Is Like now obsolete?

hi sjvg of course but I am just saying how come we all cannot see a bit of the good things around us. The sun is shining, the birds are singing the grass is green there are marshmallow clouds against the blue sky so why not enjoy for awhile. I know there are all sorts of things that are wrong and all of us hve problems but drowning ourselves in our problems will not solve them but only make us depressed and stressed out. Even our doctors tell us s miling and laughter are good for our health.

hi ravi five years ago I broke my shoulder so badly I had to have a shoulder joint replacement and that meant 20 days in a rehab hospital., I got to really admire this therapist that would not let me give up on myself,. I had a balance problem and he made me keep walking learning how to use a quad cane. I would want to give up and he would say to me" You can always do more than you think you can" so I walked to the point he suggested and he was right there then with the wheelchair.so little by little I got so I could walk all around n the whole floor I was on so then I was ready to go home. then two years ago I had a bad fall and twisted my knee. He was still there and he again kept encouraging me so I really did well with the walker and I could d again go home .I have since used that a lot in my life here and its served me pretty well too.

Aunty-- I forgot to add that I like your this discussion. nice aunty.

Gotta watch those marshmallows, they are packed with bad sugar, so in a way I am glad you didn't have them, but I hope you also didn't pay for them? I know sometimes my husband will leave stuff at the store and he calls them up right away. That way next time he is in town, he can pick up what he forgot.

hi carm coping skills sounds great and should be easy to learn and get good grades on. I also get negative like when I see my dismal earnings. I made myself positive this noon by seeing the sun shining and hearing the birds singing. and actually feel a quiet happiness. The sky is really a deep blue with s mall puffy white clouds and some contrails from some way up there airplane. There are just a few little puffs of clouds like marshmallows. Speaking of marshmallows I picked up a package last night when i was out shopping and because at the time I did not know it I was running high blood sugar I had a time just shopping then getting my walker out of my friends car I dumped two of my bags off the walker and she helped me to get it all picked up. I had everything but the package of marshmallows when I got home.,. lol So I finally checked my blood sugar and it was 200 darn. I ate a whole baked potato at dinner when I should have cut it in half as it was ginormous., I did know better. I kept wondering why I was shaky and out of breath . i do promise myself to do much better as too high blood sugar is just not good for me.

hi bunnybon oh thats right its all like which too could get sort of boring lol No I am never mad at you at all.I just realized this mornibng that although I have plenty of health problems I was just quietly happy for no good reason except the sun is shining , the grass is riz, and I know where all the littl birdies is to quote an old saying. the birds were really singing this morning and some where a couple of pear trees are in bloom and their scent is so sweet its lovely to smell. Unlike the usual ripe odor from the Vietnamese grocery' dumpsters.

hi PointlessQuestions you have such a way with words I love to read your responses. Yes I have mixed feelings about Obama too. I stay clear of politics as I just get bruised and hurt when I responded to just one discussion. They sure know how to flame and not get deleted too. lol Politics does separate people. My childhood best friend now for 86 years just dumped me because I dared to be a democrat. sad and it hurt too.And religion I dared to say anything and she got mad at me.I hated that as I really had loved her from childhood on. She still does send me lots of articles but no more personal letters about our home town and our lives at all.,I miss that and I did try to send my own letters in hope she would respond the same way but she refuses to. But today I am quietly happy for no good reason other than the sun is shining and the birds are singing/

I know what you mean. When I don't agree on certain issues at home there is a heated young lashing coming to me. I'm so sorry you lost your friend. She should agree to disagree and live you back. I will always be your friend Auntie. You have become a precious part of my life. I'm hanging on to you as part of my family.

Edit: love you back...not live. This virtual keyboard has a mind of its own.

hi bhansb oh thats so true as we need to see all the beauty God gave us and its all around us too. the laughter of children and the trust in their eyes. the birds singing and flowers blooming and lovers walking harm in arm. beauty is there if we will reach out and see it.

hi bhanusb yes I guess it really is and somehow maybe it makes the person feel superior knowing he or she does not share that lack. Somehow this morning reading discussions about how the poster does not like people who do this or that really did depress me, then I looked out the window and the sun is shining and people are going about their work and smiling and laughing and I felt a quiet joy surge over me. Okay I have plenty of my own problems but dwelling on them all day does not solve them and frowning and being gloomy makes me depressed.So I began to wonder how come nobody writes about how they like something anymore. So here I am saying I like bubble gum, rainbows. kittens and puppies, laughter and babies and sunshine and smiling and being happy for no good reason just because.

