There are two sides to every action or inaction...
By vanny
@vandana7 (100288)
India
February 11, 2013 10:45am CST
Only one is truly right...
But again, not always...
Time and context matters.
But we harden our opinions based on what we come across. It is not necessary that what I say is truly right. Tomorrow, what I say might be proved very wrong. Or for some reason trends might change and such an opinion might no longer be valid in the new situation.
So...when you opine...do you keep that tiny hole open from where you could slip into the other side...and find that the other side of the fence is almost as good as the one you lived in so far.
And how much time do you devote to thinking about issues...? Are you fast thinker or take pride in taking quick decisions? What is the percentage of decisions you took in your life that you are not very sure about or disappointed with?
Do you learn from others experiences? Or do you wait for the situation to arise, and take a call based on the prevailing circumstances? Do you subsequently stubbornly defend your choice?
Do you know that one tiny information that you might not have thought of deeply enough might actually be a big clue that could have swung your opinion the other way? So...have you looked for it diligently enough?
Lots of questions in my mind...:)
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5 responses
@andrewbarclave (485)
• Ireland
11 Feb 13
I'm very much not a quick thinker. I like to be sure and cause of that I tend to be quite picky.
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@andrewbarclave (485)
• Ireland
12 Feb 13
I just find if you make your decision too quickly but then again you are right about missing opportunities too. It's why I try to make my mind up fast these days.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
12 Feb 13
I never have believed in regretting as I have seen and felt that regrets are only going to make things sad and gloomy. So my funda is - when I did something, it seemed right at that time. Today, when things are not the same anymore, there is no point in thinking and wasting time on regrets. So the percentage of - you ae disappointed with - is almost minimum. I have a few things which did never get a chance to accomplish and I do feel bad about a couple of those - biggest - I could not get my first salary before my late grandfather expired.
I love to learn - so whether they come from other's experiences or mine doesnt matter much to me. But yes, what is important to me is that I learn and try to avoid doing the same mistakes again. I am a quick learner and so I fail once or twice and by then I take steps to correct myself.
And yes, there are times when you have to defend your choices - not because of the ego factor but because of the fact that you did make those choices and you need to discuss out and clarify why you took to those (and if you could not be convincing to others that indicates that you did not have the right amount of faith and belief in those... indicative of the fact that you were wrong and it is time to rectify).
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@vandana7 (100288)
• India
13 Feb 13
Recently I did come across two situations which were quite alike, and yet, i had two different opinions on both...and that got me thinking...hey, why I am opining like this on this one, and opining like that in another one. But when considered, both situations did warrant such an opinion...and so I felt there is nothing called right or wrong...everything is right and everything is wrong...as you mentioned...things may differ ever so slightly to vary that classification. So defending our stand in a rigid fashion does not really amount to progress in thinking. And also that ...the way we dispense justice as of now is certainly not the right way...I mean, we tend to look into law books to give the punishment...under various sections. But such things should vary from case to case...dont you think?
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
12 Feb 13
Phew, dearest Vandy, those are a lot of questions, and I will attempt to answer them this way;
There are times in my life, that I have to react, respond with spontaneity, and let the chips lay where they fall,and do the sweep up later, if necessary and....
Then there are times, I tend to overthink the cause/effects at hand..and all due-diligence does not result rightly.Another so-be-it conundrum!
And no, I do not stubbornly defend my choice...as I have lived long enough to know this old English expression is true; "there are more than one way to skin a cat!"
@zenkey0023 (21)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
You really do have lots of questions in your mind right now haha :D so to make my answer short, i would answer only the most important questions on your queries. I am not really a fast thinker but every time i made a decision (mostly on buying new things for myself such as gadgets,clothes and others) i always consider every tiny information that i can grasp. But despite all of this efforts, as a human being, i also do mistakes and this mistakes acts as my stepping stones for a better decision on my next problem :D
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