COURTSHIP = LONG or SHORT terms???

@dianon_ice14 I feel same as you do . The guy`s effort seems unmaterialising .

Maybe He just got tired but it doesn't necessarily mean that he fell out of love for the girl. The girl should really decide now before it's too late. You have to give a good advice to your friend to really weigh her heart if she really likes the boy.

Well, no matter how long the courtship is if the guy loves you he will persevere. Though maybe since nowadays courtship is short and maybe he knows that, he grew tired because despite his effort you still won't answer him a yes. Me, i don't believe in long courtship. And if i don't like a suitor, i tell him outright.

I don't know with other girls out there, but I still believe in long courtship or shall say " I am hard to get". I want a fairy tail love story, when I was a child I always promised myself that when I fall in love I wanted to have 1 boyfriend and 1 husband in my life.. ( super ideal) that's why I let my boyfriend courted me for almost a year, for that period of courtship I became open to him, I showed to him that early what really I am, my wants, my interests, my lifestyle,my dreams, my principles in life, I laid all the details of my life - the good or bad. I made a series of tests without his knowledge, my purpose that time is to know his real attitude and intention to me.I even tried to go with other guys for the date as my one way to test his perseverance and sincerity. He undergone so much hardship before he got my YES. But it's worth it, we are still together for 10 years now.. happy and contented.

it is good to have a courtship duration that will make you sure of your feeling and also learn about the character of the other person.it depends on how you know and met them ,if you decide to court your friend you already know alot about them it can take a shorter time but if its a total stranger to you its best you take time to know them well before making a commitment.

5 months is long enough for the boy and the girl to decide if they are going to get more serious in their relationship or not. If the answer is no, they can go their separate ways and still be friends. However, either the girl or the boy should initiate the talking about it if they want to be sure which way the relationship is going :)

Long or Short? It doesn't matter. I don't know... because it depends.. what if there is something wrong or something that bothers the guy that he needs to prioritize at the moment... and since your friend is not his girlfriend yet.. maybe he does not want to bother her with his problem... I guess your friend should be courageously enough to ask what's bothering him. But if the guy told her it is because its been a while since he is courting her and he does not get the answer he wants... I don't think your friend should say yes... because a man who have a true intention to someone and sure of what he is professing to someone know how to wait and will be patiently waiting until the girl is ready to be in a relationship with him. A guy who base his love in emotions... are guys who also fell out of love when that emotions fade. Choose someone who are willing to commit... Emotions fade... Committed people will stick beside you because he decided to love you no matter how long you've been together and no matter how relationship become rough... That's love it never change.

There are so much samples around me.And I think that many men are lack of patience. Also I can not understand your firend why did not accept him ASAP since you like the boy.Did she doubt herself's feeling?Or doubt the boy'love? Then, I think the boy stopped to court maybe he also doubt that whether your friend love him.

As a boy,from the boy's point of view,I think the courtship of 5 months is long enough,if I chase a girl more than 5 months but without a reply,then I think I will get over her and move on,because in our socitey time is very precious.

If that boy really love her he will never stop on courting. But if your friend also had a feeling to him she should reveal it than to lost someone like him. The better is he and she should talk about it.

Maybe she should decide now what to do and talk to the boy. Courtship nowadays, are not that rampant and people tend to date and commit easily. And maybe peers around the boy also affects his courtship to the girl. I am sure he is asking for some advice to his friends depending on what to expect to this girl. It also depends on the age. If she really likes the boy, she should tell him so that the boy knows that they can be together someday.

Your right the boy is maybe for just another experience. There's no short or long in the relationship what matters is how responsible and matured are you ? I give you an example my wife and I just meet for a matters of days, we got married and now it is about 30 years now we are still together and going strong. We was married twice one in Church and the other is Civil. Relation outside is just for tripping and pleasure.

In that case you will see how determine the guy is............ I had a suitor before who courted me for years and he get busted by me for many times but he was so persitent though we often see each other...he only stopped when ,,,,,,maybe he realized he had nothing to hope for from me ...h ehe So if that guy really likes her he should not give up until he wins her heart... If that guy stops pursuing her it only means that he's not that serious , because he's becoming impatient...

From PBB Teens and I qoute" It's the relationship you prolong, not the courtship" lol my opinion is , the time they spent on courting (which most probablly the boy just steps his best foot forward), instead spent it in the real thing by getting-to-know each other tey might have had established something and from there they would acknowledge the sense of responsibility and commitment, maybe just maybe by now they would have ended in each others arm if it worked or have already gone separate ways if it didn't work out.