do you balance paternal and maternal realtives or is a certain side stronger?
By pomwango
@pomwango (1353)
Kenya
February 11, 2013 8:52am CST
i ask this to you mylotters to understand if its me being biased or it happens.i tend to feel my kids are more inclined to their maternal side,we visit my sibblings more, they relate better to my mum than the their paternal grandmother.their maternal grandmother is more concerned about what happens in their lives ,about their health ,school and just their well being.they hardly ever think of their paternal grandmother unless we are visiting or there is something urgent to be addressed.does this happen to you or the relations are equal on both sides?
2 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Feb 13
It is something unavoidable. Children will surely be closer to one side than the other. They get to be closer to people whom they get along with most of the time. Growing up, both of my grandparents, paternal and maternal, would come visit us in Manila. But I felt that my maternal grandparents show more concern to us than my paternal grandparents. That also goes with my first cousins from my mom's side. They are closer to me than my other first cousins. It was weird when I have let my cousins from my dad's side to rent one of the apartments of my in laws. And they would just pass by me without uttering a word. Sometimes, I wouldn't really notice, but one time, it was my husband who caught my attention and told me, "Hey, isn't that your cousin?". Well, I am not sure why they have to act that way considering that I was the reason why they have a home in the city.
@Ashu1970 (63)
• India
14 Feb 13
I try to balance the sides, but find it very difficult, because you are inclined to your paternal relatives more naturally. But, as you have mentioned, it is about the showing concern. The who shows more concern, gets the more attention. About children, to whom they are more inclined depends upon the environment and conditions in which they grow up. I suppose, if you are in a joint family they would be inclined more to paternal side, which has happened in my case.
