How do you feel about grandparents having to raise their grandchildren
By bjc66bjc
@bjc66bjc (6730)
United States
February 28, 2013 7:11pm CST
either because the parent(s) are unfit, incarcerated, or what ever
the reason might be..I think its a blessing when children have
their grandparent to raise them...the only problem is that some
grandparents are just able to take care of themselves...and to
add young chidren to them is just not fair...However I am sure
most of them would rather care for their grandchildren than to
let them be split up and go into a government system,,
How do you feel mylotters...
5 responses
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
1 Mar 13
I think it depends on the grandparents and their age. My parents are in their early 70s, in good health and saved up so that even though my Dad retired over 10 years ago they should never need money, they could raise one of my kids and my mom would love that, I know they are the exception not the rule though.mmany grandparents by their early 70s are not in good health for various reasons and do not save when they are younger and rely on the government to provide, which means they barely survive. If a gran aren't is willing, has the money and in good health I have no issues with them caring for a child. They should, however, always be given the option and NOT be made to feel guilty if they just can not do it.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
1 Mar 13
hi sedel, thanks for your feedback..I totally agree no
gtandparent should be under stress to take care of raising
a grandchild.
Thank God my daughter is still here with my 2 grandsons and
I hope she is here enternity,,But neither would ever let
my grandchildren get mixed up in the government system...
savings or no savings....
@savire (204)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 13
Hi All,
I think that happen in most countries because it's expected that grandparents will be able to help taking care of their grandchildren while the parents working. It happen with my sister who got married first and having a child.
But there's some problem there because my Father still doing his business outside and he love it. From one side I understand that my sister expected him to do the caring so that she can focus on her work at the office but in the other hand I understand that by doing some work my Father could gain some activity so that he won't be bored.
Well to be honest I does not really want to side with either one. So I suggest them to find a solution their self. Because it's hard to decide when things goes like this.
@priyaxxx85 (108)
• India
3 Mar 13
There can be various reasons for grandparents having to raise the kids. I think it's a good idea, because kids get a wonderful chance to be loved and taken care of by their grandparents, which helps to keep the family together. Also if both the parents are working, grandparents can easily raise the kids, and even the parents won't have to worry.
@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
1 Mar 13
I was lucky to be raised by my grandparents.It happened because my mom was working abroad and I have no one to take good care of me.My mom and dad was separated even before I was born and yeah I did not even know who my dad was.I only see him on pictures.Being raised by my grandparents is a blessing to me because I got the chance to be with my grandparents and feel their love for me.I was their first grand daughter so just imagine the love and care they gave me.I wasn't raised a spoiled brat even though I was the first grand daughter.They taught me how to show respect and courtesy to every person.And even though my mom is away they never forget to tell me to love my mother more than anyone else.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
1 Mar 13
It depends upon the circumstances and the reason why the kids cannot stay with their own parents. Also, the health and financial condition of the grandparents must be taken in consideration. Are they still strong enough to drive the kids to school? Able to cook and wash for them? To discipline them? Do they have enough money to pay for the bills and the additional caring of the grandchildren?
I know that as family, they will want to take the responsibility especially if the kids have nobody else to turn to.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
1 Mar 13
for me it all depends on the grandparents if they still want to take care of their grandchildren.. it is their choice.. and it will also depend on their age and health if they are still capable of taking care of their grandchildren.. it they are old enough they should not be forced to take care a child because raising a child is really stressful... grandparents should be just relaxing and enjoying their life..
