Must be nice to have no responsibilities

Wait , you work for the family, cooks dinner when you get home and nurse a puppy thAT your husband adopt? I mean you do of it by yourself? What about your husband? he just stays home? and have the guts to get a puppy and toss the responsibility on you. he is I think, excuse my words, self-centered, Yeah I get it he maybe upset about something but he has to lay the cards out to himself,too that youre probably tired from work and that hasn't recovered from what, have you had kidney surgery? ...anyways, you have to sort things out with him. Sit down with him and discuss things about apportionment of responsibilities. :)

I can completely see why you are so annoyed right now, I would be the exact same way if I was left in the kind of situation that you've been left in by your husband. Now my husband is the one in our family that works and I know that there are times that he does get annoyed with me because of the fact that I don't always get as much done in the house as I ought to during the day. However, I do make sure that he has something to eat in the evening and I really don't ask him to do much with the kids in the evenings either after he has gotten home from work.

Yeah. it is really nice not to have responsibilities, to sit around and just to wait for things get done at home!! Ha, this i think is what my brothers too must be feeling. When i come home i had to wash the dishes. they ate and they won't bother washing the dishes. =( I know how you are feeling and I understand how annoying that is. Maybe you can try to talk to him and tell him you are getting rid of the dog if he won't look after it, or train it so it'll pee and poop properly.

it sounds like you have a right to feel resentful, i sure would if i was in your situation.

It must have been so hard to be in that situation. I'm sure it's difficult for your husband to be a bum, and I know for sure that he always feels less important in his life. I guess you just have to take a break and let things cool down a bit between you and your husband.

i understand your feelings, i work all day and my husband taking care of our kids at home, we also have our dog but she is outside the house. its very tired to work all day then when you came home you will start washing dishes,washing clothes for my kids and feed them.sigh!

Sounds like he's upset about something (not you) but took it out on you so he could vent it. Grrrrr, I hate it when that happens. It was completely unfair to you. Put the dog on a collar and take it outside to him. At least you'd have the house in peace then.

Oh that is terrible of him to be doing this to you. I don't like it when men act this way. Its like they are regressing to childhood and having a temper trantum. This is when I know women are so much stronger then men. Let me tell you if it was him with the kidney stone problem he wouldn't be acting the way he is right now. He would not be able to handle it and he would be acting like a baby. Meanwhile you are the one who still got up to go to work with all this pain then comes home and has to deal with a man acting like a child. I would be angry at this point. He should be so happy he has no big responsibities in his life.

Maybe your husband had a bad day, and so he takes things out on you. It isn't right but happens. i do thik that since he wanted the dog, he should be willing to take care of it. I live alone, so all the responsibility falls on me for everything, but that is okay, as I like it that way, and when I have vistiores or my ex come, the dogs are my responsibility and no one elses, and I would never put the responsibility of taking care of them on anyone else. i do feel for you, though, as it has to be hard, as you are married, and he needs to share some of the responsibility, especially after you work all day, and are sore. He needs to be more compassionate and help you with things around the house. After all, marriage is 50/50, not 70/30 or anything else for that matter. I do hope for your sake that he comes to realize that he needs to help you around the house and not just walk away and stay away for hours. Take care!

Hello, poppoppop111! I hope you are feeling better by this time. And I can truly understand how you feel. Been there, done that. And it is frustrating to be constantly complaining and yet hubby doesn't care as he always thinks that it is MY duty to be in charge of everything in the house. This topic has gotten me to a lot of arguments over the years.

Hi Pop ! So sad for having this kind of partner making life heavier for you! He didn't bother to think about you , how tired you are from work . There are really people born so irresponsible and no care with his surroundings. If you keep on thinking in his gestures at home , it will only add pain to that kidney stones. So if i were you , i'd rather ignore that he existed . Don't give him that attention. Don't also nag or argue , you let him do what he wanted soon he will get tired with it. Enjoy life !

hi there.. Sometimes we really feel exhausted from work plus the condition (if have) that we are feeling is adding up to the situation. It sometimes irritates even when there is nothing to be irritated of. This is a part of everydays life, so you are normal if you feel like this. But dropping your responsibilities will not solve the problem. Being responsible is the one that makes you a real person, it only means that you care to the people you love. =)