do we demand too much of first borns,and baby the last child?

I can't say I put a lot of demand on my children or more pressure on the eldest one. But I do think I did invest way more in the eldest one, she was my first. The more children you get the easier you have to live to manage. Treating each child the same way is impossible since they are not the same!

Right now, we only have one child, but I can see us expecting more of him and less of any younger children we may have, because it is easy to see him as bigger and older.

I try to treat my kids equally. But of course, my eldest son needs to help me in teaching his younger siblings how to be good children and also he is the person I rely on looking over them when I am not around. The youngest, well, yes. I am guilty of giving him more attention coz I feel that he needs more of me all the time.

That's really not the case. It is just a myth that we see the elder kid as the role model and stuff. Yes, They have the responsibility, but then, it is purely on them and parents do not push them harder on that. Being an younger kid, I have always had problems with my parents giving too much priority over things to the elder one. It is been the same from childhood and I am used to it by now that anything is new, it goes to the elder one and the younger one is almost always ignored to even being considered. Parents treat us like we do not know anything and we can never handle anything. We are always made to use the things that our elder one's had already used. Even after we grow up, everything continues that way, and when we question, the answer that we get is, he/she is used to getting all new things, you need to adjust being the small kid. 90% of our lives go on adjustments.