Issues over breakup

maybe she could not take it that you are not pulling yourself out of thet depressed state,at times we need to also be strong especially when you are the man and take charge.a woman likes to know her man has her back but if she is the one in charge it breaks her,if she still loves you its not too late,get your self back on your feet and maybe she will take you back.

hi psybersonic, I hope you are doing better, though after you have shared this discussion with us, we know that you may still be worried, or suffering thinking of what you need to do to save your relationship... It will be yours when you and her are meant for each other. Like many hearts who have sacrificed a lot for the sake of love, many people have also given more than they thought they can in the name of love, and in those 5 years, i am sure she did her best. Maybe you need to understand where she is coming from... 5 years is a long time and yes she probably felt tired at this time, and she may only need to just recuperate, gather her strength and somehow assess her own feelings. As you have said, a relationship cannot be over just like that, but people often do need time to themselves so they do not lose themselves as well as they try to help someone else, in her case - you. Maybe this is the time that you should improve yourself, this is the time she is giving you so that you find yourself and help yourself and come back to her whole so that in your relationship you both are whole persons and not one trying to fill in what the other is unable to somehow give due to many issues. I would pray for you and her to find your way to each other - if it is meant to be, i know you both will be together again. I hope you do find yourself and get over the depression you are feeling.

You just need to move on. There is no use looking back on how you were then. Besides, she seemed to have moved on herself. Just understand that things can happen this way. But it should not discourage you to have a better life without her.

You broke up with her for a certain reason. I think you know that reason plus you know you need time for you now. I would suggest you work on yourself. Only if you feel better, found a solution for your problems (or can live with it) you are able to have a relationship. It's the same with her. She needs time to find herself back. So I would advice you to let her be, give her the rest she needs. There is nothing you can do now, except for taking good care of yourself.

A breakup is so difficult, especially after so long. Sometimes people need time apart to remember what brought them together in the first place. Take this time to sort your life out. If it was truly meant to be it will always find a way to work out! Keep your chin up!