How do you think of the extramarital affair

I believe that most marriages start out to be faithful and loving and loyral unions. Extramarital affairs don't even ntr he pictre. We neveknow when temptation will enter in. It is not something we always bring to the marriage. Many times we are not asking for it or expect it to happen to us. Once it does happen it ffects the relationship of the married couple. Sometimes we can turn it around. Sometimes it is too much to handle and the marriage ends. Even when the couple stays together the relationship is not what it was before. It has to make a change.

Hi there Janebaby! Extramarital affair is indeed a sensitive topic because it is more people are getting involved in one and it would be different from case to case that it would seem that we are being judgmental or insensitive if we will express how we feel about it. Some may get offended but the thing is that no matter what the reason behind one is, it's still wrong. I am one of those people who believe in the essence of marriage. I don't think that it is just a piece of paper and I value the vows that the husband and wife exchange. There are different reasons for extra-marital affairs. Some might say that they fell out of love or about something that they do not like about their spouse. some may say that they just got carried away by their emotions or the situation they are in, some may even say that they are doing it for money or material benefits, some people may get in one for pure lust, some may even be in one because of love. Whatever the reason it, it hurts people.

It is common story for me. As a child i have lost a family because a woman came in between my father and mom. My mom asked my dad to choose and he has chosen the woman. So it is sensitive topic for me. Cheating is a sensitive issue. I was cheated on by an ex as well but yeah we were not married but we would have been have it not for him finding another woman to be with him while we were still together. For me... i feel that these men does try to cheat because they might have found freedom and felt more manly on doing so. I think some women cheat because they felt important in another man... i do not know why or probably there are no such reasons... some people just find themselves in situations they can no longer get themselves out of.. probably started from supposedly harmless flirting and everything follows. For me i really do not think i would be able to tolerate a man who would have extra marital affairs... if he is my husband i will not give him another chance. No way will he hurt me the same way my dad hurt me and our family. And my current bf knew that.

If we talk or social norms extra marital affairs are not acceptable or considered a bad act. A very sensitive topic because everybody is against it but in reality some are doing it. In every persons life, things and events happen, we asked our selves why these things happen. So the bottom line is why does extra marital affairs occur in a married couple. Reasons that we may not understand, and reasons that may readily see between the lines. But one thing for sure, cheating happens when one individual becomes insensitive and becomes a different person to his or her partner. There are people who change personalities when they are married. Conflicts will readily arise, prompting the other to seek refuge to someone who can make his or her safe and loved. If there is no love between a married couple and the reason of conflict is all about money then the incidence of extra marital affairs is high. The problem with all of us, we are like chameleons, we have the ability to hide, and promote our good personality to the one we are courting, but when we have finished our mission and we married the person, and live with them for a couple of years, we project our true self, which is much different from the time you first met. People engaged in this affairs doesn't necessarily mean they are after the money, but these individuals are seeking refuge from the torment they suffer especially those women who are tormented by drunkenness, rudeness, aggression of their husband.

Yes a very sensitive topic, but can't be avoided, since more and more people are involved in this issue. For me, if you actually committed to such relationship such as marriage, you must and willfully stay true and faithful to it. Be responsible enough to be that way instead of doing things that you might regret in the end. I hope I made sense.

I do believe that extramarrital affairs are something that is quite common around here. I know of several people that have cheated on their spouses and most of the time they are not really able to give any kind of reason for cheating on their spouse. However, I do know of one reason that people might fall into this kind of situation in their lives and that reason is that I do believe that there are times that we are not happy with the way that things are in our relationships and we want something more, but we also don't want to leave the security that we have in the relationship that we've been in for a long time.

Hello Janebaby I think that extramarital affaires are very dangerous for the innocent side. Having an extramarital affair may be very irresponsible and many innocent people can be hurted and damaged, specially children and wives. If I love my family the least that I´d like to do is to hurt and damage them. Blessings Janebaby... dainy

I don't have any answers about it. I know it's wrong and don't understand why people do it. It would be a deal breaker for me. Any person I'm seeing starts seeing another person and I'm done.

practically speaking extramarital affairs is common not just on my side but to everyone I know and it hurts me to know that a friend or an acquaintance is affected by this extramarital affairs.I think this happens unexpectedly to some because they can't believe that their partner can do such things.To some it may come as natural because they knew that they can't get anything good if they commit themselves to a married person.I once saw an interview of a wife she didn't know that her husband has another woman until that day of the interview.The girl being interviewed cried when she found out that day that her husband was not that faithful to her.She said I felt I wasn't complete at all that's why he looked for another woman.The shocking part was when the wife knew that her husband has a child with the other woman.The other woman on the other hand did not know that the guy that she is with is already married and so the other girl broke down to tears too and that is on live tv.The culprit the man that has two wives appeared at the backstage and went to the studio himself he did not liked what he saw the two women in his life now crying.He said sorry to both girls but I think its hard accepting that apology the crowd went quiet and the persons involved did not say a word till its commercial time ahahha

I am bitter against extramarital affair,maybe I'm a completist.I can't figure out why so many people like to have another affair,why can't they keep their promise that they will love their mates for all their lives.I don't get married now but I hope I can have a ideal marriage.