Sorry but I want to be happy too.
By aubrey
@averygirl72 (37845)
Philippines
February 11, 2013 6:29pm CST
Well, I want to be healthy and happy and one of the things to do it is to build some wall around me from people who makes my life sad.
Some people feel they are the only ones who deserve happiness and they even get some of your happiness. From now on I will be careful dealing with these people: The dream killers, draggers, the energy zappers, the user, the parasites and the cold-blooded mammals.
I had enough, they've wasted my time a lot and they can't go on with life without offending and insulting you. If that is their only role in me, we must never be close. Let their true friends love them not me.
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13 responses
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
13 Feb 13
That is very good averygirl. You can't keep all the toxic people in your life, why waste your energy on people who aren't sincere with your friendship. Do not feel guilty in cutting off these people as you have to make room for far more better people then them in your life. Cut them off and you become a better person instantly. Good luck!
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
It's healthy. I read in an article, there was a woman diagnosed with cancer and after she cut her relationship with a toxic person, the cancer was gone. They don't know that they are being toxic but the moment you see that is their main role- being your villain the bad characters in the telenovelas and they make you their stupid victim, get out and find a safe place.
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@mondaylover (183)
• Poland
12 Feb 13
Sounds like you have a lot toxic people around you. I feel bad for you. I have wonderful friends and I stick with them. When I meet someone who seems to have bad influence on me then I do my best to avoid him or ignore him and you have the right to do the same. But don't label everyone who doesn't make on you good impression as that kind of person. You may miss some good in people.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Thanks, for the good advice. My fault is I cannot detect who has the problem, was it me or them? I let them damage my life when I have the right to defend myself. They benefit from stepping on me and me I don't get anything.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Averygirl , people abused you because you allowed yourself to be abused ! You have to protect , care and loved yourself because no one will do it for you but yourself only ! See you got a friend , did they protect , care and love you ? Not right ?
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
I did learn from my experience. I need to show these people that I love myself and I will not let them just do whatever they like and yes in this life, some people are harmful.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
12 Feb 13
Sometimes it's so much healthier for you if you are more careful about whom you let into your life. Some people never care about the effect they have on other people and they just take from you. I hope this helps you be more content and less stressed.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
I tell you after I recovered from them, I regained my dignity and self-respect. I am growing now more because I have less contact with them. I figured out I should not bear grudge but the moment I see some warning signs, it's time to flee and shield myself or else they will drag me in despair.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
13 Feb 13
That's right but the its quite difficult to tell which people are which if you don't try being friends with them first. Although you have a point in there because i dont think people would be in your life anyway if they dont have a purpose.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
13 Feb 13
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be happy and sometimes it takes choosing your friends in order to achieve that goal. Some people like to bring people down for a lot of different reasons but it's up to you to limit your time around them. However, a true friend will be honest in what ever the subject it may be and that's ok as long as it's done in a decent way. If you don't agree and do your own thing, that's ok too and it's up to the friend to accept you for who you are regardless if they like your choice in life.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
Yeah, it's too late when I realized that there are 2 sets of people. The one wants the best for you, the other group wants the worst for you for a lot of different reasons. See, with billions of people in the planet not everyone is your friend. Some of them will be happy for you, half of them feels that when you are happy, that's a very big deal.
@allknowing (136541)
• India
12 Feb 13
You are popular I must say. It is only those whose life is interesting and successful would people want to spoil it. Just ignore and move on.
@allknowing (136541)
• India
13 Feb 13
I would still say just ignore and move on. As long as those who make your life miserable are not those you are depending on for your progress what is stopping you from ignoring them?
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
No, I am not popular but they are just few when I am studying, quite manageable but right after I finish studies and started working and earning money for myself, they grew in number and become more intense.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
12 Feb 13
i say go for it we all want to be happy and we wont ever get it if we are always being hurt best of luck to you
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
12 Feb 13
People provide minus energy usually consider themselves people give out advice.
I do not like this kind of person, but there are so many minus person around me. Most of my relatives are belong to this kind. As they can not do things successful, they always tell me not to do these things. But I think I can make it, so I do not like listen to them.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
12 Feb 13
I feel strongly that everyone deserves some happiness in their lives. Lives should not only be filled ith sadness and worry and regrets. You should be no exception to this.Your right to happiness should be as strong and convincing as anyone else in this world. Keep a positive outlook on life and strive for the happiness that you so richly deserve no matter what the circumstances of the world throw at you.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
Yes, I will not get angry anymore, no need to react violently. No need to retaliate. The moment I see an ugly pattern, it's a sign to do something to protect myself, handle them in the best way I can.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Nobody needs people who makes their lives miserable. So just be happy and do whatever you think is good and not to step on anyone's foot. That is all that matters.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Sometimes we have unavoidable relationship with them that we need to deal with them everyday but now I can actually do something to end the relationship and end the damage as well.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Feb 13
It's a good idea to weed out the people in our lives that cause us nothing but stress. I know I have plenty of people like that around me and I don't have the courage to end it all just yet. I know eventually I will hit my breaking point but the people I am speaking of are family which makes things more difficult! One day I am hoping to cut these people out of my life but like I said I am not quite ready yet...
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
I actually used that word. It's time to weed some of them if I want to be happy instantly. They don't have to go, I just find excuse not to be close to them.
@janechenrose (135)
• China
12 Feb 13
People are funny to inspiring your mind and encourage your bravey, and friends will increase your knownledge with their resourse of book and opinion and method.
Your can get rid of people that make bad influence on you, you can miss people who reduce your energy, who are cold blood ,you can refuse people who have toxic if they are truely make your life sad.
Friends is important ,friends will make you happy ,warm and not lonely and more active, bad guy will make you go to wrong way , make walls of that kind of person.
Wish we can find true friends.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
Make some wall and gap. Don't let them feel too comfortable to disturb your life and steal your happiness.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
Hello there ! All of us human being have the right to live happily and peacefully ! No one can take that away from us not unless we allowed some people to do it . What you did is just the right thing to do , while you are still not in the mud with them , you were able to get up and make a stand ! That's the real girl , empowered ! I guess they are not a worthy friend , because a true friend will always lift you and inspire you though even you ,yourself feels like giving up . They saw your flaws and not a glows ! A real friends saw you glows but still appreciates your flaws . We should be with people that makes us and not break us. All the best !
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
That so easy to remember, if they inspire you and support you and make you feel better all the time, they are worth to keep. But if everyday, they make you feel sick, down and they always highlight your weakness and your flaws that is enough. Let say they can do it because they have problems with your personality but to keep on saying that everyday, it's a waste of life. They just always look at what is worst in you and keep on telling on your face that you are nothing.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
12 Feb 13
yes be happy because you born to be happy and happiness is your right. when someting or somebody is againt that then just avoid it. it will disappear and you will get mor happiness around yourself.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
We are born to be happy, don't let anyone spoil it. Don't give them a foothold.