..a new born baby girl dumped into a garbage bin?
By subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
India
February 23, 2013 12:05am CST
Hey guys, very recently there was a news in our city that took every one by surprise. The news was that a new born baby girl was found dumped in a garbage bin and she was crying for help. She was found in a very bad condition with flies and dirt on her body and some of her body parts found injured may be the dogs or cats had attacked her while being in the garbage bin.
I got tears in my eyes when i saw the news and could not control my outburst that day. Reportedly, the father were not happy with the birth of the baby girl due to which her mother decided to dump her fearing his husband's wrath. She was not from a good family and hence his father thought that she might be a burden for the family. Both are responsible for this mess and i do not understand whether these guys have brain and heart or not. Such a bad news that cannot be tolerated in the society. This is not the single case in fact many such news have been coming up very often in the news. They r either found dumped in the garbage bin or in the drains. Such heartless people with cheap mindset!
What are your thoughts regarding this guys? How would u react on this? Why r girls made soft target always? What was the fault of that baby girl? Please do share your thoughts?
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Feb 13
There was alos a similar incident that happened here in our country a few weeks back. Well, it is most likely that the baby's mother was a young woman. And I also felt bad watching the news about it. How can they ever do such a thing when there are people who wants to have a baby and yet could not.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
26 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. M shocked to hear that such an inhuman incident happened in your country as well. yeah the lady was young but she could have defended herself from her husband and gone against his wishes n could have accepted that child. But this is not the way to throw a little life in the dustbin. if they r not ready to accept a child then why do they borne it.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
26 Feb 13
The woman you were referring to must be so dependent on her husband that she have never thought of what harm she has done to the child and what she was just thinking about is the anger of his husband. That is what happens when a woman allows herself to be just a housewife. She becomes too independent and does not know how to defend herself. She has lost her self-esteem and her correct reasoning.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Feb 13
Yes u are absolutely right, this is the problem with most of the Indian ladies who sacrifice their own freedom and do whatever their husband says to do. This is the only reason that lady forgot to realize that by agreeing to her husband she was going to commit to heinous crime. I think such ladies have no self esteem and conscience.
@ruchadhawal31 (228)
• India
24 Feb 13
Oohh poor girl.. how can people be so rude? How can they throw their own child in a dustbin just because she is a girl? What was her fault? They are doing such a big sin. Hate these peoples. May god give that girl a bright future
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
26 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, i do not know why people can be so heartless that they r throwing their own child in the dustbin. Giving birth to a child, be it male or female child is one of the most special moment in a couple's life and they cannot just lose away such a moment by doing like this. Yes even i wish that girl has a bright future.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
23 Feb 13
I getso discouraged and aggravated to hear news of newborn babies being dumped off, especially in the garbage. It is as if to say that the baby is just being thrown away like a bag of trash. Something to be disposed of and never seen again. I think that people that would do this to a bew born baby or to any child should be punished to the extent of the law. What is really frustrating is to find that it was a parent that committed such a crime. How can a parent be so cruel to their own child? These people are not deserving to be a parent when they think so little of a child's life.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
26 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, even i get discouraged and emotional after hearing such news and that too in an era where we should not have been expecting such cheap acts by the people. This is so much against the law. These people are simply taking all the decisions of their own and r not thinking anything about the fate of that child.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
26 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, this is a serious thing that needs to be tackled as soon as possible. I think deciding gender by the parents is not an encouraging thing and all couples should accept whatever gift they r receiving from the Almighty. This is not the solution to choosing a child on one's own wishes.
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@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
poor little angel, well seeing that kind of incident about innocent babies being dumped into the garbage especially newborns is really sad and heartbreaking for me too. it makes me cry just to see such kind of violence being to done to babies. well, both parents definitely have no heart to be able to do such a thing. good thing the dogs or cats have not killed the innocent baby. hopefully she is ok now and let us pray for her recovery and that she will be in good hands soon..i only wish for a good life and future for this innocent angel. god bless her!
