Is it easier to walk away or stay with a partner who is violent?

My ex partner had violent mood swings, they could turn at a drop of a hat, anything that remotely upset them they would turn aggressive and very very nasty. I stayed in the relationship longer than I should, my ex was the type that would make it impossible for me to get out, everything was in joint name, after four years I couldn't take it any longer, it took me 12 long hard weeks to plot and plan my escape, my partner was suspicious, but also very predictable which worked in my favour, I managed to escape and even now, my partner doesn't know where I am. I think if I hadn't of been able to escape I would have done myself in.

The only resonable answer to that would be walk away or even run for your life. However love isn't resonable thing at all and that makes you think or act in illogical way. As I am now (not in love in anyone) I can say I would leave a violent partner immediately even if I'd love him. But I am also aware that it isn't that easy when you love someone and feel like nothing good will happen to you if you're not with that person so you keep telling yourself that he will change. That's why I think you should always draw the line before you fall in love. Tell yourself "If he ever hits me I will leave him". That will help you when bad things happen. You will remember what you decided from the start. It's way better then think it will never happen and then pretend it didn't happen.

This usually happens to those who have nowhere to go. Usually to housewives who don't have sources of funds or don't have much money. This is the main reason why my lawyer friends always tell me that a wife should have a job regardless if the man can provide. I think these violent people just draw out their strength from the thought that the women they abuse have no one to turn to. It's a sad reality.

WALK AWAY. But plan carefully. There is NEVER any acceptable reason to stay with a violent abusive person. Let me say that again. THERE IS NEVER ANY ACCEPTABLE REASON TO STAY WITH A VIOLENT ABUSIVE PERSON. I don't care WHO it is, I don't care what gender they are. I don't care WHAT they have promised you. If you STAY with a violent abusive person, it is your own fault if something worse than just beating and emotional abuse happens to you. At least if you LEAVE, YOU have done the best YOU can to physically and mentally distance yourself from that person. YES it is helpful if you have a support system - friends and/or family that are on your side or at least willing to accept what you are doing. If not though... there are other services and other programs that are there to help you - help you get away, help you hide, and prevent harm from coming to you. The thing is, you have to be serious about getting help. You need to not be wishy washy and waver or give the abusive person any chance to 'try and make up'. You have to get mean.... but it's YOUR LIFE. I left someone who was abusive - he was starting to break things in our house. He would say he didn't care if I went somewhere like meet my sister for dinner or go out with coworkers and then when I got home he would berate and scream at me for 'abandoning him'. I was just DONE. In most cases, people who behave this way ONLY GET WORSE, NOT BETTER. It is not your job to FIX a broken person, even one you have promised to love and cherish and stay with forever. Abuse is an acceptable reason to leave someone, to protect yourself, to divorce. After all, the alternative is living in hell with the abuser and potentially to have the abuser kill you. Sometimes they don't physically kill you, they change you, they kill your spirit and you feel worthless and you NEVER LEAVE. If you have children, the children in such a home are abused from the start because your relationship is already dysfunctional and not healthy - and that is what they see. I consider children living in such a relationship neglected and abused. If they see one of you hitting or screaming at the other one, one of you preventing the other one from being able to have friends, from keeping a job, taking away keys or transportation so as to keep them stuck in the house, keeping them from having any access to money or resources, things like that are unsafe and abusive. This is also a way to isolate someone and PREVENT THEM from EVER feeling safe to leave or allow anybody else to know what is going on. I know at least one person who was killed by a violent significant other they were unable/unwilling to leave. Sadly, she was killed the night she finally TRIED to leave. I know several people who have lost jobs or been fired because their significant other either found out they got a job behind their back and they went nuts/prevented them from going so they got fired/lost job or even worse went to the job and flipped out, causing the employer to let the employee go in fear of retaliation from the boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse who went nuts. Several children who have feared for their lives because they were present and saw mommy getting beaten or daddy getting chased by mommy in the car.... things like that. I am sick of people thinking this isn't a serious reason to LEAVE. Don't think someone who is intelligent and attractive, with a good job and good social standing never abuses people. Sometimes an abused person's family will attack their own family member, trying to tell them they are wrong to leave because the abuser HIDES how he or she treats their spouse from their spouse's family, most/all of their friends, coworkers, etc. The only people they don't hide it from is the spouse and their kids. I am so disappointed and heartbroken when I hear people talk about just staying in a bad situation or worse, GOING BACK TO IT. But you know... it's your life, and if you want it to be horrible... I guess I can't stop you. Just know you won't change an abuser's behavior. Just know you won't 'fix' them. YOU'RE not the problem. YOU'RE not broken. And YOU cannot solve this by yourself.

