When we are mad and we can't show it

Hi Aja! It is a difficult situation when you just can not come out with your pent up emotions because your fear that it would disturb the other fellow. You could express your thoughts in a polite and measured tone and could tell him that such thoughts disturb you and make you feel low. If I happen to face unpleasant situations like this or someone has said something nasty to me, I share (my pent up emotions) it with my friends, with whom that person is not directly concerned. Sharing with my friends help me relieve my tension.

OOOOOOpssss missed this discussion, your boyfriend is just studying his board exams, and then he says you should start living on your own? This is more like a joke, a student should not be saying this to others, first he should get a job. Girl you are mad at him, but what he said was not so good motive, he knows what he was saying and effect on you, by using those words. Now either you have to forgive him, or do something in some words to punish him same way, but this is going to ruin his study a bit by metally sticking him against your promise to his mother. Choose your decision wisely.

It is really hard to can in the bad feeling most especially if the person is a family member or a close relative. I am not the kind who would really put up a fight or start an argument. So, i just keep it inside me. I try to control my feeling as to not ruin family relations.

hi, i have experience that before and even now,sometimes if i am very angry or mad to a person or other people and i can't show it or release it,i will really feel pain in heart just i can not breath or even to move,so when i am angry i want to be alone in the comfort room and shout for a relief.

The rule, "there's a time for everything," applies here just as well as with anything else. I am a ticking time bomb and rarely hold back my anger. I do choose though (It is a CHOICE.) when to release it.

what i can tell you from my own persanal experenace on this is find a place where you are all alone with no one to hear you and just yell it out as load as you want its great and works for me when i need too

Oh my! i have had my share of such experiences with my ex boyfriends too. that you are mad, still angry but you are not able to really show it and would have to denyit so that you all can move on. i guess it is really that hard, yeah. Hmm my first boyfriend had to take board exams too and well the first time he failed but he passed on second take. I had to back down a bit during those times, but when I am unable to show my feelings, that took a toll on our relationship. we were not able to cope and basically i had all the frustrations in me and it burdened me so much and i have literally had it in my chest so when i finally burst and let it out... it was over. I know you love him and wants him to have his future maybe what you can do is to write them down now. Write it and write it for him. when this is all over, you can give the letter to him and so he can read it on his own. :D I am sure he will appreciate that in you. Keeping them to yourself won't help, you need to have those out!

Communication is a key in any relationship. So talking your feelings out is a good thing, but they way you say things has a lot to do with it. So maybe you should just write it out, just for your eyes, to make you feel better, venting on paper can really help you see things differently. Then when you are calmer maybe you can talk to him.

Communication is a key in any relationship. So talking your feelings out is a good thing, but they way you say things has a lot to do with it. So maybe you should just write it out, just for your eyes, to make you feel better, venting on paper can really help you see things differently. Then when you are calmer maybe you can talk to him.

You are being considerate and waiting for the right timing. That's a good decision to wait and control your temper. You're thinking more of his future rather than being a diva and being selfish. It would have affected your relationship. What we decide in seconds can really affect our future.

Okay. Get yourself a doll who looks like your boyfriend and express all the feelings you want. Just make sure no one is around at the time or you might end up in a straight jacket. You can go out and see if you can find that one guy that pays people to beat him up. Don't worry, he's protected. Or just stick with writing as the first poster suggested. Its not good to hold things in like that.

Thanks for this discussion, i have responded to your previous discussion too, i repeat you think over the matter from all possible angels, you have done right i think lol.

well all of us have these kind of experience. I have that much angry on my husband from time I have been married to him till this time but as he is very bad nature I can not show him any anger so used to be polite and hear alot of things and seeing wild behave of him and supposed to be quiet... It hurts me alot and If one day I could get chance to release that angry and hurt maybe I beat him tha mu.ch that he could die... But what ? I do things with forgiveness and patinece. any other way? that is I think the best way for us plus giving some pray to him to be alright one day and may that day he will be shy at himself. you do so right to forgive and be patience. you increase your value and you will be more important for him in upcoming futrure.

When I get mad I always make sure everyone notice. Because I'm mad and I want them to feel my anger. I'm aware that it's selfish and childish but this is how I deal with my emotions. Then I feel stupid and eventually apologize if I caused any harm. Sometimes I'm right to be mad and sometimes not. I can't say I'm solving things like they should be solved but I don't think that holding in is good for you. When you don't show your emotions you loose the chance to clear the atmosphere. Besides studying isn't excuse good enough to make someone angry all the time. Sooner or later that can have negative impact on your relationship.