My father passed away and thy lied to me!
@extremefun4fun (2908)
India
February 25, 2013 3:16am CST
As my previous discussion and recieving call from my mom regarding health of my father, right an hour ago I heared from my sister that my father few days ago has been passed away and still my mother and aunt says to me he is in the hospital but not able to speak!
I just cry so much as I am far from my country and I could not get even chance for asking forgiveness from my father, as even he could not still know who is my husband and how he is!
I have just hurt so much and I do not know what to do, I even have no mood to do anything .
8 responses
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
25 Feb 13
Sorry to hear that, maybe they dont want you upset. And want to tell you in person rather than on the phone. They must have a good reason for this.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
26 Feb 13
I understand your point, but they are right as well. They wanted to tell you in person so they could comfort you. Im so sorry for your loss. Take care.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
26 Feb 13
Their reason according to them was that they did not hurt me as I am alone and far.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
I am so sorry to hear that your father has indeed passed away already. And to think that your father let you believe that he is still in the hospital.
Calm yourself. Maybe you should try to go home to be able to see your father for the last time. Your husband will understand your grief.
My condolences my friend.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
25 Feb 13
Thank you to share your feeling with me. with nice people like you I do not feel that I am that much alone. Thanks again.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
25 Feb 13
We are very sorry to hear about sudden demise of your father. May his soul rest in peace and May God give you the courage to bear this loss.
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
25 Feb 13
I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you. I'm sorry your family didn't tell you right way but maybe the kept it from you til they knew how to tell you or until you were there in person. Sometimes giving bad news over the hone or internet isn't good so they want to do it in person. Can you go to see your dad one more time? Just don't be upset with your family as i'm sure they meant well.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
26 Feb 13
I just want to go, I request so much to my husband, I hope he let us to go, till I do not cry there on his grave, till I do not touch it and do not share my feeling there, I will not feel alright.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Feb 13
That really is a shame that your mother decided to hide the truth about what had happened to your father. I can't begin to understand why she had decided to do that to you because I know it is certainly not something that I would ever do.
I'm so sorry to hear that your father has passed away and I'm really sorry to hear that you are never going to be able to have the chance to make your peace with your father. I hope that you are able to get through everything okay.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
26 Feb 13
Thank you so much, I just called to my mother after hearing reality from my sister, I made the question how she could do that to me? she said she wanted to tell me but my aunt advised her to not tell her becase she is alone there and had small baby, she will hurt and cry it will affect her baby and nobody will take care of her there, we are all together here, but if she get ill with this sorrow then nobody is there to help her. that is what they answered me, but it hurt me too much as I had the right and my best to run to my father, to do a pray for him.. but now it is more than a week that he has left all of us.
@joanamarienieva (160)
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
Sad to hear that.. :(
Maybe your family don't want to you to be upset because you are far from them. They are thinking what you're gonna do when you know that your father passed away. I know its hard to understand why they did that but for sure they did that for you.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
26 Feb 13
Thank you. they have said they did that because they did not want to hurt me as I am alone and far from all.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
The best that you can do is to offer him a prayer. Talk to him as him he was just in front of you. I know that somehow he will know what you really want to tell him. Light a candle.
@giex22 (273)
• Cebu, Philippines
8 Mar 13
They didn't told you because they have reason why but i guess they don't want you to keep on thinking and worry so much and that you will be calm. it so happen also that you are far away from them and they don't want anything to harm you. As for now, settle a day to go home in your country and sure that your husband will understand what you feel and what would you want.