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
27 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, it is such a heart wrenching story and even i got emotional after hearing this piece of news. Never in my wildest dreams i had thought that such thing could even happen now. i feel so bad for that poor child who came to this world with so many hopes but was dumped for no reasons.
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@sporwal (92)
• India
24 Feb 13
thats really a awful thing and seriously i have no idea why people still have preference for boys only? leaving a baby girl on here fate to die is wrong. it was the parents who bought her to this world and if they do not have capacity then either leave her to an orphanage but in a way killing her i shameful.
above all the most shameful thing is that still in our country we have darn lots of people with such a mentality for girls. and seriously i have no idea what should be the actual reaction as in a way the parents are culprits so a punishment or what.
god knows, i can just pray she is well and hope i get to hear of no more cases like this.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, even i do not understand if the parents feel incapable of parenting a child then they should dump this way because by doing this they r doing the most heinous crime on the earth. They have no right to decide whether to dump or not. The problem with most of the people in our country is the mentality associated with the birth of girls.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 13
When a lady gets pregnant she could be expecting a baby boy or a baby girl. Both genders should be thought of as equal. Adoption is a possibility for a lady that doesn't want her newborn baby. Then she or he can go to a loving couple that will be good parents.
It upsets me greatly that the husband didn't like the gender of their baby so dumped her in a garbage bin. The mother was extremely wrong to be involved with that. This sort of thing amounts in my mind to murder. Some ladies have a gender scan during pregnancy around 16 to 20 weeks. Then they can have an abortion if the baby is the wrong gender. Well, that mindless kind of person can do that.
Personally I like baby girls and think nothing is wrong with them. Having a baby son is just as lovely.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes even i agree to your point that discrimination should never b done, as u have mentioned about the illegal scanning of the babies, it has been going on secretly which is so much against the law. i do not know how the gender of a baby has to do anything with the society or a family, babies are themselves messenger of the Almighty.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 13
hi subhojit I just read another discussion where the couple have been married 8 years and still cannot conceive so when I read yours I felt furious with the mother and father who dared to throw away a precious newborn baby. Do not they know that they can take it to any fire station or police station or to any
American Hospital and ask for them to put the baby up for adoption so either they are really stupid or do not live here in the US. Surely they could have taken the baby to any Church and the people there would call the authorities to take the child for adoption.
Also I would think any police station or hospital would take the child so it would be taken care of. most people love little babies and will see it was taken care of and found a home for it..
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, even i had responded to that discussion where the couple had expressed their desire to adopt as well but see what the fate of that girl is, she was dumped for no fault of hers. I wish if she was born to those couple who are not able to have a child. These people r simply ignorant and uneducated who dump their children into dustbins.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
27 Feb 13
It is not the fault of that baby girl, except both of her parent. Her father is a traditional male chauvinist that insist on his wife to have a baby boy instead of a baby girl to satisfy his old and antiquated idea of a male dominance belief system. While her mother had failed to live up her motherly duty to protect her new born baby girl from this old and backward male dominance idea of her husband and decided to dump the baby girl with garbage with the intent to kill her rather than leave her to an orphanage house. Both are just as sick as the other and deserve to have each other inside Indian prison for a long, long time. It is the worst of humanity for a parent to dump their unwanted baby into garbage bin and treat her like a piece of trash. It is a very disgusting and callous act on the part of parent.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
1 Mar 13
There are always number of ways for unwanted baby to be given away instead of throw in the thrash bin n let to die. She can always be taken to an orphanage house, a government child welfare agency, adoption center, etc...get ready for adoption by couple that can not conceive, having infertility issue, and desire to have big family. Baby girl should has every right to live as well as a baby boy, it is the duty of every government to see that she is not dispose of like a piece of garbage waiting to die in a trash bin by callous parent for convenience sake, but rather should be compel to seek out for help /advice to get her adopted by couple and childless family in or outside the country. What say??
