Give it spaces
By cheesychess
@cheesychess (17)
Philippines
February 13, 2013 2:48am CST
Is it okay to give space when the person is getting cold? You visited the person and they're so sleepy. A month after, you visited again, worst they fall asleep. Thought that Im boring or they just dont like me anymore. What am I to them? I chat with the person everyday and it seemed the person is always excited to talk to me not to mention the exchanges of SMS all thru the day.In fact im not the one starting the conversation. But in person its total opposite! Very sad. Thought of giving out space so at least I will be missed. :( Go offline for a while. Have u been thru with such a friend?
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3 responses
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
:D Oh i think this friend of yours treats you very close because even if you are at their home, he/she acts the same and would be sleeping even if you are around. I think most people who are really comfortable with each other do this. Similarly when i am withmy BF in their home he would be sleeping when i would be watching series, i guess it can be a similar case. I hope you do not take offense because you said that you have always been in contact with each other and are talking with each other daily. so that is what matters! :D
Maybe you ae being too sensitive on this. maybe you can joke and ask him why does your presense make him/her feel sleepy? heheh
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@cheesychess (17)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
i thought that too. too much familiarity. but thanks it gave me a lil comfort. Im just sad that shes so excited to see other friends :(
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@oxyde_gyabo (701)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
You see, the screen on cellphones, monitors and televisions gives people mind a "wake up" signal(especially the blue screen) and that's probably why the person is lively through this forms of communication. If that person is always online through chats, try taking note of how long that person stays on the computer. It's more probable that the person's body and mind is stressed and is subconsciously looking for stimulating signals from screens. Worse, the person could be insomniac base on your description. It could still be mild but it's best you have the person advised.
If the person don't seem to be insomniac to you,then note that there are people that are more gregarious in written forms like letters, text messages and emails. They don't necessarily mean to be rude or bored on personal confrontations.
But I still highly suggest that you advice and help that person recover from insomnia, since you said in a month the person falls asleep, it would be terrible if this would cause him/her an accident.
@cheesychess (17)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
so its not me who makes them sleepy? its because theyre insomiac? as far as i know the person is not suffering such. Hey thanks for your thought dude.
@oxyde_gyabo (701)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
Ah, it's nice to hear that the person is not suffering that.
But please don't think that the person is bored being with you. It's better if you talk to them even via text or chat. You have to open this up as early as you could because ignoring it could cause severe damage to your friendship. Just be sure you time it right when the person is in good mood. :) Hope things get better between you two.
By the way, cheesy-dude, I'm no dude ;)
@cheesychess (17)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
i wish im that confrontational :D but im not. but thats a good suggestion. i will try that :) thanks