Where do I draw the line?
By Goodbye
@WildHorses (718)
United States
February 26, 2013 6:38am CST
I know it's not my truck. This leaves me in a position where I can't do anything unless I ask. Normally there isn't a problem. All I did was ask if he could take a friend of mine and her son to Woodland, which is a 45 minute drive one way. The last thing I expected was the arrogance and defiance I never receive.
Naturally, my first thought was maybe the city is not in Sacramento County. If that were the case, and I did ask where it was, I would better understand the refusal. The worst part was when he wanted me to LIE as to why the answer was no. Why the hell would I lie when he knows full well that I won't lie for anyone.
I ended up feeling this big knot in my chest because I held back my anger when he ultimately gave me no viable reason for not going. I didn't care that I was being asked on short notice to go across the county three hours prior to being there. It's not like I was being asked to do something wrong.
When I pressed for a real answer, he shoots back at me, "I don't feel like going. I don't want to," as he was walking away from me. I saw the nasty look on his face and the tone of his voice was anger.
I bit my tongue at that point and I wish I hadn't. No one is allowed to talk me down ever. I don't care what the argument is about, or who they are. It made me sick to my stomach resulting in elevated stress affecting my heart rate.
If I blow up in his face and give an exact reason why resulting in being withdrawn, he suddenly becomes a wimp coming after me to not be angry. I don't want that either. I can't respect a man who caves in.
I ask, where do I need to draw the line before I feel like I'm being talked down to? I can't keep walking away resulting in long nights sitting on the computer to get rid of the stressed heart. Am I supposed to keep shutting up just because the sucker can't handle my anger? It's not who I am. I like being brutally honest; so why should that change just for one man?
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@WildHorses (718)
• United States
27 Feb 13
This is the second time I am trying to make this work. I will not give him a third chance if I walk away AGAIN.
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@WildHorses (718)
• United States
5 Mar 13
No sh*t, right? Since I wrote this, I feel like I'm just being antagonized still.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
Hi There! Whenever I have to control my anger, I get that feeling too, as if my heart would burst and I just need to let it out. This is maybe because of this that i am usually just talking back and won't shut up especially if someone did not tell me or did not make me understand the situation.
There are times i would just not talk, and often my bf would know if i am mad at him and then he would talk about the issue.
It really depends on you, on the situation and the approach of the person that we are talking to. If the person is talking too loud as if shouting at me, then i would immediately tell the person there is no need to shout... and then if he seemed arrogant, i would actually be defensive myself. I understand there are instances people are not aware they are raising their voice, etc and well they just had to be corrected.
If i feel i am being talked down to, i would realy blow up and make my point so he won't be doing that again.
@WildHorses (718)
• United States
27 Feb 13
I normally have a tendency to clam up but this time I didn't want to, yet he looked so pathetic that I just shut up. Why on earth should I have to do that? I would consider compromising but he doesn't even know how to follow that either.