Will you leave him for his being LAZY?

I would look at it this way. If he really cared about me, he wouldn't put the whole burden on me. Marriage is a partnership, and if one isn't doing his fair share, then you don't have much of a marriage. I would also look that he doesn't have very much pride as a man if he doesn't want to get off his lazy butt and get a job and take care of his woman. I couldn't deal with that. Jobs are hard to find anywhere these days, that's no excuse if you don't even make an effort. And apparently he has plenty of time to learn to read if he is sitting around the house doing nothing.

Lazy man is so annoying. I also have the same experience with my husband before. I always confront him with a mad voice but I found it unhealthy to our relationship so I made it in a different way. I talk to him in a very nice words and very calm way even deep inside I was very mad. :D After that he become a super hard working man and he really makes me proud after that conversation.

Well I'm a guy so I have a girlfriend but I don't think I would leave her for being lazy unless it really got annoying and she started to be a total moocher. She works hard though and so do I so there really isn't anything to worry about there. I have two jobs and she has three so we are doing pretty good right now. I used to be kind of lazy when I was younger and I sometimes wonder if my ex-girlfriend left me because I wasn't trying to find more work and because we weren't really going anywhere at the time. Now I have a lot of motivation though and am doing well in school as well.

I would first never get with a guy that was like this. Who had no ambition or no goals set for himself to better himself. I am ever so grateful that my husband is not like this. He would rather work then stay at home doing nothing while I was going off to work everyday. If he were to suddenly though decide to change his mind and become lazy and quit his job and have no goal or ambition in finding work elsewhere. I'm not sure what I would do, I would probably talk to him about what is going on with him and then make my decision from there. But I am definitely sure he would not flip the script and all of a sudden not work and stay home and be lazy all day. The question is, did she know he was like this before they got married, or did he just suddenly out of the blue start being like this.

If that's the case, the girl should really need to leave their man. The man will just be an additional to her burden. In our country, the Man should be the leader and provider for their family. But not at all time especially now. I will not tolerate such attitude, I have my own life to be taken care of as well as my children so why would I waste my time for a lazy, good for nothing man.

First of all,I have a question,why this girl get married with a man who was illiterate?Because usually a smart girl will find a much smarter boys to be her husband. And back to your case,I think illiterate is not a excuse to be lazy,people always can find a job fit him.

I think If ever i meet a guy, I would not want him anymore If i had discovered later on how lazy he is. i would most certainly be well aware of it and will be careful to scrutinize and see if he is a responsible person, if he has work, etc. i am just being practical, Love is everything but sometimes in this life it does require that men and women will work together to build a family and improve life. If a woman has to be the breadwinner, then something is wrong. Men should be the primary source of the income and not the women whose main task in the family is to care for the children. Now since it has become quite hard these days, women also finds jobs and helps the man - but that does not mean that the men should just stop working and will just wait for the lady to do everything. I have known someone who was laid off and while he was waiting to be hired, he sure helped around the house and he became house husband for a while... unlike your sample that he was really lazy and wasn't even helping at home. Well so what happened now is that he expedited his trying to find a work so he'd no longer have to work at home. ha ha... That is men are made of... to be working for the family, they are the provider not us women.. we are the support, we help them but we are not the primary(might as well be a single mom if you have to work as hard.)

My wife never says that she will leave me because I am lazy but she does get mad at me alot for not doing things around the house. I work second shift so I am home alone all day by myself with no one to bother me. She think I should get more work done except for being on the computer all day and taking naps. I do see her point and I try to help out when I can.

I can understand that it is not easy to find a job. But at least your friend's husband should try to look for it. Or at least I think it is alright for him to do some temporary job if he can't find a stable job at present. At least it shows that he makes efforts for this family. Even if he really can't find any jobs, at least he should take care of their child and be a stay-home dad for some time. He can do some housework so that your friend will feel better when she goes off work with a tiring body. This is what her husband can do. If not, this man is hopeless and really irresponsible.

If this is the case I think they should talk things over.The girl cannot force her husband to get a job just like any graduate because as I was reading the husband is having a hard time finding a decent job.There are alternative ways in order for him to get a job.There are companies who offer work now pay later schemes which for me is a good opportunity for people like her husband.It means he can work at the comfort of his own salary and pay it whenever he finishes his course.That way he can earn too and bring food to the table and he can help his wife to feed their family.

Well, if the husband doe not have a job, he should at least help his wife with regards to house works and tending to the kids. It takes a lot of patience and understanding to withstand such kind of person. I could have done the same. But I stayed. Good thing is my in laws help us out. If not, I would have never come back.

i think if that is the guy's attitude and he will not change for better, we will only fight about it and i will just suffer, maybe it is best to teach this guy a lesson and leave him. it is not enough reason that just because he is illiterate, he will only be contented with what and how he is. if he truly cares about his family, then he will do something and find a way as a husband and family man to be responsible enough and do his duties and responsibilities in any way he can and not just do all the vices and leave the wife and children to suffer and get hurt all the time, if that is the case then he shouldn't have gotten married in the first place,.

Hello fearlessgara, No I am not facing this like of problem. My boy friend is a very caring person. I am a student and he is also a student but he does a part-time job. And he makes a future plan of ours. So I am very lucky. But I know this matter very tough for girls to manage it. I thing in that situation, don't leave the boy friend or husband. You can talk to him.