Hi Hatley if we can open the windows of our mind every thing will become beautiful to us.

hi lumenmom I do get down when I read some discussions about how we dislike people who do this or do that, as if there is nothing left in the world but negative people doing negative things. Okay so thats the real world but really is it? There are so many good peoople out there doing wonderful things to help us all and we never talk about them., The doctors who work to keep you well, the nurses who give of themselves every day, the paramedics who rush to save lives these are good uplifting people.Moms who give of themselves every day for all their gaily and do it willingly with love and joy. I have health problems and money problems too but I don't choose to dwell on them.I looked out my window and saw the sun shining the sky that wnderful deep blue and the Vietnamese workers thronging into the store t o start their workday and I feel a quiet joy.

thatgs it as even when my son and I were evicted because he losthis job and we got behind on the re nt and were homeless and for one week we had to stay in the Salvation Army's Hospitality House my son still saw beauty all around us and he keep me from going to pieces completely. He got me in here at Gold Crest Retirement Center and I pay for it with my social security and SSI checks.He is now working full time and has a one bedroom section 8 apartment which only costs him 400 dollars a month as opposed to the going rate of one thousand dollars a month.We did srvive

You are so right, there is a whole lot of beauty and good things in this life and I like to focus on those things. Nature itself offers so much beauty and splendor and just like you said there are many people doing wonderful things all the time. I have this conversation with my husband all the time because he is good at finding and discussing all the evil in this world and it makes me that much more determined to point out the good. We really are so much more blessed than we realize.

hi Kprofgames yes its a great place to vent and I also was venting as that discussion for a moment depressed me and stress is something I try to avoid because I have diabetes and stress shoots up ones blood sugar as bad as a gallon of ice cream would. but I realize the person had the same rights as I do to vent his displeasure with some types of people.But I also have the right to say sometimes its good to look out see the sun shining and the sky all blue and some birds singing and feel happy from that. Sure it does not stop my problems or solve them but wailing and bemoaning do not solve then either.In fact when I am feeling happy I am more able to figure out how to solve the problems I have which are making two doctors visits , having blood work done, and having the dread colonoscopy as it first makes you spend hours in the bathroom then the actual procedure is painless. My real problem is procrastination so anyone here have any theories as how to lick it? I will start with the blood work and then go from there.One big problem is each trip now will cost me round trip seven dollars and thirty cents a raise from five dollars and forty cents. Now I will have to do that for blood work, for two doctors visits then the colonoscopy and the return to the doctor for results of the damned colonscopy too. but my health demands it so I will have to to do it.

Is it's great to look around us and see something happy instead of negativity. And thank you for that now actually. It is a great reminder to look at something more positive or to see the beauty in something. Like now looking outside at this snowstorm that hit us last night. A lot of people have complained today about it but all I see is a Normal Rockwell picture in it all.

hi when I read this it reminded me of way back I must have been fitee or so and we lived on a farm in South Dakota. We had had some really heavy snow storms that buried our orchard. I remember standing on top o the snow drifts ang realizing that the trees were probably at least twelve feet tall so we had some huge drifts and I laughed as I stood on top;of apple trees and plum trees buried beneath all that snow. It really was a beautiful scene., Also it was a very hard winter too. Nature is beautiful b t she can be pretty harsh too. lol

hi yanzalong and echoforever well I live here in Gold crest and I guess maybe the atmosphere here is on the whole pretty peaceful and most people here do try to help each other so there is some respect for self and others.So its quiet and peaceful so maybe that does rub off on me too.As I do not react negatively towards most people here in Gold Crest and certainly not to my many friends here in Mylot either. Most things talked about here are positive things

Your surroundings also influence how you behave. If one lives in area where most people like shouting, one will grow to have such bad attitude, right?

Its how we are treated and learn to treat otehrs. In cities others tend to be in a rush so I think it effects a lot of things including relationships with other human beings.

hi inertika I sometimes post some rants and they are also negative byut thats okay too as thats what mylots herr for to let us express ourselves.,

rtia yes a lot of people have become greedy and selfish They also get grumpy and post about the kinds of people they hate. It got me down as I like to think about things I like instead as I have enough of my own troubles and do not want to dwell on them all the time.I know some people do see the good in others and do post about it so I must search for more positive views on things.

I think the ones that do post somewhat negative stuff here are doing it to get that stuff off their chests. I sometimes write about my evil ex and what she did. But I try to be as neutral as possible on any of my sites.

hi bluedoll I made a discussion like t hat awhile back and got scolded so much by people who are in real trouble with financial' problems and health problems that I had to cringe to write my comments back. They seemed to forget that I too had had my own share of troubles and the reason I am here in a retirement center is because we were made homeless four years ago when my son lost his job.We were evicted and had no place to live. So I ededd up here.So I have had m own share of hurt and pain and sorrow.B t I am grateful I am alive, I am feeling well, I have a great son and a wonderful best friend, I am safe here, I am loved. and yes life is oka as the sun is shinning and the sky is blue and the birds are singing.

Yes Bluedoll. Focusing on the negative all the time just breeds discontent.

