My daughter
By sharlahodges
@sharlahodges (813)
United States
February 17, 2013 10:24pm CST
I getting so feud up with my sin in law. He is married to one of my daughter and she has a twin sister. My daughter that is not married has been dating a guy for 7 months and he hates him. He is not my favorite person but like my husband and myself says she is 31 and we can not tell her who she can date. He is so controlling it is driving me crazy. She came over to their house tonight and when it was time for her and her daughter to go home he got so mad because she was not spending the night. We think it is ridiculous for them to spend the night anyway but he thinks every time she is off the next day they should spend the night. Her daughter likes to sleep in her bed. I do not know what to do and none of us do anymore.
7 responses
@Summer_Lee (39)
• China
18 Feb 13
I know this kind of person completely.
They just can't concentrate on themselves.People like your son in law,they are short of sense of security.They want more care,concentrate,they fear of lost,so they always wanna control everything.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
19 Feb 13
It's out of place for him to control his sister-in-law, but he does anyway. I can only imagine he'd be so much more controlling of his own wife. I understand his wife and his sister-in-law are twins, but they are two different person and he should leave the sister-in-law alone.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
19 Feb 13
Interesting that a son-in-law takes so much interest in his sister-in-laws relationship.
Controlling he might be but the more he pushes the farther away your daughter will be walking away from the family. If she feels manipulated on both sides, then she isn't getting any 'neutral' ground to stand on. She's in constant drama no matter where she's at.
He needs to butt out and let her deal with it all her own. She is old enough to decide for herself. 
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
18 Feb 13
Well, the children with their problems. Do you even know me and my younger brother, despite our mature age, we are still in the house, the dependence of our dear parents, neither of them work unfortunately!
In the case of your daughter, you know I could not fully understand your question. She comes out seven months with a person for you parents, is not well.
But I ask you: Your daughter is really in love with this guy?
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
18 Feb 13
Who are you talking about? The twin and her boyfriend or your son in law and daughter? I've read your post twice and I'm confused whe 'he' and 'she' is. I'm answering from my email, so I haven't seen any other responses yet.
With what I just said, I think every parent of adult children get upset when they see their daughter or son in a controlling relationship or marriage. All we can do is let them live their lives and support them however we can.
@sharlahodges (813)
• United States
18 Feb 13
I am sorry if it is confusing. Let me explain it. I am referring to my daughter that is not married and her brother in law which is my son in law. My son in law does not like the guy she is dating so he thinks he can control her and she will eventually break up. My son in law thinks her boyfriend is controlling her which he is to some extent but he is controlling her thinking she will break up with him. I hope you understand what I am trying to say now.
@teotimoponcerosacena (1551)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
That's the problem she was already on the proper age to decide. Anyway just don't forget you are still her parents and you still have the responsibility for her to be in the right tract. Just do what you think is right, for me I will speak to her in a nice way, till she will be a little bit more closer, who knows she just want companionship someone to talk.