Thank for the best response, it is appreciated.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
3 Mar 13
Yeah of course, there so many ways as u had mentioned but unfortunately many people, i think almost all r not aware of such ways. These uneducated n pervert people only know of dumping the girl child without even giving a single thought. there r so many couple on this earth who r not able to produce a baby and this could b solution to them. But alas nothing tangible is happening.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, what an inhumane and callous act by the parents who did that ghastly act. I feel like putting them under the bars as i am sure the Govt wont interfere in this matter. Both the parents are responsible for this and they deserve to know how it feels like abandoning someone like this.
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@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
I believe that the parents of this baby is in deep scarcity that's why they left the baby in the garbage bin.But this should not happen if they think a hundred times on how to raise the child.There are institutions that they can go to to ask for assistance in raising their baby instead of leaving the baby in the garbage.If the father doesn't want another burden in their family they should have thought of that in the first place before they engage in acts that can make them have a baby.It is not a burden to me to have a baby it's God's gift to them.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, just by dumping her the parents have done the biggest mistake and they could have taken other ways as well. They could have taken the help of certain institutions who r taking care of the abandoned children. A child is a messenger of the Almighty and we have no right to dump them without caring about their future.
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@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
23 Feb 13
Stories like this upset me so much and I hear about it all the time. It brings tears to my eyes as I read that. If people don't want their baby, why not give it up for adoption give it to people who can't have kids or who are having trouble having kids, and would love to be parents and adopt. Like me and my husband. Why toss your baby that you just gave birth to, in the garbage. For it to have dirt thrown on it, for bugs to crawl all over it and for animals to attack and hurt. How could anyone just do that to a baby. I'd say those people are monsters and they deserve to have the same treatment given to them. That poor baby. Were they able to get it some help and did they found the mother who did this too the baby.
I know here when a mother gives birth and they are scared and they don't want the baby but they feel like they have no were to go. Then they can just drop the baby off at the fire station, no questions asked. They can drop it off at the fire house door and ring a doorbell and can walk away. They don't have to know where they went or who they are. I think that is a good idea and should be done everywhere. Because before here, there were women throwing away their babies all the time and it was so sad. Now that they had that passed here, less and less women are throwing away their babies.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, such people are nothing but monsters who cannot respect their child and dump them according to their wish. As u have suggested, i think it is the best idea, if couples r not willing to continue with the baby then they can just drop off at safe places and then those children would be taken care of properly.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
25 Feb 13
This is the sick mentality of people. Today in the world when girls are almost equivalent to the boys in every field still people think them to be burden what a strange thing?. I have daughter and a son but me and my wife love our daughter more than a son.We never ever differentiate between them. This is really sad that still such incidents take place in our country.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, i am proud of u that u have never differentiated between your two kids and i hope parents should take note of this. I feel bad for all those poor girls who get heavily biased just because of their gender. This is the age when girls have proved that they r on par with the boys.
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@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
That is really terrible. It is really kind of sad. The parents are heart less. I think they have no God. They are responsible for the baby. I pitied the baby. She is a victim of this cruel world. Anyway, God will not abandon her if her parents did. Surely, they will be punished. Judgment will be done by God and they will be accountable for what they did to their baby.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
28 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes i agree to u on this that, although she might have been abandoned by her parents but the Almighty is there to take care of her. the parents have done the biggest mistake of their life by disowning her this way, i am sure she will have a colorful life ahead. God is there for her.
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@kiepher (55)
• Philippines
23 Feb 13
For me, who loves my son so much, I condemn people who are killing or disowning or throwing their unborn and newborns. So heartless creatures. There can never be any excuse in doing this. Such a failure.
I was ditched by my ex boyfriend after knowing I'm carrying his child, but despite of this, it never came to my mind disowning my son.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
27 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, such heartless creatures do not deserve to be in our society at all. Those who can dump their kids can go to any extent if given a chance. They r such a failure and a shame for the entire society. i feel so bad about u but at the same time hats off to your guts that u continued to go with that child. Shame on your ex boyfriend as well, he lost a sweet heart in you n your baby.
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