How do you handle favoritism?

I do not understand why some people make diffrence like that? I also remeber that in my childhood my grandparents were paying alot of attention on my cousins but not that much on me and my sister. well, maybe they have reason for that. anyway we can not force anybody to love us but we can be lovely one with our sweet and kind nature.

I guess the best way to do is to give her more attention and show your love and concern to her. Maybe in that way, she would be able to see what you really are.

My grandfather favoured one of my cousins. But it made sense - this cousin was the one who had the most in common with him - they liked similar stuff. And my cousin spent plenty of time with our grandfather, and clearly listened to our grandfather and cared about him, even when we were children. So it was easy to see why my cousin was the favourite.

As you said that this is common in our life,so just forget it and don't let unhappy things disturbing you.I know that you don't feel well about this but if you care too much and more hurt you'll get.So hope you realize this and just neglect it.

Well this also happens in my family, my father's favorite is obviously my sis, my brother can't ignore it sometimes, because he thinks his the least favorite, but I know our father loves us all, so I just let it be. I know it stings sometimes because of the fact that we also want an equal attention. But then I guess we can't really force someone to change how they feel. Just try not to be jealous with your other cousins and do things you can be proud for yourself.

Tell me about it. In my family there is a lot of cases of favoritism and I try my best to keep away as I do not meddle in these things.My grandmother is a professional at favoritism when it comes to some of us her grandchildren. However, she is now suffering because of her attitude of favoritism towards two of my cousins. Both of them now that they are all grown ups does not respect her like we the least favored ones does. They give her headaches and does not have respect for her at all.

It happens everywhere. Then why let family be different. It is best to just ignore it. If it is too much just dont go there often. Do only what she asks of you and nothing more. Do it with grace. And just leave it. Life is a circle. She will get it back one day and realize what she does to you.

I would ignore it if I were you. Just mind your own and aim for self improvement. You only need yourselves to accept yourselves.

I try not to deal with it. My father has been that way for many years with my 2 sisters. We say here they are his princesses and IM his *(^%. Oh well.

Hello friend ! Oh my i can relate with your rants. That too is happening in our family. I am not the favorite , not by grandma but by mom herself. Since ages up to date . I can see unfairness so obvious right in my very eye. Bfeore when i was young , i don't complain but just kept inside the pain later on when i grew old , i would right there and then told mommy what ever i have observed that i don't liked but nothing happened , it's okay i guess what best thing to do is to accept and understand everything . Sometimes we can never forced others to like and love us then let it be ! Life doesn't end there ! Still being unloved doesn't make us love them less . We know what is right , good and kind then that would be the best things that we will be doing in this journey called life....

I just ignore it. They're still family so I love them even if they don't love me that much. As long as they don't hit me or attack me or molest me. Favoritism is common in families and even if I'm not one of the favorites, I just try my best to be a good person for them and still love them.

seams like this is all to commin in our lifes when this happen to me i just stopped going and when i got the call i told them how i was feeling and then hung up a few days later i got a letter in the mail saying how sorry they was and things have gotten alot better since