhing she makes the other person out to be the bad guy, and her to be the victim.
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