Difference between "Loneliness" and "Solitude"

@maurya83 (923)
India
February 27, 2013 12:37pm CST
you may say that loneliness and solitude are two sides of the same coin, but experts say that there is a huge difference in the meaning of the two human conditions. While loneliness is negative, sad and undesirable, solitude is positive, serene and sought by most creative or meditative people. While loneliness separates us from family, friends and civil society, solitude unites us with all these and more through the peace and energy we receive while meditating or enjoying our personal pastimes. Everyone want some space, in other words "having solitude" sometimes but no one wants loneliness..
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@else22 (4317)
• India
28 Feb 13
A nice post indeed.Congratulations and thanks for giving us a chance to respond to it. I agree with your interpretation of the two seemingly synonyms.The comparison between the two words is just like that between the Sanskrit word 'Shunya' and the English word 'Zero.'If you consult dictionary,the meaning of both the words is 'Nothing.'But as Swamy Vivekananda had explained the words,zero means nothing whereas 'Shunya' is actually 'Everything.'I have to study Vivekananda deeply to understand clearly what he really meant. You are right.Solitude is positive whereas lonliness is negatve in nature.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
2 Mar 13
Thankyou else :) Good to know, you also like to read Vivekananda..word "shunya" is known as a synonym of "the universe" .In that way we can say, "shunya" means everything..
@else22 (4317)
• India
2 Mar 13
Yes,I love reading Vivekananda.I have a collection of his books.I agree with you that Shunya represents universe that encompasses everything.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
2 Mar 13
Seems you love reading and have a huge collection of books.. :)
@dollar3235 (2062)
• India
27 Feb 13
Good explanation of these two words! As the word "Solitude" is new for me, I checked the exact definition of this word and I find that it's not different loneliness, on this link, the definition which I find is completely different from what you've mentioned: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solitude
@maurya83 (923)
• India
27 Feb 13
I have explained on the basis of an article on human psychology..
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
27 Feb 13
Loneliness may has a tone of sorrow too. But solitude brings pleasantness of mind. For oft, when on my couch I lie In vacant or in pensive mood, They flash upon that inward eye Which is the bliss of solitude; And then my heart with pleasure fills, And dances with the daffodils. [William Wordsworth]
• India
28 Feb 13
Hi maurya83 and mohkanari, I find both of you suggesting that Solitude is a positive word, which is true. However, the definition which I've found on Wikipedia says that it could a isolation due to infectious disease, mental disorders, neurological disorders or circumstances of employment or situation. These reasons are certainly not positive. That's where my doubt is.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
1 Mar 13
There is a fine line between loneliness and solitude, although both are choices, we choose to be lonely and we choose to have solitude, it's whether they are chosen for the right reasons. Some say that man doesn't have the capacity to be alone, and needs stimulants and company and that no man is an island, but what if you enjoy being on that island, then it becomes solitude but it's temporary. Loneliness has a more permanent ring to it and has more of a negative stigma attached to it.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
2 Mar 13
You explained it beautifully, we need to balance the two things..
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
28 Feb 13
I meant an extravert once that told me if he was put in a room by himself to perform tasks, by the end of the day, he would be stuck to the ceiling, as he could not train himself to have the disipline to work alone. On the other hand being in a room with other people or perhaps even in a large city where a person feels negelected or singled out among others can be a very lonely experience. I do remember last year going to the grocery store in a very good mood and saying hello to some strangers. While outgoing people acknowledge a greeting, some do not. Two people I said hello to, completely ignored me as they had no desire to be friendly. In those times it pays to be intraverted or at least slightly intraverted perhaps?
@maurya83 (923)
• India
2 Mar 13
Hello bluedoll, I feel uncomfortable due to someone's presence while doing my daily chores or some hobby activities, at that time i need to be alone but i cant live without any interaction with someone a single day.. Some people take some time to be comfortable with someone and make friendship while some do it quickly, Its an art i think.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
4 Mar 13
have you seen the movie "cast away" ? The hero (tom hanks) cries for a football to which he used to talk when he was all alone on a island..
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
1 Mar 13
Loneliness and solitude have the same ingredient of being alone. Loneliness acompanies sadness and solitude has contentment. I think those are the main differences.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
2 Mar 13
thats what I said :) solitude means not being alone but being content with a sense of self..
@maurya83 (923)
• India
2 Mar 13
Yes, circumstances can be tough sometimes as its part of life, we shouldn't allow it to drive us..
• United States
2 Mar 13
Then I think we're both correct in saying so. I don't know what other differences there might be. Not being happy with your circumstances is a big one.
@savire (204)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 13
Well noob said the difference is quite simple because Solitude life does not always mean you're lonely xD. Please don't whack me for having this interpretation :) But I guess it's somewhat true. If we see super heroes movie most of them are living a Solitude life because they does not want peoples to know their identity but that does not mean that their everyday life are far beyond peoples so they are not lonely. They still got friends surrounds them. But when you feel the loneliness of being a Supreme ruler that's because you're surrounded by many peoples but it's seem something missing. Yes because it might be because you got bored. No one is a match for you. So simply speaking we can see that the word is clear in this context.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
2 Mar 13
Hello savire, won't whack you, couldn't understand it completely though ;) yes, being lonely does not means not having people around you, it means not having the person who understands you, to whom you can share your thoughts..
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
Thanks for pointing that out. I never have thought about it real deep. And I guess, at the back of my mind I thought that those two words are just one and the same. And now, contemplating on what you have posted, yeah, I can see now the difference. Solitude is making some time alone for yourself in thinking or doing important things but not necessarily being lonely.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
1 Mar 13
yes, solitude means not being lonely but being content..
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
Being in solitude does not mean being lonely. You can be in a crowd and still feel loneliness. I for one don't feel lonely whenever I am alone. I just keep myself busy. I have survived situations where I need to be alone but it has never infringed on my physical nor emotional well being. Perhaps, I am one of those people who can easily adjust to being in solitude should circumstances demand it. On the other hand, I have also experienced loneliness even when there are lots of people around. Oftentimes, this depends upon situations but we need to make the most out of everything and not succumb to loneliness as it might leave to the more serious depression.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
2 Mar 13
Hi yahnee, you are right keeping ourselves busy in some creative things is a good way to avoid loneliness, its an old saying, empty mind is the devil's workshop..