If Your Dad Has Second Family, Are You Going to Ask Money From Him?

I think that the best thing in the world for a girl is knowing that her Daddy will always be there for her when she needs him. I would not have any problem asking my father for help and I know that he would have no problem giving it to me. That's what good dads are supposed to do. Ask your dad for money the worse that he can do is turn you down. Good luck I hope that your able to come up with the money to keep your internet on.

Well, regardless of where he is in his life now, he is still your dad. That should mean something, and he should be okay with you asking for help. I hope you feel better soon and I hope you get your finances in order! Good luck!

Well, if you are old enough to go out there and work, it might be a smart idea in the end to go out there and earn the money for the Internet yourself. I know that asking your Dad might be a temporary solution if he will do it, but you should focus on this yourself if this is something you really need. I know it is always best when you know it is you doing it, even if it takes out some of your Free time from something else.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you asking for help from your father. He is after your father and your well being should be a concern of his as well. I can understand you need for a temperary fix to get you out and about for applying for jobs. The online work will always be there, so would get a job so the income is steady and can always pick up online work as you go. When you're strapped for money it's always nice to have income you can bank on.

Whatever happened between your dad and mom should never affect you, the children. You still need to be in good terms with your father, after all he remains to be your dad even if he happens to have a second family. If I were you, I would swallow my pride and ask my father for help. Just give it a try and I hope he will accede to your request. If not it would be quite disappointing. On the other hand, try to look for work somewhere near and save what you earn to gain your independence and be able to do whatever you desire. It's really sad but oftentimes the separation of parents has always had a negative effect on children especially on the financial side. Good luck and I hope you reach the best decision for your own sake.

My dad has a second family, new wife and a doughter. I don't hesitate to ask him for money when I need it. I am his family too and I have the right to ask him to help me. This is normal. It shouldn't hurt anybody's pride. I'm not ashamed to ask for my dad's support when I need it. Usually he has no problem helping me and always sends me money when I ask. He even adds a little extra money sometimes to show that he cares. I can count on him.

I don't think you are ever going to make any significant amounts of money on-line. I think you need to get a job, full time. Unless your dad is making regular payments to your mum, then she should also be looking for work. Neither of you can just wait around for the money to come out of thin air. Yes, it's unfortunate that the family has been torn apart but now you have to face reality. Best of luck.

In the first place, I feel that you are already an adult who should be seeking for a job outside to be financially independent. If you father has a second family which I believe is against the law in your country and abandons this family of yours to fend for yourselves, then I think your mother and you can pursue him to fulfill his responsibilities for this family. I am not trying to discourage your online work but the fact that you are seeking money from your estranged father for mere internet bill simply sounds that you are in trouble. There is nothing impossible for you to work in real life and online at the same time to support yourself. I feel that this is much more pragmatic for you.

I think that you should ask your father for money, but to help you look for work outside of your house. I mean cause that only seems like the fix to all you and your mom's problems with finances that are going on. But you and your mom cannot keep on depending on your dad to bail you out everytime there is no money in the home. And your mom shouldn't even just be blaming your father for all the financial issues. My mom and my step father were divorced and she had a lot of financial issues and she did a lot of things to fix it. She never depended on my father to pull her out of those financial problems. She got two jobs, she got a better car and plus she is going to school. Ever since her and my dad got a divorce, she has been doing way better. And you too as well as your mother can pull yourself out of this financial rut. If your mom says that she cannot pay the internet bill and you are needing the internet to do online jobs, then the internet will have to go for awhile. Find other means of making money, like doing side jobs and finding work near you. I had this friend that I used to work with, she had no car and what she did was find a job that was near were she lived. And she walked back and forth to work every day. Sometimes it was at night time and sometimes she spent the night at the job. Just cause you don't have transportation to get to and from work, then how about looking for work near your home so you can walk to and from work. Is there a bus route, find jobs that are along the bus routes. But if you need money for transportation or money for food, then your dad should at least give you money, being that you are his child and apart of his family and he shouldn't want his child to be starving and if that is the type of father he is, then he will help you out and yes, you should ask him for the money. But like I said, try and fix the situation yourself so you don't have to keep going to your father for money. Good luck. There is always a way of pulling yourself out of a bad situation.

I will never be faced with this kind of a situation in my life because of the fact that my father passed away when I was a teenager. However, I do believe that if my dad was still alive and the situation was that he and my mother had divorced and I was faced with a financial crisis in my life, I wouldn't think twice about asking my father for help. The reason being that even though my parents were no longer together, she is still my mother and he is still my father and I believe that my father would have been the type of person that would have helped me if it was something that he was feasibly able to do.

