How do you deal with people/family who hates your boyfriend/girlfriend?

i see this problem all the time and i even go thro it myself. my husband family doesnt really like me all that much and honestl i do not know why... this is he way he puts it to me.... if you want someones fmily to like them then you have to take them around them more. you have to give them a chance to get to know the person that you are with. your family isnt there all the time and they dont know how that person is or how great they really are. things like this take time and patience. the only reason we are unable to do this is because his whole family lives out of state....

this is a very common issue your not the only one many are not happy with who there kids are dating and they want the perfect person in the kids life but sad to say if we wait for the parents to approve you would be single for life

Separate but equal. I would keep them separated from each other but I would spend equally amount of time with them.I love them both but that doesn't mean they Have to love each other.

Invite them to family functions more....lol! Seriously, it could be that the family is seeing something that you are not because affection can have blinders on. I dated a person, eventually married them and then we got divorced. My family saw it. I sure didn't. I do think family and background (moral upbringing) has a lot to do with it. I did in my case. I don't regret our time together and still wish him the best but we are just to completely different people. It took a long time for me to see it but in the end my family was right. We just weren't the right one for each other.

when a friend or family members don't like my boyfriend, I would ask them plainly what they don't like about him. Then I weigh things. If they seems right then I talk with my bf to change that, but if they don't make sense i ignored them. Example, you're a college graduate, have a stable job, stable income. While your bf/gf is not a college graduate, no stable job, meaning no stable income. Then your family stand in the way. They should be because you see no future in your partner so let that gf/bf improves him/herself or leave them. Losing a love life is okay, but losing a family that's not okay.

it is normal to a family to makes first impression to our bf or gf because, they want to know a person better if she/he is true or really love you. try to understand them and talk to them about of what they can say about your bf/gf.

Hi there how are you doing? I have had this experience as most of my boyfriends before my mom don't like them in any case. I mean to her everything they do my mom would only see the negative in them n rather b than good things they do. What is usually do is just not let my mom see them. Hehe they are not seen and then there are no comments. At least though my mom is not letting me choose them or my family. Whew.

I could not say for everyone since it is true that other families have standards. They look for the mentioned standards to make sure that if ever the relationship goes into marriage and have a family you could support and stand on your own. Having a relationship is not a joke and it shouldn't be a trial and error. I had experiences that my lover was not accepted by my family. I talked to them about it. They gave me reasons. I gave mine. Since they love me they allowed me and since I loved them too I had been cautious and observant. Love is blinding.

Yep, some families have standards that they want to see when it comes in meeting your boyfriend/girlfriend. Most parents would want that person to be well-educated, college graduate, has a stable income, and most of all have a really big income. But these should be put aside since these can't only bring happiness to their daughter or son. Even someone who has dropped from school can be successful as long as he or she pursues it and also can prove that what he or she truly feels for their daughters or sons is true. It's ridiculous and unfair you would hate someone for just knowing their background that is not so good, I think everyone deserves a chance to prove themselves whether they are right for their daughters or sons.

I just think that your partner should just let your family feel that you are safe with your partner and that your partner should make them feel that he/she accepts your family as well. Respect is important.

I think it is not usual, well at least in my family, to hate our chosen bf/gf when they haven't even met them yet. And hate is such a strong word to use on someone that you or they don't even know that much. If my family ever tells me that they don't like my bf after meeting him, I will let them explain why they don't like him. I will listen with an open mind and see if they made any sense. They know me longer than the guy, and I might be too blinded with my feelings to the guy that I am sure that I might miss a thing or too that raises red flags on that person's personality. I will carefully see if they are right. If I ever decided that their fears are groundless or unreasonable, I will let them understand that he is nothing like that and to give him a chance. There is nothing that will sadden me more to see the people important to me are not on good terms.

Actually... you can't control people's point of view... and not all people understand. Especially family... all they want is your security and future.. that is why college degree is very important to them.. they're just being practical.... marriage without money will lead to everyday argument.. believe me... I've been observing couples in the past few months now... My advice is.... enjoy life... just dont take it seriously... but not to the point that you will cheat.. my point here is..explore life while you're still in relationship...

Well I can say I am lucky that my family supports my love life, lol :) When they meet my boyfriend in college, they actually have gone their first impression and sort of liking him from just the way he looked and talked to them. But if ever I will be on that particular situation where I have to defend my feelings and my partner to anyone, I would stand up for us and make them realize that it is not their life, but me. :)

well, I think those kind of family they hate the love of one, that they do not believe in love and kind of family like Indians who command to their son to marry on their will not his will... if somebody comes from that kind of background the best way is to leave your love one out of your life and not destroy anybody life when people from your family hate her or him and of course your love will suffer too much in that kind of life.... if someone is not belong to that kind of backgroud family who are not anty love... then maybe has reason for you family to not love him or her, maybe they see something wrong and understand is not match for you. but you can ask them why they hate him or her, and if they are wrong proof it by time and your patient.