I do not want to argue anymore.

Well arguing is a natural part of life, and it is not avoidable. There are two specific keys to arguing, that without them arguing will end up in something bad. The first thing is must learn to argue well. A good argument means that you never say anything mean. You be nice. "Well you are a jerk!" That's not good arguing, and you'll destroy a relationship. You must be able to discuss something you disagree on, without raising your voice, or saying anything hurtful. The second key to arguing, is resolution. There are two types of resolution. The first type is you persuade the other person. You talk about it, and one person convinces the other of their point of view. The second type, is the more difficult. This is where you simply accept that the other person is not going to see it your way, and you are not going to see it theirs. So you choose, you make the choice, to accept their view even if you do not agree with it. This is the, ok I don't think this is right, but I'm going to stand with you on this anyway, for the sake of our relationship. Now the key here is, when it turns out you were right, you are not allowed to say "See! I told you so!". Can't do that. You have to accept the choice of the other person, which means you can't complain about it when it turns out you were right. So there is good arguing and bad arguing. You have to choose to make it good.

I also do not want to argue with people. As much as possible I just let it pass. But if a person provokes me, then I might just give him a piece of my mind. It is not always that we have to just take in what others throw at us. They should also know how we feel.

I cannot help feeling a little out of sorts when you sounded more like a defeatist when you mentioned that you do not tend to argue anymore. You are right to walk away when you find that the situation is a lost cause or does not help a single bit going head on or that it is not the right time to address the issue. However, it would be wrong for not standing firm on your principles or when your bottom line is being overstepped or the situation or person warrants a telling off. There's nothing wrong when you stand up for what is right and when the other person is making a fool of himself/herself in front of others or putting others in some unnecessary risks or danger. At the other end, we can always be constructive to argue well and improve on the situations or relationships by giving due considerations to the timing, people and situation. I don't believe in cowering when the moment presents itself, so do play it by the ear and argue accordingly. You're not always wrong and there's nothing wrong about standing up on what you believe is right. Don't fail to do the right thing.

I am of the same nature.I never argue with anybody.I have learned that people are generally recalcitrant with their views and they won't like to change them.It hurts their ego.Arguing does not help.People feel you are imposing yourself on them.They never accept your views even if they know they are wrong.Moreover arguing generally causes hostilities.

We can always choose our battles. Sometimes, we have to say our piece just so people will know that we can never let anybody walk over us, that we can also stand up and fight for what we believe is right. That doesn't mean that we have to be nasty about it. Arguments are fine, as long as it is not something that would end up in insults and name calling and hurting people.

Arguing can bring light to a lot of things as long as it is done properly. The proper way to argue is to remain calm and leave your emotions out of the topic. Stick to scientific facts and discuss the topic objectively, dont use absolute words sch as alL, always, never etc. if they resort to attacking your personality in the midst of the argument, then they lose and by ny means, you can go by doing your own thing.

If you don't argue sometimes then you eventually stop communication. If you let things slide then your partner of friend will lose respect for you. Then you will lose your self respect. There is a way to argue/discuss a situation and a way not to do it. Obviously you need to discuss things when you are both in control of your emotions and not when you are angry. I think it's better to have things out in the open. If this is not possible then the relationship is not working. Move on.

Well that is a good attitude and it makes you a real wise person. Even the Bible says "even a fool when he holds his peace is counted wise". So how much wiser even is a normal person who can hold his peace? I admire your for that kind of of trait and for sure you are an ideal friend to make and the best person to be with. Angry argument will lead to nothing good. So when when one talks angrily it is better to give him a soft answer to turn away his angry spirit. It is like pouring a pail of cold water into the fire.

I know exactly what you mean in saying that you don't want to deal with confrontation in your life anymore and I'm that way as well. However, I have learned in my own life that keeping those things that I don't agree with bottled up all the time is something that I don't think is a good idea at all. The reason that I don't think that it is a good idea is because of the fact that if we keep things bottled up all the time, it is only going to mean that we are eventually going to end up blowing up.

Hi, You are right. Arguing has nothing to help anyway. When we have some differences of opinion with someone. We start arguing, shouting and all that and no one is willing to stop. It would lead to break our relations. Relations are like rubber. If it is stretched from both the ends it will break. But someone goes one step back and keep it lose at the one end then it remains as it. Keeping silence is the good remedy for overcoming anger.

yes, I don't argue too.. I just expressed my thoughts the best I can, maybe several trials but I can not keep long argument.

There are things worth arguing about and less important cases that aren't. It's very wise of you that you are able to stop yourself before things will go too far but don't forget that someone could take advantage of you if you are too submissive. You shouldn't let go when it comes to something important.

I agree. Arguing is never very helpful. Calm discussions are much more help, or calm debates, but flat out arguing just gets both people angry and shouting and is just pure negativity. It is much better to think before you say things, and when you're angry it is a lot tougher to do this. Therefore, calm discussions and negotiating is much better.