Friends?? The heck!

then they are not friends. Friends are hard to find like diamonds but when you found the real ones, well you hit the jackpot.

I know exactly what you mean, nit. Only in my case it's relatives who are like that. My friends have all moved away or passed away. And I've lost touch with those who've moved. My fault. When I was younger though, those kinds of friends were abundant in everyone's life. I like your name for them - U&T. Very appropriate and clever. Those types are worthless and they are everywhere. When you do find a good friend you'll know. And just value that friendship for what it is. The others, well, I'm sure you're smart enough to see them for what they are and not let yourself be used. This is a good post, based on, I believe, a common problem. I've read similar ones before so I know most people know what you mean. False friends. People don't seem to know the meaning of friendship anymore. "Friend" has become just another word with no real meaning. Take heart, nit, not everyone is like that. You know 3 who aren't. We are like the 4 Musketeers. LOL

well, I still believe best friend is exist for everyone. I also realize that each of us have different activity that may not be easy to meet each other in some chances. I love my friends, even sometimes they're not for me when I'm in need. sometimes I remember moment when we'er together as sweet moment and hope to turn back the time to be together with them again

I think most people have an interest in themselves. If they do not there might be something wrong with them. Life is a give and take and certainly people that only care about themselves will show up as being selfish. From our viewpoint do you think friends should ask of us and if they do or always seem to be needy are not our friends? It is true in life we can give and give but not always do we get a return gift back but I believe if we do something good for someone else it might come back to us from a direction we are not suspecting.

For me that type of person not a friend. I have a friend like that before this. He borrowed my money and never pay me back. When i ask my money back he always use a words 'friends'. He make me as friend because i have a kind heart. I think he treated me like idiot. I always help him but he never help me.

your real friends will be there any time that you need them they will always be up for a night out or be a baby sitter when you and the love want to go out for the night on the town I have some of both and I am with you i hate the fakes

I must admit, there are times when I'm not a real friend too. I mean, not everybody can just leave everything to hear out a friend - many would think that's the responsibility of a "friend" but remember that we all have other more important responsibilities like our families. Unlike when we're younger (no family yet) we can spend all our time with friends, but as we grow older, set of priorities change and we wouldn't have time even to talk to our friends - but that doesn't mean that the friendship has ended. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

I won't call that friends, I would just call them, "people I know". Like if other people ask you who that person is, just shrug it off and say "Just someone I know". A friend won't leave you and won't use you for his or her gain. I mean the word in itself means you will stick by you and support you. I won't call people I just met friend. I would get to know them first of course rather than trusting them to be there completely, because in reality..they usually won't.

Hi nitinnair! That is the sad thing about this world. Seems that finding a true friend became harder. Because most people would think about their personal interest. In my situation, which I need to be transferred from one place to another, it is really hard for me to find a so-called real friend. But I consider everybody that I meet as friend. Although I cannot show anybody that she/he is special to me in any way. I just need to be fair in dealing with everybody. But I always see to it that I would attend to their needs if they ask me to. Have a great day!

Sorry to hear that most of your friends are the type whom you cannot totally depend on when you need them the most. But don't give up, you will still meet the ones that will totally accept you for who you are and will never abandon you when t is time that you are the one that is needing some help.

I also hate such kind of people. They are not real friends. They do business. A real friend means who stays always with us even we are in trouble, they are called true friends. I have few friends like those. I am to such a kind of friends. Having true friend means I am really lucky. I also treat them in the same way.

well, some people like that can't be categorized as friends. they just some people that unfortunately interact with you. You just haven't realize your true friend yet, someone who's always beside you. Friend doesn't always make you happy, but they'll make you comfort just being you are.

a real friend is one who helps you in your bad situations and all. and in this era finding a true friend is really realy hard. just picutre friends as a galaxy and pciture the moon as a true friend and the stars as fake friends and picture yourself as somewhere in the middle. and you can see we are surrounded by fake friends who use us for their help and wont even turn their headwhen we ask for their help. and to find a true friend its very bvery rare. its like finding a pin inside a huge pile of sand and its quite impossible and the peple who are so damn lucky enoguh will only find it. and i believe there will be a time for you. even Im experecing the same situation like you. surrounded by a lot of fake friends they asks me for help and when i does what they tell they wont even notice me. that life. experience is the best teacher. well i clearly beleive that we both will have a time when we both will find a good friend till then wiat. may be god is teaching us patience

I know many of your so called U & T friends. Even if we have a big circle of friends its not necessary that everyone will help us in need there will be only a few who would atleast think about it. But everyone has a best friend with whom they share everything. The old saying A friend in need is a friend indeed is true.

True friends sometimes are hard to find, those friends who would stick to you through thick and thin. Just like you said, some people pretend to be your friend. Those people who are there with you or befriend you if they thought that by doing so it would be in their favor. These people we call opportunist.

Such is life's harsh reality. But maybe you can turn that into a good situation. You can still be a good friend to them even if they're not being one to you. Be there when they need you, help them if they need help, and just keep on doing them good even if sometimes you feel like you are not being appreciated because loving them without expecting anything in return will make you a better person. And maybe someday they will realize that you are a treasure to be cherished. The one true friend they never had in their whole lives, and it could change the way they look at friendship. Just try.