Time to clean up my act and get on with it!

If you have so dirty house why can't your husband clean it up a bit since he isn't working anymore? You are acting very responsible taking care of your family financial situation and it's admirable that you are working so hard, but you can't do everything alone. You need a support from your husband. If your kids are old enough to go to school then there isn't much work to do with them and they don't need to be watched all the time so your husband has plenty of time to do something productive. He can help you to keep your house clean for example. Remember that there are TWO adults responsible for your household in this family. So yeah, you are doing the right thing but you need to get your husband to do the right things too. Good luck with your work.

Hi andak! I also experience the same thing some months ago because aside from the fact that I have my offline work, I am trying my luck on the online world. But as of now I was able to adjust because I drop those sites that I am not earning much and just concentrated on the sites that I know can give me enough income. By the way what kind of work online do you have as of now?

I don't have a family and children yet so I couldn't really put my self in your shoes but I really admire how much you struggle to just keep the family and not let them starve. That's really an amazing act of courage and determination. I think, you just need to really balance your time with work and all what's needed to do to keep things going. But if you really want to spend more quality time with your family, you must really get another job. But if you can't yet, for the meantime, just hold on there.

I can fully appreciate what you're saying. At one time ran sales out of my home and all could do was look around at all the little things that weren't being done anymore because was glued to my phone for 9 hours a day. I do have to agree with what others have said here though. I can understand that you were a homemaker for many years and there is a certain amount of pride a woman takes in her home; but I see what others here have said and that you shouldn't carry that load on your own. You took care of home before you worked. Your husband worked and now he's home to help with the children. So, now that you're working I don't understand why he's not helping with the house as well. Your health will continue to suffer with lack of sleep. Sleep deprivation can really wear on a person. You sleeping when the kids are in school would give you a better schedule and really there is no reason why your husband can't manage the house. I would think he would be worried about you and your lack of sleep now that you are supporting the household with your income.

We are always complaining about how biased the society is towards the masculine gender. However, I would suggest you to stop taking it all upon yourself. I mean, what good would money bring if your health deteriorates in earning it and you are not able to enjoy with your family? You need to strike a conversation with your husband and define everyone's goal clearly. If he becomes a liability instead of help, then things will go out of hand.

What you have to do is that,you need househelp that can do the neccesary thing at home.

I'm with the other posters. Your husband quit his job. To what? Only send the kids to school and nothing else? Let him know you need some a lot more help from him than that so he's going to have to get rid of that caveman-esque thinking that cooking, laundry and other household chores is a woman's task only. If you have to, take some time aside to teach him how to do these things.

Well, I do not work from home. In fact I make the statement that I do not work at all! But just to answer your questions that conclude your discussion, I think from my point of view, you will be tired and you will have less free time, but it's worth it! You think only of the fact that I am almost 38 years I'm still unemployed. And for that I'm desperate! The work, whatever it is, is very important in life. Mainly due to the fact where you have specified that it allows you to have money and therefore to be economically better. Even though I would like to telework from home!

You said your husband dropped working. Cant he step in and do the house work while you work nights for the family? I mean that's the least thing that he could do for the family. It is not just you who need to clean up your act, he also needs to get his act together and start helping you out. That's what a family is about anyway, right?

Hi there ! Yes you are making the right decision ! What is wrong in fulfilling your responsibilities ? What is wrong in making ways to feed your children ? Nothing right ? Mothers are unsung heroes , working any kind of job just to be able to meet the kids' needs , forgetting even herself ! Husband must be there to support the wife or if he got no job and wife have, then no problem , exchange duties. He must take over wife's job at home without any hesitations. Wife must be able to enjoy what fathers are enjoying , no special privileges .

I work here online but I make, time to clean up things around here,I live with my niece,which I am trying hard to move out so that, I can have my own place,and when i get my own place i will have, to change my work schedule I will, work earlier and go to bed earlier, so that I can get all my work done, during the day.