Single or married?
By deine86
@deine86 (115)
Philippines
February 18, 2013 2:49am CST
Five years ago I had a suitor, but unfortunately we didn't have a chance to be together in a relationship because I didn't give him the chance to court me, it's because I'm too workaholic and have no time for this love thing. Then months passed and I heard that he's courting my friend. I'm so happy for them seeing them together, because I knew that this guy is a man that every woman would ever want. So kind, sweet, thoughtful, gentle and handsome. I feel like there's no jealousy at all or anything. Then I realized that maybe I don't have feelings for this guy. The last thing I heard is that they get married and live a happy life and they are blessed with two kids.
Now I'm happy being single, many people told me to get married, especially my mom but I think I can't commit to a person right now. But they said time is running out for me. Well now I'm turning 27, do I have to get married when I'm happy being single?
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12 responses
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
18 Feb 13
Oh don't worry, if it will happen, it will happen but for the moment your doing great by enjoying your life and not hurrying up to be with someone. Don't worry about the age also,like they said it's just a number. You'd be thankful one day to marry with an older age because you'd be more mature in handling situations with someone you'll be sharing your life for the first time.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
18 Feb 13
It is depends to you. I am not agree to marry just because of age and time. in my idea, people can marry when really they are mature enough to accept the responsibility of new life and new partner as marriage is not a game. It needs person to get ready for that and I have heared for evrybody it has diffrent time so let your time comes. as I am married one but wish really to be single. maybe if I had this knowlege before about marriage I would never marry in my life. but for you, just see whenever if you feel happy with somebody to accpet him for your life and see can you really be happy in that life with that person or you can be happy with being single? it is diffrent and depends to ideas of people.
@deine86 (115)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Yeah I also agree, because I don't want to be tied up with someone to satisfy others opinion. I mean it's also unfair for the guy to be in a relationship that he's the only person who wants it. I would rather be an old maid than to do such thing to a man. Thanks for the advise.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
21 Feb 13
Hell No! The main word is happy. If you are happy as you are Remain single. The best way to be miserable is to do what others say you should do when you are already happy. 27 is no way old. Women are havig kids in their 40's! So there is plenty of time for children. And today you don't have to marry to have kids. Plus you don't have to marry to remain in love. All of this is up to you ! Not mom , not society but you! So I say follow your bliss. If you are happy being single , Remain Single! Take Care.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
18 Feb 13
Nothing is wrong being single , if you are happy dont let anyone pressure you to be married . You should only married because you are in love and you want to get married to that person .
You are young you can marry in your 30s and start a family then . I am happy for your friend too , they deserved to be happy as well .
@Janurmas (642)
• Indonesia
18 Feb 13
Just follow your conscience. I it says that you are better to be single, just enjoy being single. But in my opinion, it is better to have married with someone that really love you and would like to commit to live together with you. I am a single, and am 27 year old. I am a male an I still not planning for a marriage, because I still want to continue to get my master degree. After I get a master degree and get a job of my desire, then I would like to think of marriage. About work, a marriage couple still can go to work as usual as long as the couple has mutual understanding each other. Enjoy your life.
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
28 Oct 15
Married or not married is a choice. We can choose one of the two, and it is our right. Every choice has consequences that are inherent in our lives. So which option you? It is up to you.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
18 Feb 13
I don't think people have to get married anymore. You should have an actual reason to get married, so if you're happy single, then there is no reason to get married. It's not like you can't change your mind later if something changes, so why worry about it?
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
18 Feb 13
No one has to get married if they don't wish too ever; plain and simple. You didn't get upset about your friend and this guy because you were not in love or had any type of deep feelings for him. If you had these types of feelings for him for sure you would have been upset and or jealous. You can live the rest of your life single if you wish you don't need to be married or think you need to be married to be happy. You live to please yourself and that is all you need to do. If you end up falling in love down the line you will then know if its suppose to be headed towards a marriage or not. Until then just be happy being single. 
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
No one can give you happiness unless you feel it yourself. And you should not force yourself into a marriage just because they think that they should. being single doesn't mean being lonely and sad, right? Stay were your heart is.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
18 Feb 13
Well, just because you got married doesn't mean you will be forever happy, and just because you're single doesn't mean that you are runnin out of time. Out of time for what? Is there a deadline as to when someone should get married or have kids? Marriage isn't for everyone and it is not something that should be forced upon us or decided for us by someone else.
@Ashu1970 (63)
• India
19 Feb 13
Single or Married, what is important to me is enjoy life which is a great gift of god. Both situations have their pros and and cons. Many things you can do being single cannot be done when you are married and vice a versa. But it is ultimately an individuals choice. However, such decisions may have a social compulsions in some regions like your mom telling you to get married. What is important to me is enjoy life.
@mondaylover (183)
• Poland
18 Feb 13
I can see that you have other priorities than love and creating family. You certainly don't have to get married to be happy especially if your happy being single. But you should think about what you really want and if what you will want in the future. Do you think that you would like to do something else with your life after you'll be already satisfied with your work? If you think about having kids in the future then your time is a bit limited. There is still much time left but you should slowly start to make a room in your life for having a family.
