what really is it?

Well first off, you seem to be expecting him to act like he's married, when he's not. Understand, you are either married, or you are not married. Boyfriend... is just that. *BOY* *FRIEND*. That's what you call him Boyfriend. He's not a man. Men, get married. This is why you call him a *BOY* friend. Boy's have girl friends. This is a boy, and he's acting like a boy. This is what boys do. He's also just a friend. That's why you call him a boy *FRIEND*. If any other friend came around and started saying "You can't act like that" You would not listen to them. They are just *FRIENDS*. You don't get to tell your *Boy* *Friend* that he can't be friendly to other girls. You don't have that right. He's not your husband. If he was your husband, you'd call him "My husband". He's a friend. Friends and husband are two different things. 9 times out of 10, if a guy doesn't marry a girl, it's because he doesn't want to be married. He wants to go out to drinking parties with his boys. He want to flirt with other girls. He does not want to be a man. My guess, based on what you said, is that he wants to do exactly what he is doing. And he no intention of having something real, with you. You have been with this twit for 2 years, and he hasn't put a ring on your finger? That lack of action, tell me more about his heart in this, than any words he has ever said. Words are cheap. Actions are more important. His action says he doesn't love you. You want my suggestion? Dump him. Dump this twit. Move on. Find someone who actually wants something real, not just another girlfriend boyfriend thing.

Try to observe some more. What could be his motive for this? Are these actions of his intentional or not? Maybe there is something else that is bothering him. It's bad assume things. Making assumptions without real proof is bad, too. Maybe he think you don't trust him and that is why is upset? Do you know who this woman or girl is? Try to find out who she is and don't jump to conclusions, else you might make a big mistake and embarrass yourself. Always try to find confirmation and proof. Don't be carried away by suspicions alone.

I would be inclined to believe that the reason that your boyfriend asks you to come out and drink with him and his friends is because of the fact that he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. However, I think that the reason that he really doesn't seem all that happy about it is because of the fact that he really doesn't want you to join him because of the fact that he is afraid that he might get into some kind of trouble because of the people that he hangs out with when he is drinking.

It was like reading my life! But I think it would be best to not with him when he is drinking with his friends. Maybe he would want you to connect with his friends but not on that way. And just to keep your sanity intact, don't think of those girls whom he might be. Coz if he truly loves you, he would never ever do anything that would hurt you. I have learned not to be around the my husband's friend. And I think they see me differently and have that respect.

There are a lot of reasons why boys doesn't want their girl to come with them while drinking with his friends. First is, that is the only time that he could be free because there are some things that he cannot do while you are there. That is a boy thing but it doesn't necessarily means that he is cheating on you already. I'm sure you feel the same way too when you are with your girlfriends right?? You said that you know him having lots of girls right?? So, why did you still accepted him as your bf in the first place??? I think you have some TRUST issues with him.. and you should talk about it. It is okay to socialize with his friends but not in a sense that you should always be present at all times to their gatherings. MAybe you can come once in a while. Also with his gesture of inviting you, I think you should be thankful in that case because he still considers you to come eveb if he doesn't want too. LIke in my case, my boyfriend ask me to come with him because he and his pipz are drinking and then most of the I refuse I know for a fact that he will not enjoy because I am there and instead of having fun he must focus on me if im ok or not? Do you get what I mean? DO not think too much.... your boyfriend loves you =) BE HAPPY haha,,, too much explaining right?? hahah sorry =)

well, if that was my matter, I would kick out the one who makes tenssion in my mind about why he is doing this or that? because I have a drunk man and I wish he was my bf not husband and I could kick him out of my life to stop all of those worry thoughts... but for you, maybe he is jealouse on you while you talk and join frinds. anyway it all depends on love and trust of each other.

Hi there! I think there are a lot of reasons why your bf is not happy or does not want to bring you to their drinking sessions, and i wonder though why you would even want to join them? First, you should give him the time to be with his male friends, do not impose on him to always invite you whenever he has drinking sessions with his guy friends. I would say that that most men just have this with their friends and is not comfortable to be with their partners. I happen to be around one time when I was with my bf, All of them were boys drinking and chatting - so I just left and told my boyfriend i no longer want to be around when he has drinking sessions with friends. i mean, they should be able to talk freely with no partners around. boys will be boys and give them the time to bonding. (This is like our girl bonding... we talk freely with our girl friends. :D) Second, Do not jump into conclusions, right away that he is up to something when he is with his friends... give him the benefit of the doubt. It is okay for you to try to know, but never assume still. So what if he is close with girls, let him know and tell him directly not to be doing things you won't approve of, there is no need for you to watch his every move.

