have you ever live with an enemy?
@extremefun4fun (2908)
India
February 13, 2013 2:30am CST
for me, as long as I am in this country and live with my man, I live with those who do not want me to be here and Living with a person who took my all happiness , the one who is against my every thing.... and I live with that enemy...
have you ever had this kind of experience and what did you do? how did you come over all that?
I am passing just with praying and hope as we live as we do not know till next second what will happen? so just keeping hope and making myseld happy of this that God is here within me and help me to win and send me happiness and fulll fill my wishes.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
13 Feb 13
In fact, I don't know where the problem is! You live with yoru h/b and says that you are living alongwith your enemy. I don't even know since when this started and you are fully aware about the background and you yourself can find out certain effective solutions for it. Was the marriage happened by force, or it was a love marriage or an arranged one? Are you still loving him or thinking to live with him for ever? Do you think the life beyound will be more troublesome? Is he a drunk and abusive in nature? There are so many questions to be answered to get a proper understanding and to go for a better solution. If you find it is extremely horrible to move ahead, you can think of a sepration, where if you really need a freedom.
Each people are different in nature and some will try to change and some may not. If he is not understanable and leading his own way, you can think of a separation and if it works out can go for it. But this is the extreme step and you need to try for a better compramise with an open discussion and you both needs to sit together and discuss the issues intentionally and find out his open opinion.
Also, you should not allow him to 'use' you only becuase you are his wife. You have full freedom and rights for anything and you need to talk everything in detail and find what he has to say. If he still try to predominate, you can open the topic where you and your h/b has equally influence.
Take a decision by thinking all the prose and cones. I think your (both of you) open discussion can make certain changes and give chances for him also. Again, you also think that you also need to go for certain changes to please him and if it works out, do it for a better life.
Regards
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@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
13 Feb 13
Thabks for your nice comment. I am in the situation that not I love him anymore becasue based on one lie which is unforgivable for me he changed my destiny and after that he hurts me alot, I do not say he is not shy of what he has done with me but once when we kill somebody what is the benifit of saying oh sorry?
second I also know and sepration is my wish from this man but what is the solution as he would never do that to me and never let me go. another problem is that when I did not want to be with him anymore he forced me to give birth of child which according to his friends she will not be able to leave you cause of child.
I have diffrent nationality from my child and all time I live with fear of loosing my child, I stuck between love of my child and hate of my man and of course as My husband country doesn not have good people and laws and nobody here is from my family I suffer alot.
Yes even he is drunk man and after that what I am hearing and facing living with that evil just God knows.
It has become a dream for me when this man is not that much understandable to leave me go with my child and not that much is able to make perfect changes, I have got a dream of God do anything i Hear he went to the sky!!!!
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
14 Feb 13
I am so sorry to read your story, guess you have to bear this till better days come, may i know from which country you are?
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
13 Feb 13
Hey friend till now I have no chance to live with my enemy and to tell you frankly if I have the chance also I will never dare to stay with my enemy.
@flyinghi (130)
• Canada
13 Feb 13
Why are you living with an enemy? Life is too short to live your life with someone who hates you. If you are in an abusive relationship there are shelters and other types of places you can look to for help in leaving this situation. I know from experience that living with someone who is abusive is absolutely not the way to live. Seek help--seek it now.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
13 Feb 13
I feelvery fortunate and happy that I have never had to live with an enemy. I think it would be such a horrible existence to go through. Life should be filled with moments that we can treasure. Living with an enemy would be living in fear each day. Nobody should have to endure that.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
13 Feb 13
i have been though it and going though it to this day alots of time i would spend my life getting drunk enough to pass out but first hand not the answer then i went to facebook and well i got the well i will date you yes ok but that would only put me back right where i am right now stuck in a country and not have anyone to talk too I do have my pets and i take alot of walks to window shop in the local stores now i just come to be a member of mylot so i do my best to share what i can and also praying
@crossline98 (15)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 13
I always lived with my enemy, it made ??me stronger in life. We should still pray,may our enemies can be our friend.
