Am I really to blame here?

But he can't fight for someone who do not like him anymore. And he must be contented with his life. He must not bother other people just because he is bored with his wife.

Really creepy, I wouldn't want to be alone with that guy. Maybe if you get close to him, he will think he can also ask you to marry him and be his second wife. LoL! Silly! (I Wonder why emoticons don't work today. Hmmmn)

Oh, I can see why he is frustrated. So he is a married man and still after other women? Creepy... Then he should improve himself and get over it already.

How has your friebd been to hin since then? Didn't your friend stay away from him?

I asked her - and she said he was okay and maybe understands things now. But I still doubt. Because before that day, my girl friend says this crazy guy talked to my guy friend telling him not be jealous and all when he calls her. But the next day, he was slamming me with words. What is that all about? LoL! Wearing mask and showing that he is okay. But when messaging me - blaming and hating me. He didn't deserve forgiveness so I just ignored him. My friend can't stay away from him. They're colleagues and working in one department together.

Yes and they are still friends. So we never thought about him reacting that way. She kept explaining to him that he must not involve other people and not hate other people.. But he did anyway. The most annoying part is that - he blamed everything to me. I have ignored him after that day. His apologies do not matter anymore. I feel that there won't be any sincerity because he tried apologizing only after my female friend spoke to him. If she didn't, would he think he is wrong? I guess not.

I will never again befriend him. It is not the first time I argued with his crooked beliefs. And yesterday was the day he showed me how very narrow-minded he is. And that no words can ever make him realized that he’s wrong.

Dear en..you are being manipulated and conned, and this person cares only about himself!

true, that's what I believed too. A very selfish person he is.

I actually thought of blocking him on FB so he won’t bother me anymore. Coz right after my lady friend read our conversation from his Fb account and argued with him. He suddenly seems to get awakened and apologizing on me. Bugging me up by calling and sending sms that he wants to talk to me. And that he is just expressing what he felt as a brother to a sister. Wow! After all that he said to me – he would say he is just expressing himself to me? LoL! My friend can actually love and accept a Muslim – but not be one of the wives. Not all Muslims marry multiple wives. Some of them have only one wife – and I guess that is what my friend would choose for her. You are right he is a very selfish person. He seems to imply to my friend that he is jealous because she has no time for him anymore being her friend. If he wants her to be a friend only and his intention of being her friend is real – he would be happy she’s having lots of friends.

Yes you got it right. I just introduced them to each other. If they liked or not like each other - it is already up to them. No one can force any one to be in a relationship or be friends with someone. If they also do not like each other to be friends it's their decision. I feel that he wants me to understand him where his hate is coming from. But sorry to make him feel because I am certain now I didn't do anything wrong. The problem is with him. He can;'t accept defeat. And he is a very selfish person.

I can be narrow minded too. But not like how this guy can be. LoL. Surely I wont let it bring me down again. Well, at least now I guess I wouldn't talk to him again. No matter how many apologies he has sent later today.

good for you

Hi dear pergammano Two consecutive days was pretty bad because of these two guys. One is the cheater and second, the narrow minded guy. Yes, they can marry another wife as long as they would treat them equal and that there's a valid reason for marrying a new one. She used to like him too before when he was not married yet. But when he got married, of course, she would know that whatever she feels for him before must be forgotten. She doesn't like to be someone's second wife. But they were colleagues so they are still good friends. Didn't know that when she met a new guy, through me, this guy would act this way. But to my amazement, it was I whom he puts the blame on. The guy I introduced to my friend is also my friend. And he is also a Muslim. There is no issue about different religions. Just the views of that guy is unbelievable and why I was the one who gets all his offensive words via private message in FB. He even accused me of stealing a friend from him and giving her to someone else too. I don't wanna waste time on him actually, but his words had hit me, could not take someone saying all those bad things to me. And when I asked my friend to read the messages he sent to me. and my confronted him. He message a lot of apologies, sorry and all. Keeps calling me to talk to me. But I guess I don;t need his sorry no more after all those words have been said.

My dearest little En...(Virtual Mom speaking) YOU are far too generous of good spirit to surround yourself with these leeches...time for you to do some weeding of friends (associates)as I see it. The disrespect that these two are presenting you with, to me is also the reason that you need to banish them! They both seem a bit like drama queens...with a superior "me" attitude! Please, my dearest little one...even read your post again, and you will acknowledge, I am sure, these denegrades do not have the right to be in your realm. Truly, there are beautiful people out there...banish these two!

"drama queens" is the perfect term! I have already ignored him totally. Even when he is sending me messages. I don't think I can still call him a friend after doing that to me. We do not know each other for a long time for him to tell me that he sees me as a sister and that he is saying all those things like a brother to a sister...

I actually do not consider him as a friend anymore. Coz this is not the first time this guy says something nasty to me. Even when he was asking me to roam with him alone and told him I don't hang out with married guys, he says a lot of things too, argued to me so much. He is not a close friend ever since. To me he is just an acquaintance as he was introduced by my roommate. I've known him for a few months only. So he has no right to tell me that he said that to me because I am his friend. No real friend will ever hurt you by words that way for such silly reasons.

True! And I do not know what is on his mind - what he wants for my friend, and what is going on with them. I was left in confusion, shocked seeing his words and taking all his harsh words. Yes he is not worth my tears,it just came out suddenly while I was talking to a friend about it. He had apologized to me yesterday on FB message still. But I feel there is no need for me to reply on him anymore. I've said my piece and he didn;t understand. If the reason of saying sorry to me is because my friend had talked to him. Well I don't think he realized he is wrong. So I wouldn't say anything and wouldn't take his calls anymore.

I got carried away with the anger I felt... reason why I cried too. Yes, that's precisely the reason but he has no right anymore. First of all he is already married. Second, my friend can;t love him anymore. And last, she likes someone else and happy now. And his frustration and anger over what happened were all blamed on me. I really could not accept that. From what he said when he apologizes after my friend had talked to him about not blaming me... he says he was just expressing it to me like a brother to a sister... like a friend... but I don't think so. If she did not talk to him he would've have apologized to me.

Although i think it went too far the way she confronted you and called you names. And besides its her fault too for not finding out his demographics before she develops feelings for him. If she had known that the guy has different belifs about marriage than her, she shouldn't have associated her self with him.

Oops.. Haha! I got mixed up in the characters. Sorry. I'm just used to having girls being the sad sad people in the story. Please change: Her/ She- the Muslim guy The guy/ he/ him- non-Muslim girl

No one has the right to get mad. In the first place, he is already a married guy. And no one can read minds. I do not know what he wants. I don't know what people thinks too. All I know is that my lady friend wants to have a boyfriend. My male friend wants to have a girlfriend too. I did not introduce them so both can have a relationship. I introduced them to each other so they can be friends. If they want to be more than friends - then it is their decision. So I am not guilty of any crime. LoL! I will let the married guy feel guilty about everything he said to me, I have been ignoring his messages since that day.