I think you are old enough to figure out things for yourself and get out of problems on your own. And I am sure that you will feel good and proud of yourself once you get out of this mess relying to nobody else but yourself. It is no longer the fault of your dad if ever you guys have some financial troubles now. He might have his shortcomings when you guys are little but your mom can do something about it. I know lots of women who were abandoned by their husbands and have to fend for themselves and their kids. They never relied on anybody else's money, their strived to better themselves and they end up sending their kids to school, holding their jobs and their kids are far off better even though their dad is no longer with them. I am not saying that this is your mom's fault, just that I think a lot of time has passed and it is no longer worth your while to even dwell on that incident. You guys have to move on, and I don't think it is right for your mom to even say until now that the reason for the crisis is the mistress. Let your dad face the problems his actions have caused, and the karma that is due him. You move on and keep on doing the things you do best to better your situation. You are better than that, I know it is not hopeless. I know you may think that is is easy for me to say, but to be honest, we can only make a problem as difficult as we let them to be. I hope you didn't take my opinions the bad way, I wish you well and I sincerely hope you get back on your feet soon.

If he has a 2nd family, he still is responsible for the first one. Thats why men need to think before getting into 2nd relationships. Problems is many like my ex tend to forget about their first families real fast..

You should ask money from your dad as it is your right since you are also his child. He is obliged to support you as you are still family and are directly related to him. Just try asking him. If he gives you money then that is goods but if he doesn't, well that is okay too. However i dont think they will refuse you. I used to not ry asking money from my dad and it didnt do any good as i ddnt have enough money. But when i tried asking, he gave me anyway . Maybe he might not give you I'm not sure, but it is better to be wrong than. Not have tried at all.

well that is your dad and you have right to ask him money. why you should be shy for that when your dad are man and resposible for his family, even if has two families.

I think pride shouldn't be considered when times are tough. You need to demand from your dad or at least ask for assistance. He's got an obligation to you too, not just your step sister. The least he could do for cheating on your mom is to give support. I would. I would do that if my dad did that to us. I would demand even to the point of being ridiculous. hehehe.. Well, come to think of it, you're already working and I think you're already above legal age, so I doubt he still thinks that he has obligations to you. But it's worth a shot. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

If you can't bother to comment on the answers to your discussions because you are "so distressed" then I would not make a comment at all! up to you.

Since he is your Dad, I think it's not bad to ask his support because that is the obligation of parents even if they have their own family. The law is very clear that anyone parents who refuse such obligation as a father will be entitle to judicial proceedings to fulfill his obligation as a parents. If you think that your father, didn't provide something depending on your needs because he has no jobs or work, that maybr fine and acceptable. But if your father, have many means of resources to provide such request. There is no reason with your father, to refuse. So, your request is reasonable and nothing wrong with it unless you have a jobs and resources to provide your daily needs to make a living.

First, if you don't have an excellent relationship with the father, the answer is no. Don't ask money from people you are not in great standing with. It will cause problems for yourself. Second, only ask for money if you see it as a "fix" to the situation. For example, if you need money to repair a leaking roof on your home. The money would pay for the "fix". Then once fixed, it's done and over with. If you ask for money for electricity, or something like that, then it is not a fix. Because next month, you will need money again. In that case instead of asking for money, you need to change something. You can't arrange your life so you are dependent on someone else. You need to have a plan that you can succeed in without other peoples money. Third, if you do ask for money, understand that your Dad is now responsible for his new family. A man's primary responsibility is always to his own family first. He should not have divorced, but that fact is done. It's over with. You can not go back to before. So he may say no, and you need to be ready to accept that. He's primary duty is to his own family, and that isn't you anymore. It's sad and hurtful. But that's how it is. I do not understand why you need money to apply for a job. You never pay money to apply for a job here in the USA. Why do you do that there?

I think that you should allow your Father to still be part of your life. Most especially now that you need some financial help. Do you think he would mind? I don't think that you need to put up your pride if you know that your Father could really help you.

I can not imagine my life with my dad having a second family I feel the relationship between us would be the same nor do I think my dad would be with my mom. And as to your question No I do not think I would ask my dad for anything If he wasn't with us even if he was with us with a second family. I would feel wired and guilty because what if both sides are in financial crisis and it wouldn't be fair to only help one side. I am glad I am not in that position