what do you say about house husbands?

Traditionally it should be the man who will go out and bring food to the table. Times have changed and we are now in modern era, there should never be discrimination and it really does not matter who stays at home or who goes to work. My current situation: i earn a living and my husband takes care of the housework, it may hurt his ego that he is at this situation and believe i know it. For me it is just fine as long as we help each other and he wants to work again then it is still ok with me, when i was a fulltime homemaker--i also has this need to contribute to the income of the family but i know that it will affect the kids and the current home setting so i got contented with being a fulltime mother and wife for more than 5 years giving up my office work. Now that the situation has somehow shifted, i expect the same dedication to housework and cooperation but he somehow is failing at those department or maybe still adjusting. Everything is still temporary really so house husband is fine by me i do not know for him.

Hi Iluvusabado and welcome to my lot. Well it seems like your dad was just going through a hard time and needed a way to let his self not feel the pain and shame it would bring on him for not being able to provide for his family. I am glad that you believe in God. It is good that your mom has a job and is still working it takes a lot these days to live in this world. Nothing wrong with a man having to stay at home and take care of his children. I think it was because of all the stress they both was going through they had these spats don't think anything of it cause all people have them sometimes for no reason at all. Be thankful that they are still together and God did give your dad a job. Never be ashamed of what he had to do because of his age. People these days in the work force are always looking for younger people to hire for many reasons it wasn't your dads fault what happened to him. Thank God you have two loving parents. It is always wise for a man to be able to cook these days not many women want to be at home taking care of their family.

My husband is a househusband. We sometimes argue about it. He's pitying himself I guess. He wants to work but I guess he can't especially now that he's not 100% healthy. It's fine with me. I guess he's a better housekeeper. I can't cook well, he can. Our son is growing up, I guess he needs a father figure. Our son isn't asking for my presence yet. I am working in another city and I can only go home on weekends. He's earning from selling airtime cellphone loads, etc. I salute my husband. Staying at home and doing all the chores aren't that easy.

When we got married, the first business that we had was being a mango wholesaler. But sadly, we had lost money cause of him trusting too much with other people. But I still continued working in the pharmacy while he is at home. I am fine working if he could not find anything to do, but atleast he should help me with house work, right? But he didn't. All he did was to send and fetch my son from school. I was able to manage that kind of set up since we only had one child then. But after having 4 kids, and the petshop business we had was closed, he again remained out of work and all he does was gamble (c0ckfighting). I was so pissed off with him that it came to a point that I left the house. Well, since I was the one who left, he made everyone else think that I was the one to put to blame. Anyway, I was back home after 5 months and was hoping that somehow he realized what I was trying to point out. Guess what? He still didn't. So, I gave us my job and just become a stay at home mom. Good thing I still got some online jobs then, so it wasn't that hard for us. And now, he's got a job. So, all's okay.

I would be glad to make such agreement with my future husband. I hate housework and lets face it: housekeeping it's a full time work that isn't even properly appreciated. When you are at work no one controls you. You are doing your job for some time and then go home to rest. If you are keeping a house there is always something to do and it's your responsibility since that other person brings money to your house. That's why I would be very happy if my husband would took it on himself.

It really depends on the person. Most men are not comfortable with the idea of staying at home and let the wife earn. Role-reversals are not easily accepted in our society. Changing the mindset requires a shift in thinking pattern and thought process. Men can't handle that easily. But I think as long as the man and his wife are comfortable with this idea, there should not be a problem.

i dont see anything wrong about being a house husband. its not their fault if they cant find a good job.im sure their still a way to get an income without getting a regular office work.they can start a small business to help their wife raising their finances.

I would love a house husband! The roles of couples have changed. I don't think anything of the gender of who works because it's still contributing to the unit of the household. Raising a family and taking care of a household is and always should be a joint effort. I wouldn't matter to me who is without a job at anyone point as long as the function of the home is still taken care of.

It really never bothered me about my husband staying home and taking care of the house. He did a wonderful job at it. He did it till the day he passed. I couldnt ask for a better husband and he was happy at doing it.

House husbands can be as hard working and caring as housewives. We should not belittle them for their efforts. Nothing can be taken away from a job well done. A lot can be learned and admired from the one who stays home and takes care of all around them.

I have a friend like that, well just like your parents they are fighting all the time.. My friend's husband also worked abroad for a long time and decided to go home, but as you said that work today is hard to find. Out of frustration he started to get drunk everyday, he started to make jelous, became sensitive and irritable. I think that a normal character of a man without a job.

Couples should be helpful with each other.. it should be give and take so the marriage will work.. for instances like that it is fine to be a house husband but not forever., he should also look for a job so he can support his family., so he will not get that frustrated., in our environment it is men who should support his family.. but I think the mother and father should work together..

It's fine, of course. We're approaching an age where discrimination is no longer in our society, and that would include choice for males and females alike for this sort of thing.

Husband who stays at home while wife works sure it will trigger his pride thinking that he is underdog to her wife. But taking into consideration that while the wife is at work, house husband can do more household chores than an ordinary housewife. My father was a house husband when he was still alive but he have many accomplishments the whole day round, like washing the dishes, laundry, cook, took me to school, clean the house, take care of my little sister, daily marketing, fetched me in school, and before my mother got home, dinner is ready. And before he rest to bed, he still have to do some small chores, and he had no complain. Actually, it is how the couple arrange with the situation. There are husbands that they know where they stand, and to compensate the family good relationship, they accept and take responsible of the domestic obligations. I think this is just a matter of give and take. There are husbands that they cannot understand the term: "obligation" so when they are left at home and take responsible of the domestic chores, they think their pride being degraded. I salute to the house husbands who religiously take responsibility of their family obligations at home. It is not because he does most of the domestic activities they are helpless or being oppressed for not being able to provide your family's needs. There are many families with the same situation: a working wife and a house husband, and yet, they live a normal and happy situation. Bottom line here is give and take.

Whatever works. In my home, my husband works and pays the bills. Sometimes I work to help out, sometimes I don't. I don't have to work and I appreciate that. If I wanted to work and could afford for my husband to stay home, that would be fine too.

It has always baffled me where it seems the man has to go out and find a job and the woman's place is in the kitchen? It is a stereotype that's has been around for century's. But to be honest if I were a woman I would go out and find a job to make sure im bringing in money. I think that being a house husband is a fine idea.

I don't think theres something wrong with role reversals, in the first place who designated that men are supposed to work while the women are just to stay home and keep house? If the woman of the house happened to have a much higher and better paying job and the man of the house ended up finding nothing, then I think it is but right that they split responsibilities. That doesn't make the guy less of a person of of a man that he is if he works at home and be the one tending to the household chores and the kids. It's his equal responsibility as a parent and the husband to contribute whatever he can for the family.