I know what you meant in the original post uptop. If we always focus on the dislikes it is like focusing on the pain and it only makes it worse but if we can work around the dislikes and find what we like it is much better though I understand too that sometime we all have to get it figured out or tell someone about what is bugging us. I agree it is better to be thankful for what we do have then to feel lousy about what is wrong with our life.

hi aja I have to try to keep positive as I have diabetes and if I'let stress really get to me it can raise my blood glucose level dangerously high.So I do try to be positive and at times I miss 'my best coach my hubbie who left me in 1 991 bound for heaven of course as he was a good kind loving man. He was a cockeyed optimist who never felt negative about anything. A ha py person to live with and I was a foil so that when some things had to be seen too I reminded him that even positive thinkers will run into real problemd and have t o solve them.

Having diabetes is very difficult, it is difficult to manage, you have to be careful with your diet and level of activity. Do you take maintenance medications consistently? It's great to have an optimist friend or partner, they keep us motivated. I am a little envious of people who can always think positively, it's hard to do when we are in difficult situations.

You can always cheer yourself up or turn to friends and family for support. That's good. Haha, my father should be like you. he doesn't exercise at all because he states that he gets cramps afterwards and they are very painful, that's what he said.

hi blackrustyh Good for you. I too try to keep myself cheerful'as nobody else but my self can really make me happy.I also have plenty of problems but dwelling on them does not solve them. And to keep my self really healthy I try to be more positive. I know there are many wrongs in our world and I wish I could change them all but I cannot. But I can be a friend to those around me, and give a smile here and there and maybe cheer someone up for awhile. I have my dislikes too but does airing them really help anyone or solve anything? I really do not think so.

we all wish we could change the world and we can together but it will all take time till then baby steps

hi bl ack rusty yhes in small baby steps we can do some things to make tjhe world better.

I inherited a sense of optimism from my dad. I DO complain, but in private because no one wants to hear me! My ex doesn't know how to be happy; sadly, I think he learned it at his mom's knee. And while I was with him, I found myself the same way! Now we've been apart nearly ten years, and while I've had some rough times, I've realized that they were MY doing, not anyone else's. I think that's a lot of people's problem-they are quick to blame everyone else, but don't take responsibility for their own actions. I'm trying to reduce my stress too-it's terrible for my MS. I was going to try yoga,and maybe meditation. I hear those are great stress-busters.

hi scorpiobabes You of all people if you wished could complain like crazy ut I have never seen you do much of that.Ornery is a great word and makes me think of my dad as he spent so much time being bitter and leery of people's intentions, he did not trust any one and I alw ys vowed I would never let myself get bitter when old as it sours a person's mind and spirit.OH love that last sentence hh ha members of congress good one.As I havew diabetes I now do try to keep as free from stress as I can as it can shoot my blood sugar way up too high,[

hi saundryl yes the media usually gives ujs all the murderss and stuff likke that lol,I think maybe we go in sp urts here with rants and with happy ones and thats really okay too.

I think youre right.

hi CelticEagle I realize that a whole lot of things are not going well in our world and it has left many of us with negative feelings. But I have also been through the tough times when our world turned upside down and we had no place to call home,my son out of work and all I had was a small social Security check. However we got me in here at Gold Crest and finally my son is now working full time so for us things are much better though they did not turn just as we would have liked. Now I am just saying I have to keep fairly cheerful as otherwise stress will shoot up my blood sugar to dangerous levels much worse than eating something sweet.My son told me a job now is a job so he too it although he just makes half of what he made before as a computer programmer . He is doing electronic repair for fifteen dollars an hour but as he said its work and its a paycheck. So he too is now being positive as its a hell of a lot better than being homeless on the street being shoved from one shelter to another as you can only stay in a shelter for a week.

That's great that he is working full time now. Stress is no fun. I live with it daily. I wish I was stronger. Fifteen dollars an hour is nothing to sneeze at. I was happy when I finally got a job at nine dollars another and it took me three years to bring that up to eleven. That is a woman with nothing but a highschool educatiion. I was homeless for afew days once and that was enough for me. My daughter was with me and it was VERY stressful. You have been through a lot. Keep your sunny side up!

hi ikfa I am surew lot of ys are dong that now days as the economy is pretty bad now days in the US. Myh state California is second in the nation with highest nmbers of unemployed now.

hi much2say and echo yes I have been there and done that as i am just as human as anyone else. but four years ago our life turned up side down and we felt like we had been struck by a run away train. my son was laid off, I hssd retired so was not getting anything bu t social security and we got behind on the rent., we were evicted and made homeless. I am not going to even try to explain all we went through For one thing it will make me cry and I do not do that any more. So now I have to think of m diabetes and keep happy and think positive as stress raises my blood sugar dangerously high.

I've seen it as a trend more recently. I think that is just what it is, a trend. It is easier to focus on negative things this is true. i don't know why but its the way most of us as humans are.

I think this is true, disliking is easier and requires less thought, more just an urge or impulse.

Hi sweetie. I would say impulse. It is by now so into us to just dislike something or someone without giving them or it the benefit of a doubt. Such a bad trait in the human race.