How not to hate back those who openly hate you?

Like my parents always told me," there are always going to be haters. No matter what you do, or how you are." I know that feeling I am a shy, kind, simple person, but I guess some people came to dislike it and I don't like that. I met a new friend two months ago at school she is a very cool girl. I went to the movies with her a couple weeks ago, but she then told me that her sister didn't like me. I was like I never met your sister. Why does she dislike me? Her sister said," you are a fake nice guy, you are just trying to use her you b****!" I didn't know how to react. I got bothered and told her in response," it's not my fault she befriends or likes a**h****!" She has no reason to say that I have never met her nor has she met me. I just felt a little bad like what do I do to make people think of me badly. Oh well I guess it's one of the obstacles of life.

You could try asking something like, "What makes you feel this way about my nationality (or gender, or color, or religion)?". Find out what makes the other people tick. Often - they won't have a "real" answer. On the other hand, I stay away from haters. They aren't worth my time. Sometimes I want to say, "It must be nice to be so perfect". Once, several years ago, someone said something awful when finding out I was a Catholic. I asked the person what she knew about Catholics. Turned out to be a lot of lies and myths.

If i encounter people like that, i would certainly talk to them on why they hate me. At least, if i know that i can reform my not good ways, i will do it, so they won't hate me for it. But if it's something contrary to my belief , i won't. I would simply just distance myself from them.

If people just attack me by my personality,then may be I will feel that is OK and I can see my flaw in this way and make improvement,but if people attack my nationality,race or religion,then I will feel angry and will speak out my comments,and from another point of view,usually people should not attack these otherwise they are rude person and show less respect to others,so I will just ignore this kind of people.

Just forget them and do what is right after all who are they as long as you have done nothing wrong, enjoy life stop thinking negative, think positive and move on.

If I heard some people speak ill of me,I will be very angry in my first response.However when I calm down,I will tell myself that just smile,do not haggle with them,those gossip won't hurt me,I will be stronger.

Life isn't always perfect. We always do not have friends around us and there will always be times when we are opposed. Most of the time we just let them be just turn a deaf ear so we can just often just move past it... but when it gets really personal such as this and even your race or beliefs is bashed... i think you will have to protect yourself. It is ok to be polite. It is best to be humble but it does not mean and you should not ever let them feel or have an idea that you are weak and afraid of them. If you are not the confrontational type then maybe you can raise the issue with your immediate superior and let them know what treatment others are giving you in a workplace. People who hate me or does not like me can hate me but i would love myself and will not feel insecure. I know they must hate me because they see something in me that they can never have.

Just continue being polite. Nothing will be solved if you fight back. I suggest you try to talk them in a diplomatic way and ask them if they could stop doing those things because it is already hurting you, If they don't listen and still continue to do the same things then just ignore them. It will hurt and will hurt more as they repeat those hurtful things but you just have to not listen to them and not let them ruin you. Whenever I feel I am undermined because of my race, I just keep my cool and show them that I am not simply defined by my race, that I can do so much better, even better than them. I will also not give them an excuse to prove that what they're saying about me is true because I got angry and tried to talk back at them.

You can not control the feelings that other people will have for you. That is their own cross to bear and problem to deal with. You can only control your own feelings. Hating someone that hates you does not change anything. Hate is a very strong emotion and does not make the world a at all. Hate can turn into something so much bigger. Controlling your own anger and hatred is much easier to control when ou don't vent it on someone who is feeling the same way.

Been in that situation for so long. And now I have learned to just ignore them and keep my sanity.

Oh no, you don't need to even care about those low class words from those low level beings. They think they are superior. They think they know better. They think they are in the right. They just do not know that the hurting words that come out from their foaming mouth will condemn them to suffer in hell when their time come. Don't respond to them like you won't argue with barking dogs. There is nothing wrong with being polite and humble - that is what upright human beings are. These are good virtues. These are your weapons. Show the world what your nationality, race and religion is like. Show to those apes that they can do like monkeys as much as they want but you will just ignore them completely. They do that to you expecting a response. If you remain unmoved, they will go crazy like a monkey. If it is possible, stay away from them. It is bad to have to always meet those animals.

That is definitely a hard thing to tell. I am still in the process of learning it. Anyhow, I still would like to throw in some suggestion. Probably the best thing to do is ignore them which I know a very hard thing to do. I have tried to do this... and sometimes I succeeded but most of the time not, specially when the hates comes from people you know and they though they know you better. My best strategy though is avoid them so that I won't hear or see anything that would make me hate them the more. The more that I don't see them the more that it heals the wounds.

My inlaws used to attack on my nationality , respect and religions all time and I really hurt. but I have force to be quiet and give them respect and smile because my husband is too wild man and will react terrible if I react on bad behave of his family. and for that I really hate them too much and this matter became unforgivable for me. if we are able to react and make ourself empty of that emotion is too much better than being quiet and keeping it inside becuse for me, result has become only to hate them that much. in my idea we should respect people and not misbehave them on sensitive matters like talking about national or religions...

The stupidest thing you can do is to try to argue with the hater. That kind of people have already made up their minds and will hate you no matter what. The best that you can do is ignore them completly. Just don't give them any satisfaction and don't let them provoke you cause you can end up looking like them. I know it's hard just to let it slide when someone attack something that you are supposed to be proud of like your race, nationality or religion but don't let people like this poisoned your thoughts with hatred. It's not worth it.