I could understand him wanting to have drinks with the boys but not if other girls are there. Sounds to me like he thinks you don't fit in, like he is ashamed of you or embarrassed by you. Sweety, being in love should not be like this. It should be happy and carefree and the two of you should want to be with each other getting to know each other and talking of your hopes and dreams. You seem to be a nice girl who is easy going, loving and considerate of his feelings. He seems secretive, selfish and controlling. I would find someone you can be happy with if I were you. We tend to waste a lot of time when we fall for the wrong person then the longer we are with them the unhappier we become and the harder it is to get away.

He is giving you mixed signals . The reason why can be many things. What I don't like to hear is this guy Not respecting your right to talk when you are out with friends. The best thing to do is sit him down and tell him how you feel and see how he Really feels for you.

Whats not understandable is why you go out with this guy and your buddies when you aren't wanted around. Either he blocks your conversations because he's too jealous or he is annoyed by the things you say. Bring a little recorder with you one time when you are having a discussion with his friends and play it back to yourself later. This will help you to hear yourself from another point of view. Better yet, talk to him personally and find out why he treats you this way. One thing for sure is you've got some huge trust issues that you need to solve.

Hi! I remember going through something like that and I felt the same as you do. I think his attitude is this way because its where he can be by himself or with the guys. In regards to you being social and him cutting you off mid-sentence, he may feel mas though somehow you're encroaching on his turf. I know that this seems incredibly silly but sometimes this is how guys can act; they feel caged in and they'll panic. I remember I dated someone and I was a bridesmaid at his sisters wedding. Everywhere he turned, someone was talking about the wedding and he started bailing out on me; we'd make plans and more often than not, something would conveniently come up at the last minute. He knew what he was doing was wrong (and it didn't help he dated some mistakes before too) and after 9 months of this, I said "Fix your life then come back." Basically, he panicked. In the meantime, is there something that you can do to keep yourself busy? I don't mean to the extreme where you have no time for him but to the point where you're happy. Can you take a class to improve on a hobby or a professional skill? Also, perhaps talk with him when he is in a good and receptive mood. If you attack him verbally, it could backfire whereas if you both can talk well together, it could really benefit you both! Best of luck!

Only you can actually say if what he's doing or how he's acting whenever you're around, whether it is just the two of you or with some people, is something that should concern you greatly. If it feels like something is wrong, it probably is. YOu can never really tell or pinpoint what that is until you get to sit down and talk to him about that nagging feeling that you have whenever he talks about his other girl friends or whenever you two are out with his friends.

i think he is either the jealous type and much as he invites you to be with his friends he does not want you being too friendly with them or else he is scared you will say something embarrassing.next time he puts you down check on what you were talking about and see if its the topic he doesnt want or if there is more to it than you think.

Most men like flirting with women when their girlfriends are not around, and this does not mean they don't love their girlfriends/wives.This can make men uncomfortable if they bring their partners to the joints they frequent with their male friends.I think the best thing is to choose some days to accompany him without his friends and see how he reacts.

Hi there! I think there are a lot of reasons why your bf is not happy or does not want to bring you to their drinking sessions, and i wonder though why you would even want to join them? First, you should give him the time to be with his male friends, do not impose on him to always invite you whenever he has drinking sessions with his guy friends. I would say that that most men just have this with their friends and is not comfortable to be with their partners. I happen to be around one time when I was with my bf, All of them were boys drinking and chatting - so I just left and told my boyfriend i no longer want to be around when he has drinking sessions with friends. i mean, they should be able to talk freely with no partners around. boys will be boys and give them the time to bonding. (This is like our girl bonding... we talk freely with our girl friends. :D) Second, Do not jump into conclusions, right away that he is up to something when he is with his friends... give him the benefit of the doubt. It is okay for you to try to know, but never assume still. So what if he is close with girls, let him know and tell him directly not to be doing things you won't approve of, there is no need for you to watch his every move.

I think he is jealous and my suffer from low selfsteem and he is scare you my be come popular in his circle of friends! just ask him what's his problem if he don't want you there why invite you?

Honestly, as much as possible I do not want my boyfriend to come to my friend's party. It is not that your boyfriend do not love you and it is not that I do not love my boyfriend it is just that I need some privacy and I do not want restrictions. I know I won't be able to tell all things to my friends because of the presence of my boyfriend. So if I were you, do not jump into conclusions right away. Talk to your boyfriend and try to understand him.