I've never been in this situation before, but I'm not sure what I were to do if I were in this situation. I mean of course the best thing to do is to walk away and just leave because I wouldn't want someone to just keep beating up on me. But the reason that some people don't leave right away or don't leave at all is because it is not so easy as some may think. Some people just have no place to go to and other tend to stay for the children. I on the other hand if I were in this situation I know one thing for sure, I always have somewhere else I could go. I have no children so I wouldn't stay for the children.

I have always told myself that I can deal with a husband who might be lazy at times or who might go crazy on saying things to me. But once he starts hitting me, it is the end of the relationship. Coz for sure, once a man hit a woman, there could be a second time and a third time. So it is much better to be out of the relationship to end the violence.

I would leave. My patience is only thin for abusive men. It gets worse if the guy also has other women which he would deny if ever confronted about it.

If you had given him more than a couple of chances but he had failed to show a sincere effort to change then why waste your life being with him. Being on your own may offer more chances of a better life than surrendering self to be a martyr for life.

I would take my kids and leave no questions asked.

It is sad but many women simply suffer due to domestic violence. I used to endure my spouse's slaps and hurting words when I was still young and helpless because I had no one to turn to. I was without a job and there were kids so I didn't have a choice. However, when the kids grew older and were in school. I tried to find work and I was lucky enough to land one. Not only did the job provide me with a means to feed my kids but it gave me the strength to leave the violent spouse. Now, I am happy with the kids with no one slapping me around. Sometimes, women have to stand up for themselves and make firm decisions to have a better life. We simply owe it to ourselves not to become a victim of domestic violence.

sure wasnt easy for me, I was married to him for 11- 12 years. He was very abusive for last 4 years. I took it almost every single day from him. I did it for all the wrong reasons. We had a son together. And look at us now...

hmmm.. there are something odd with this situation.. if you will notice those who were involved in this situation, even if they got out of the previous relationship most of the time the will end with the violent partner again.

It depeneds, if partner is not that much bad so we can be with them and try to make better changes but there are kind of people who their bad is much more than their good and chance of changing on them is low, so in this kind i think leaving is better.

You should walk away only if you know that person is always that way. If the partner is acting this way because of some kind of burden or stress than you should just leave them alone for some time, to think and to make them realize that you are really important to them and that their reaction was not good. If they come back and say sorry and have a valid reason then you should stay but if that is not the case the person should walk away right away without a fight!

I have never been in such a relationship but i do know a couple of those who have been in such a relationship, and yes often they have stayed in it for as long as they can bear. everyone telling them to let it go, to help themselves and value their lives and that the partner will never change. Sadly most do not take the initiative because they probably love the guy too much? Or they are scared to be alone, that they only knew this person as the one who loved them so that no one else would be feeling the same anymore... that since they have been troubled they are no longer worthy of any love. I have always been told by my mom that any guy should never even lift a finger and hurt you. I would not even tolerate abusive words spoken to me. I would not stick around and swallow all that because I am not afraid to be alone, and I am independent and does not depend on someone just to live (yes most battered wives are housewives who are afraid they would starve if their husbands do not give them money, and thus they are afraid to leave their husbands and just take the beating). To answer your question, I will walk away. I won't let myself be in such an awful situation. i am no man's punching bag.

I believe that it is equally difficult to walk away or stay in a violent relationship. Walking away can result in defeat and dangerous repercussions. It is a step you can never take back. Staying in the relationship could lead to further incidents of abuse. When you are faced with this situation, some tpe of counseling could help you make a decision to get a new lease on life.

Of course I would stay away from any form of violence. It is unacceptable. We only live once and life is too short, we can't forever be the suffering hero in this drama of life. Violence is a turn-off. Any person who is violent turns me off and that means away from him or her who has that violent streak in him.

Oh I would definitely run away from it. Even if it would be emotionally hard I would rather deal with that than being physically abused. It's easier said than done but I would seek for guidance from my family and specially Him that I can survive such.

For me i was once in such a situation and i would really try to leave my then partner after the violence episode, but he would come begging saying he would never beat me again and would lay blame on his drinking habits. This went on for almost an year and i decided enough was enough, so i lied to him i was pregnant just to test his love.I went to his house and broke the fake news,of me being pregnant he told me that i was so careless to fall pregnant and he was not ready for marriage. From that day he never stepped in my house and that really worked for me. So this is what i believe,if your partner is abusive maybe he does not love you enough.

if it is pysical dont walk run fast